Butch friends

scootebaby · 05-22-2011, 07:46 PM

awww look at my lil boy..he is taller than me now and so skinny...im older,uglier and heavier---think Jo and her cooking has something to do with that--the weight that is As i told u in rep Day..he still remembers u..thought u were really cool...that was a good day!

deb_U_taunt · 05-22-2011, 07:59 PM

In my 20s it was andro lesbians.
In my 30s it was mostly butch and trans friends.
Now in my 40s, most of my friends are straight.

Luv · 05-23-2011, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by scootebaby

awww look at my lil boy..he is taller than me now and so skinny...im older,uglier and heavier---think Jo and her cooking has something to do with that--the weight that is As i told u in rep Day..he still remembers u..thought u were really cool...that was a good day!

Dang he has gotten big !

Converse · 05-25-2011, 12:35 PM

Having Butch friendships has always been important to me, and when I lived in England, the US and Australia, always chose locations where “community’ was strong- and often had to sacrifice much to do so.

Never in a Butch/Femme Community have I felt anything but respect shown for relationships, and much thought given to what is deemed acceptable behaviour. I have never experienced the posturing or competitive behaviour that has been mentioned here, from any group of Butches - but instead found it to be “typical” within the andro, lesbian community- where perhaps it has been my own fault for not understanding any of the protocols. Issues of everyone being everyone’s ex, friends becoming lovers becoming friends are all things that confuse me- I’m a simple person, I understand Butch/Femme dynamics- when lines get blurred, no matter how much I squint, I can’t follow the storyline.

I’m old and cranky enough to no longer tolerate lack of protocols, and for me, nothing irritates me more than a lesbian who believes that Butch is a fashion statement, and who after putting on the “butch look” proceeds to behave like an adolescent boy with his first set of car keys. Perhaps these are the “cocks” that are being discussed, I don’t know, but what I do know is that without my Butch friendships my life would have been very different.

DapperButch · 05-25-2011, 03:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Converse

Having Butch friendships has always been important to me, and when I lived in England, the US and Australia, always chose locations where “community’ was strong- and often had to sacrifice much to do so.

Never in a Butch/Femme Community have I felt anything but respect shown for relationships, and much thought given to what is deemed acceptable behaviour. I have never experienced the posturing or competitive behaviour that has been mentioned here, from any group of Butches - but instead found it to be “typical” within the andro, lesbian community- where perhaps it has been my own fault for not understanding any of the protocols. Issues of everyone being everyone’s ex, friends becoming lovers becoming friends are all things that confuse me- I’m a simple person, I understand Butch/Femme dynamics- when lines get blurred, no matter how much I squint, I can’t follow the storyline.

I’m old and cranky enough to no longer tolerate lack of protocols, and for me, nothing irritates me more than a lesbian who believes that Butch is a fashion statement, and who after putting on the “butch look” proceeds to behave like an adolescent boy with his first set of car keys. Perhaps these are the “cocks” that are being discussed, I don’t know, but what I do know is that without my Butch friendships my life would have been very different.

Yep. "Butch code" is certainly not a part of the non-butch/femme lesbian community.

scootebaby · 05-22-2011, 08:04 PM

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Originally Posted by June

I have not experienced this weirdness some of you are talking about with friends trying to take "My Butch" or me trying to take "My friends Butch" or anything else for that matter. Sometimes I think there must be some parallel universe where some folks live that they run into these conniving, back stabbing partner thieves.

And also, if a partner can be stolen, were they ever really yours, and why would you want them anyway if they can be lured away that easily?

I never understood this part.

i hear what your saying June and i totally agree...perhaps that why i never experienced a lot of the other things i have seen posted on here--i.e snide remarks,looks,the ugliness of stupid ppl etc---i was too busy attracting people like this in my life to deal with real issues....im so glad i finally grew up

05-22-2011, 07:59 PM	#2
deb_U_taunt Senior Member How Do You Identify?: ........ Join Date: May 2011 Location: ....... Posts: 1,748 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,324 Thanked 5,255 Times in 1,361 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	In my 20s it was andro lesbians. In my 30s it was mostly butch and trans friends. Now in my 40s, most of my friends are straight. Last edited by deb_U_taunt; 05-22-2011 at 08:06 PM. Reason: spelling

05-25-2011, 12:35 PM	#4
Converse Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: Hy Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Vancouver Posts: 147 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 323 Thanked 684 Times in 105 Posts Rep Power: 2551407	Having Butch friendships has always been important to me, and when I lived in England, the US and Australia, always chose locations where “community’ was strong- and often had to sacrifice much to do so. Never in a Butch/Femme Community have I felt anything but respect shown for relationships, and much thought given to what is deemed acceptable behaviour. I have never experienced the posturing or competitive behaviour that has been mentioned here, from any group of Butches - but instead found it to be “typical” within the andro, lesbian community- where perhaps it has been my own fault for not understanding any of the protocols. Issues of everyone being everyone’s ex, friends becoming lovers becoming friends are all things that confuse me- I’m a simple person, I understand Butch/Femme dynamics- when lines get blurred, no matter how much I squint, I can’t follow the storyline. I’m old and cranky enough to no longer tolerate lack of protocols, and for me, nothing irritates me more than a lesbian who believes that Butch is a fashion statement, and who after putting on the “butch look” proceeds to behave like an adolescent boy with his first set of car keys. Perhaps these are the “cocks” that are being discussed, I don’t know, but what I do know is that without my Butch friendships my life would have been very different. __________________ I don't act this way to change the world. I act this way so that the goddamn world won't change me! -Desert Hearts

05-22-2011, 07:46 PM	#1
scootebaby Timed Out How Do You Identify?: yes dear Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: south florida Posts: 2,494 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,264 Thanked 6,737 Times in 1,777 Posts Rep Power: 0	awww look at my lil boy..he is taller than me now and so skinny...im older,uglier and heavier---think Jo and her cooking has something to do with that--the weight that is As i told u in rep Day..he still remembers u..thought u were really cool...that was a good day!