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Can femmes post some ideas and experiences too? Or is this for Butches only? I can respect either way.
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I would just ask that people try not to generalize on what all butches, transguys, etc might like so that everyone feels comfy sharing THEIR personal preferences. ![]() Personal experiences or things you've done that you know have made your date or partner feel special are totally encouraged! |
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I love music so it means a lot to me if my girl makes me a mixed CD or something small like that.
I also have a thing for movies, especially old favorites. I had an ex who went out and rented a few of my favorite movies and picked some junk food after I had a bad day. It meant a lot to me that she not only remembered my off the wall favorites, but also took the time to find a few. All in all, I'm easy to romance. Wear a shirt in my favorite color or a color I like to see on you, watch a football game with me cause you know I'm excited about it, even if you don't like it, let me cook for you (it makes me feel like I'm taking care of you), send me funny or sweet texts/pictures, play Scrabble with me; little things is all it takes for me.
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I don't have a prerequisite for romancing me
I don't have a problem with a femme asking me out before I ask her I'm a pretty simple butch and just about anything works for a first date Getting to know each other is what's important Do we share enough in common to want another date Heck, fishing, a fire, cast iron skillet and whatever else one needs to cook the fish would be great...I don't mind cleaning them and then cleaning up Or, just a picnic lunch and a blanket/chairs as we talk at gaze out over a lake Give me conversation, stimulant my mind and walk with me A first date doesn't have to revolve around food Only thing I must say, I don't hear well in one ear, so I may ask you to repeat yourself if you don't speak slow and clearly enough for me to understand the word(s)
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A note in my pocket or sweet email or voice mail or text can have me smiling for days.
I appreciate kindness, thoughtfulness, a good sense of humor, intelligence, a great outlook on life. I like to ask a woman out, but I am happy to be asked out too or to plan something together. I am very happy to take a walk, have a cup of coffee together, going to a bookstore or something simple. I do also like going to the symphony, theater, museum and things like that and dressing up once in a while can be kind of fun. I really love sports too, but I don't expect or need someone to do things with me that they don't enjoy. Some femmes like sports, some don't. So really I like a wide range of activities. I do like surprises, but not everyone does. So before you spring one, you might want to make sure the person likes that type of thing. I do like opening doors and helping with a coat and things like that, so if you don't like it please let me know, but I hope you won't be offended. It is my pleasure and has nothing to do with thinking a woman that I am dating or with can't do it for themselves. I do like regular contact and good communication. I of course understand there are times when someone is quite busy with their family, friends, job and other things. It's just when someone disappears in and out without knowing why. If you are going to be late try to let me know. If I know you are someone who always runs 15-30 minutes late then that is ok, otherwise I am a worry wart.
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I do appreciate being romanced. I honestly don't get why it wouldn't be OK for butches or transguys to like some reciprocity in the romancing department. The "methods" might not be the same, but, I don't want to be alone in creating (and sustaining) the romance factor.
I am not very role-oriented, so, I guess there are going to be differences with replies here. Whatever works for individuals! |
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I am sure I will think of more things, but here is a few:
I love it when a femme cooks for me. Invite me over for a meal, that means so much. Of course, it makes me want to have sex with her even more, lol, but I am more than capable of taking no for an answer and not pressuring. I also like it if she makes it obvious if she really likes me. I am not the best at picking up signals, unfortunately. If she is really interested, she will have to bang me upside the head with a 2x4 to get that across. If I offer her a back rub, or touch her shoulder or her back, it means I want to kiss her. If she doesn't respond, then I will assume she isn't receptive. Sometimes I just can't tell, so then I ask if it is okay. Please, femmes, don't get mad if I bring you ![]() I love making out, and I am fine with stopping short of going further. Making out is something I really look forward to on a date, but if that is uncomfortable for someone, I really appreciate if she says so upfront. I love it when a girl shows me she really cares and is interested. I show it by giving greeting cards between dates, or just calling to say 'I am thinking about you'. If she does small gestures such as this, it really means a lot to me. My ex-wife was a really good singer, and when we were first dating she would sing something just for me. I loved that. I love holding hands too. Cuddling is a must! I am, after all, a snuggle bunny ![]() That's all I have, I am sure I will be back with more. ![]() |
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First off I must be shure that she is intrested in dateing me,I know this sounds crazy but ive gotten some mixed signals for some folks over the years..so so for us to be on the same page is the best thing for starters.Realise im hard of hearing so I may not hear you as well as you prolly would like,I know repeating thigs can be a drag but realise its a problem for me as well.
Hear goes,talk to me,look me in the eye dont be checking the cell phone or gazeing over my shoulder at whatever.Know from the start,cause I will tell you if you ask that I dont do one night stands or even a week later..if and when we get serious I want to know you really well and you me..become a friend first cause some of the best ltr's come from friendships that are great.I dont need a fancy resturant,or anyone to spent money on me,im just a simple kind of person that can just be relaxed and laid back. Drama people need no apply..im not tall enough for that rolocoaster.we all have som drama but keep it in check.If u are not over the X we can be friends..but till u are done with the X..nothing else.If u r a player..same rules apply. What works is good humor,make me laugh,enjoy out doors,like music,moveis are fun...must get along with my fur kids..I like going to trade days,fleamarkets,danceing when I can..I like to fish but havent gone in a long time.I have a ton of cd,c and vidios..can do movies at home. Thats a starter any way..more later. |
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First of all I dont mind a femme doing the asking out initially
![]() Im so not hard to please. I just dont like getting dressed up and am very uncomfortable in places like the opera, art musuems. Are not for me. Keep it simple lol It makes it easier for me to be myself. Be on time when we agree to a time and date. I cant stand it when people are late. To me it shows disrespect and rudeness. ![]() Surprise me. I love that. I love surprises. They make me feel special When you are talking with me on the date look me in my eyes. Talk with me not too me. I dont care if you buy me flowers or give me little gifts. I enjoy those things. But would love just time with you. If you are "feeling" me let me know . Im a 2x4 butch and will only think you think of me as a friend if you dont. Small affectionate gestures help too lol Little things like a sweet text, a phone call, an email things like that and more will make my week. Good Hygeine. I get mani/pedi on a regular basis. I also get a haircut every other week. You can bet that I am looking good between that and my clothes when I go out on a date. I have one shot to 'IMPRESS" you on the first date. I expect the same. Please please please have good hygeine. Have good manners I wanna laugh and just have fun being ourselves with no expectations. Letting things happen naturally. Being able to do anything together ![]() |
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It's an easy thing to be on a date with me, and then we'll go home. If you want more you have to be a mystery without trying to be. Don't upload all of yourself to me,or I may get bored. And boredom is an eternal enemy of romance. You cannot be put in a slot. Just keep defying the mold, and I'll like this.So if you are a femme in a state of flux, always trying to improve yourself, and rediscovering yourself,I will definately be romanced. There have been femme's here who are athletic and enjoy talking about sports. Then she'll say something wise and I'll think, wow she must be a genius and read alot of books. Then she'll say something sweet and kind and good and then she'll recycle herself again and say/do something naughty and piss me off and I'll think how is this? Then she'll say a speech about something and i'll say look at her go! She must be an orator! She must have her own radio show, or comedy show. And this can go on forever lol. I cannot define her. I can only grow to love her, like my ex wife of 35 years.She was like a mountain with many layers, and I was a miner of gold. I liked to dig through these layers, but I knew there was more.It frustrated me that I could'nt define her..and I loved this about her.She did'nt withhold information, she made me work to get it out in her own wise way. I like mystery and change. I want to dig a layer and find the mountain has pushed up three layers higher, so we'll be closer to the stars.
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