Butches: How do you like to be romanced?

[bigbutchmistie]

First of all I dont mind a femme doing the asking out initially

Im so not hard to please. I just dont like getting dressed up and am very uncomfortable in places like the opera, art musuems. Are not for me.

Keep it simple lol It makes it easier for me to be myself.

Be on time when we agree to a time and date. I cant stand it when people are late. To me it shows disrespect and rudeness.

Surprise me. I love that. I love surprises. They make me feel special

When you are talking with me on the date look me in my eyes. Talk with me not too me.

I dont care if you buy me flowers or give me little gifts. I enjoy those things. But would love just time with you.

If you are "feeling" me let me know . Im a 2x4 butch and will only think you think of me as a friend if you dont. Small affectionate gestures help too lol

Little things like a sweet text, a phone call, an email things like that and more will make my week.

Good Hygeine. I get mani/pedi on a regular basis. I also get a haircut every other week. You can bet that I am looking good between that and my clothes when I go out on a date. I have one shot to 'IMPRESS" you on the first date. I expect the same. Please please please have good hygeine.

Have good manners


I wanna laugh and just have fun being ourselves with no expectations. Letting things happen naturally. Being able to do anything together

[Glenn]

It's an easy thing to be on a date with me, and then we'll go home. If you want more you have to be a mystery without trying to be. Don't upload all of yourself to me,or I may get bored. And boredom is an eternal enemy of romance. You cannot be put in a slot. Just keep defying the mold, and I'll like this.So if you are a femme in a state of flux, always trying to improve yourself, and rediscovering yourself,I will definately be romanced. There have been femme's here who are athletic and enjoy talking about sports. Then she'll say something wise and I'll think, wow she must be a genius and read alot of books. Then she'll say something sweet and kind and good and then she'll recycle herself again and say/do something naughty and piss me off and I'll think how is this? Then she'll say a speech about something and i'll say look at her go! She must be an orator! She must have her own radio show, or comedy show. And this can go on forever lol. I cannot define her. I can only grow to love her, like my ex wife of 35 years.She was like a mountain with many layers, and I was a miner of gold. I liked to dig through these layers, but I knew there was more.It frustrated me that I could'nt define her..and I loved this about her.She did'nt withhold information, she made me work to get it out in her own wise way. I like mystery and change. I want to dig a layer and find the mountain has pushed up three layers higher, so we'll be closer to the stars.

[Hack]

I've never been asked out. I always do the asking, it seems. I wouldn't be opposed to being asked. If I were dating, that is.

I definitely like being appreciated, and small ways work just fine. I don't like being the center of attention. Ever. So, big, showy things aren't for me. I tend to be a quiet, behind the scenes, kind of guy. I love getting sweet or dirty or flirty text messages throughout the day. Send me a postcard. Tell me you can't wait to talk to me later. That all makes me feel special.

I know I wrote a post somewhere on this site about a year ago about how the big thing for me, especially as I age, is acceptance. That's how I feel loved. Accept me for what I am. And while I try to convince you I'm basic, I'm really not. Sometimes, I am...Daddy, lover, sadistic, quiet, loud, cocky, shy, relentless, lazy, insistent, romantic, cynical, always dominate, never a bottom, funny, serious, a jock, a nerd, a smartass and a sweetheart. Too often, a girl tries to put me in one box, and doesn't accept the other sides as readily. Unfortunately, really.

Oh, and a year or so ago, I spent time with a woman who put a lot of time into planning our day together. I have to say, I really appreciated that. She knew I spend my day at work making a lot of decisions. She just took it upon herself to plan our day we'd spend together. It was nice. Not a requirement, by any means. But I did like it as a change from the way I usually would date.

Just some thoughts.

Jake

[Goofy]

Originally Posted by Hack

Accept me for what I am. And while I try to convince you I'm basic, I'm really not.

This is very true for me as well. The more I feel accepted, the more I feel loved.

Blush did one of the greatest things anyone has ever done for me. I have some issues with PTSD and regularly attend a group for veterans. When we first started dating, she asked me about it and then asked what she could do to help me. I was floored. No one's ever asked me that before and it touched me more deeply than she probably knew or knows even today.

Mostly though, it's little things. Texts, the random candy bar or magnet speak volumes to me. And love my dogs even when one of them is sitting next to you on the couch staring adoringly.

Just don't bring me flowers. I'm allergic to most of them anyway.

[Dude]

being listened to , lusted after


and






food!

[Merlin]

the way to my heart ?
Third rib down with a cheese knife ..

Joking aside.

Take my hand
Ruffle my hair
Lots of steamy kisses
Cook for me .. I will cook for you.
Some seductive music .. Seducing me would be red hot.
Look after me and I will look after you in so many enjoyable ways.

[imperfect_cupcake]

Inki's idea of romance is a bit barmy so "regular" romantic gestures are a bit lost on her. For example, the way she showed me she liked me the first time we met was to come up behind me with a friend's top hat, stick it on my head and say "oh look, Guns and Roses" then removed it. then very slowly when I'd be talking, creep the hat up my back and stick it on my head and mouth the words "guns and roses" over and over while I was talking to people until I became so irritated I grabbed the hat and beat her into the fire place with it that was by the table. Which was the response she was looking for, I think. Some butches want you to beat them with a hat. It means a lot to them.

[tapu]

My girlfriend in college used to come up to me on campus, around town, wherever she saw me, and say, "Hi, handsome."

[Guy]

For me it would be to cook dinner. Something she put thought and time into with the anticipation of hoping it turned out well.

[xxzalciaiomenxx]

I love when I miss a call from my girl, not because I didn't want to talk to her, but because 9 times out of 10 she will leave me a loving, adoring message that lights up my heart...and I save all of these messages until my carrier will delete them...sometimes she sings to me on the messages and no matter what my mood, how I am feeling I can't help but feel all warm and mushy inside when I hear her sexy voice singing just for me. I love when she writes me little notes and gives them to me. I love the way she just tells me I'm beautiful, sexy, etc. She is the only woman to have ever given me flowers. On my Birthday this past year I got called to the front office and there was a vase full of flowers and a big ol Happy Birthday Balloon! She sends me text messages telling me how she misses me, or is thinking of me. Everymorning I get a message from her when she first wakes up...usually saying "good morning" "I love you" or "I miss you".

This past summer, she was on vacation, and everyday she sent me a post card telling me her feelings for me. It was the sweetest thing ever.

I love when she plays with my hair, or brushes up against me just to feel me next to her. The way she takes my fingers in her own when we are walking, even if for just a second. I love the way she holds me when I am sad, the way she cradles my head in her arms and kisses me lightly on the forehead, just to say "I'm here"

I have never been treated more kindly by a woman before, no one before her has taken the time to make me feel loved, and everything that she does for me is romantic. I truly am blessed to have this amazingly perfect woman in my lifer!!!

[weatherboi]

i am always reminded how special i am when my Ms stays up all night long picking my brain and talking to me about things We/we are both interested in. then She takes me to breakfast or We/we go to bed and get intimate. i have always been in relationships that the expectation was that it was my job to do the romancing. this relationship is dictated differently. sometimes Ms will surprise me with an afternoon out and about that is focused on me. She will take me sharks tooth hunting or She will take me to a store that sells Armani mens undies and let me pick out a pair of sexy chonchos that make my ass look fly. She oooohhhs and ahhhhhs while i try them on and makes a big deal to tell me how hot i look. She will offer to cook for me from out of no where and make me my favorite rice dish that only She can cook...delicious!!! when She takes me to San Fran, She always makes an effort to take me somewhere that is special to Her from Her past and tell me about Her experiences that have shaped the person She is. Romance for me is unexpected gestures and spontaneous outings. They don't necessarily have to revolve around me, i just need to know the effort is for Us/us!!!

[EnderD_503]

Never been the romantic type...so I really don't like to be romanced, nor am I big on doing the romancing. Honestly, any "romantic gestures" would just make me feel guilty, awkward and desperate to get out of said situation.

[bigbutchmistie]

Originally Posted by bigbutchmistie

First of all I dont mind a femme doing the asking out initially

Im so not hard to please. I just dont like getting dressed up and am very uncomfortable in places like the opera, art musuems. Are not for me.

Keep it simple lol It makes it easier for me to be myself.

Be on time when we agree to a time and date. I cant stand it when people are late. To me it shows disrespect and rudeness.

Surprise me. I love that. I love surprises. They make me feel special

When you are talking with me on the date look me in my eyes. Talk with me not too me.

I dont care if you buy me flowers or give me little gifts. I enjoy those things. But would love just time with you.

If you are "feeling" me let me know . Im a 2x4 butch and will only think you think of me as a friend if you dont. Small affectionate gestures help too lol

Little things like a sweet text, a phone call, an email things like that and more will make my week.

Good Hygeine. I get mani/pedi on a regular basis. I also get a haircut every other week. You can bet that I am looking good between that and my clothes when I go out on a date. I have one shot to 'IMPRESS" you on the first date. I expect the same. Please please please have good hygeine.

Have good manners


I wanna laugh and just have fun being ourselves with no expectations. Letting things happen naturally. Being able to do anything together

Oh and the same respect and little things you do for me when we are dating should be the same if not more when we committ