What influences the order of names in a couple?

girl_dee · 05-18-2011, 07:53 PM

Well I can tell ya it's always bugged me that the " male " is always listed first on formal documents.

Tcountry · 05-18-2011, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by sassy_girl

Well I can tell ya it's always bugged me that the " male " is always listed first on formal documents.

That links back to the "old days" where the male was the head of the household and therefore more formal documents recognize that...

Most of the time I just go with what flows better...or like others have said who I have known longer.

Andrea · 05-18-2011, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Tcountry

That links back to the "old days" where the male was the head of the household and therefore more formal documents recognize that...

During the 90's while working for a mortgage company, I had a closer (the person who drew up the closing documents) insist it was the law that the male name went first on the mortgage documents.

Ummmmm....... NO!!!!

Andrea

EnderD_503 · 05-18-2011, 09:34 PM

In my family people also go by who is a direct family member. My mum has brothers and no sisters, and we always use her brothers' names before their wives, with the exception of the eldest brother. For some reason it can go either way with him and his wife. My father has all sisters and no brothers, so his sisters names were always used before their husbands'. Same with cousins etc.

As far as friends, I always use my friends names first over their partners, just because I've known them longer and am not usually friends with their partners as far as I don't really keep contact if they break up.

With people I met as couples, it can either be that I'll refer to the partner I talk most to, or they'll be interchangeable.

JustJo · 05-18-2011, 08:09 PM

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Originally Posted by sassy_girl

Well I can tell ya it's always bugged me that the " male " is always listed first on formal documents.

I know that our real estate purchase contract and deeds....it has purchaser /seller...and my divorce documents (all 3 sets) say petitioner / respondent. Nothing on either one about male / female or husband /wife.

No doubt there are some that are listed as you say....but not all of them.

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