Healthy Weight Loss

Scorp · 08-12-2011, 07:52 AM

I'm tempted to hop on the scale today instead of tomorrow, which is my usual weigh-in day...

I know I'm retaining water so I better get that through my head from now and not beat myself up...

One can hope though...Stranger things have happened! Crossing my fingers it won't be as bad as I think....

PinkieLee · 08-12-2011, 08:07 AM

GOOD MORNING and Happy Friday y'all

Thinker, that small weight gain is not bad at all. Sometimes when we work out, our body weight flucuates...you'll probably lose that .6 plus some next week! You have done amazing, and I'm so proud of your success!

SCORPY... don't drive yourself too crazy about the stupid water retention. Go ahead and weigh to see where you are at. Just be sure to keep chugging water, and next week FOR SURE you'll have a loss! You are doing sooo good Jackie, keep it up!!!

nycfem · 08-12-2011, 08:22 AM

Last night I dreamed that I had a job interview that didn't go well, and I got in line at Dunkin Donuts to buy donuts afterwards. Just as I was about to have made it to the front of the line, I summoned all my willpower and scrambled out of the line, ran out the door, and went and bought an unsweetened passion iced tea at Starbucks instead. I didn't know who else to tell this dream to but you all

*Anya* · 08-12-2011, 08:40 AM

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Originally Posted by nycfembbw

Last night I dreamed that I had a job interview that didn't go well, and I got in line at Dunkin Donuts to buy donuts afterwards. Just as I was about to have made it to the front of the line, I summoned all my willpower and scrambled out of the line, ran out the door, and went and bought an unsweetened passion iced tea at Starbucks instead. I didn't know who else to tell this dream to but you all

Femme sister! What an absolutely awesome dream! Down to your subconscious- you are doing this! I love this! Thanks for sharing your dream.

Hugs

Medusa · 08-12-2011, 09:22 AM

WEE!

My pants are loose! Even with a 2lb gain last week (and I peeked already and have lost it this week!) I am actually starting to see the weight loss.
When I hit that 40-lb gone forever mark, I might have to celebrate with a massage! WOOT!

Also, I did any of you see the "Secret Trois" group that had such Youtube popularity over the last year or two? This group is just 3 women (self described "big girls") who get together and do dances and put them up on Youtube.
This one was the one that got them popular:

But THIS one is my favorite:

I'm sorry but the girl in white can work her ass! I LOVE watching these three!

Well, apparently "Beautiful" started a weight loss blog a while back and has been doing Weight Watchers and has lost over 100 pounds! She is not only an amazing dancer but very motivational.

One thing she talked about on her blog is how people would get all excited to see her lose weight but would kinda wrinkle their nose when she told them it took her a year or two. She said she used to have the same reaction when encountering blogs that were not a "lose 100 pounds in 3 months" kind of thing and would click the "back" button.

I think it is so awesome that she not only acknowledges the fact that true and permanent weight loss takes a long time but also encourages other people in such a positive way.

Here is her blog:
http://www.madamethejourneyblog.com/

PinkieLee · 08-12-2011, 10:15 AM

Medusa... YOU GO GIRL! Enjoy those loose fitting clothes honey, and when you do hit that close approaching 40 pound forever lost mark, you DESERVE the massage!

THANK YOU for posting the videos (which I've probably watched a dozen times in the past) and for the blog. It's crazy that most people don't understand that weight loss takes time! Losing 100 pounds in 3 months is not healthy... and really scares the crap out of me. I know any time that I've lost mass amount of weight (65+ pounds in 4 months), I always gained it back, plus another 15 pounds, because I NEVER changed anything about how I relate to food. The binges would begin again and on the downward spiral I would go.

A friend of mine recently had lap band surgery about 5 months ago. She's already lost 75 pounds. I've been on WW for 10 weeks, and have lost 19. It's nuts how people are so eager to congratulate her on the weight loss, but don't even seem to acknowledge how much work I've done to lose weight ON MY OWN. At a recent party, she actually said to me, "Tonya, you should really have the surgery, you'll lose the weight so much quicker." Ugh... what the fuck ever!

I sat quietly and watched her make a plate of food, eat a few bites here and there, and complain about not feeling well because her band was too tight. She was still eating the same crap as before... just in smaller portions. I was able to look at the food choices, and pick healthier options and actually eat a normal size portion of food... not feeling deprived.

I know that for some folks, weight loss surgery is the best option for medical reasons. But, I know that my big ass can exercise & make smarter choices, and I CAN and WILL do this on my own (plus with all the support from y'all).

I think that for most folks, they want a quick fix for everything. Damn the instant gratification that we all want! But, good things come to those that wait. I want to feel proud of myself for doing it the right way and not because I just couldn't eat anymore.

**off my soapbox for the day**

JustJo · 08-12-2011, 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by PinkieLee

Medusa... YOU GO GIRL! Enjoy those loose fitting clothes honey, and when you do hit that close approaching 40 pound forever lost mark, you DESERVE the massage!

THANK YOU for posting the videos (which I've probably watched a dozen times in the past) and for the blog. It's crazy that most people don't understand that weight loss takes time! Losing 100 pounds in 3 months is not healthy... and really scares the crap out of me. I know any time that I've lost mass amount of weight (65+ pounds in 4 months), I always gained it back, plus another 15 pounds, because I NEVER changed anything about how I relate to food. The binges would begin again and on the downward spiral I would go.

A friend of mine recently had lap band surgery about 5 months ago. She's already lost 75 pounds. I've been on WW for 10 weeks, and have lost 19. It's nuts how people are so eager to congratulate her on the weight loss, but don't even seem to acknowledge how much work I've done to lose weight ON MY OWN. At a recent party, she actually said to me, "Tonya, you should really have the surgery, you'll lose the weight so much quicker." Ugh... what the fuck ever!

I sat quietly and watched her make a plate of food, eat a few bites here and there, and complain about not feeling well because her band was too tight. She was still eating the same crap as before... just in smaller portions. I was able to look at the food choices, and pick healthier options and actually eat a normal size portion of food... not feeling deprived.

I know that for some folks, weight loss surgery is the best option for medical reasons. But, I know that my big ass can exercise & make smarter choices, and I CAN and WILL do this on my own (plus with all the support from y'all).

I think that for most folks, they want a quick fix for everything. Damn the instant gratification that we all want! But, good things come to those that wait. I want to feel proud of myself for doing it the right way and not because I just couldn't eat anymore.

**off my soapbox for the day**

This is so, so true.

One of my friends/colleagues at work had the surgery but didn't change anything else.

Two years later, she regained all of the weight she lost and then some. And she's miserable and angry because she took all the risks of the surgery, paid an enormous amount of money for it...and she's back where she was.

Stomachs stretch. The surgery is temporary unless people change how they relate to food.

I'd rather go slow, thanks.

Thinker · 08-12-2011, 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by PinkieLee

But, good things come to those that wait. I want to feel proud of myself for doing it the right way and not because I just couldn't eat anymore.

Amen, Sister.

And please hear me when I say I make NO judgment about those opting for the quick fixes. We each have to do what we have to do for ourselves. I just know me and know that it needs to be something different to be permanent.....a shift in my thinking......an education of sorts.

More often than not, from what *I* have witnessed, the quick fixes were very temporary.

I am proud of *you*, T........and of everyone here for making the decision to do something different.

Medusa · 08-12-2011, 10:40 AM

Oh girl - Don't EVEN get me started on weight loss surgery! (Too late!)

I want to make it clear that what I'm about to post is not a judgment on anyone who has had WLS (weight loss surgery) but is more about my personal process around WLS.

I have been fat for a long time. Maybe about 15 years now. I'll be 35 in September and did not start gaining significant weight until I was 20. And when I say significant, I mean going from 150 pounds to 250 in the space of a few years. I am now 299 after hitting my highest weight of 335.

Never in all of that time of being fat, fatter, fattest did I ever consider getting my stomach stapled or lapband.
Here's why: It would feel to me like conceding to the "be thin at any cost" bullshit that is fed to us by the media and I am NOT willing to cut my body open so that someone else won't be offended by my fat ass. I am not willing to reroute my organs so that I can "get a date". I am not willing to lose my hair. have nurtrition issues, or throw up and have diarrhea for MONTHS because of a surgery that would be unncessary for me.Why? Because I can do this shit myself.

Again, I understand that this is a personal journey for each of us and that some folks have the surgery as a last resort or to increase mobility or because that is what will work for them.

I have had a family member (someone I don't have a super good relationship with) offer to pay half of the price of the surgery if I would have it. I was offended and still am. This person has always been embarassed of my weight and was obviously willing to spend $15k to make the "problem of Angie's fat ass" go away.
I respectfully declined the offer and instructed them never to approach me with it again.

I have also had several people that I have worked with over the years make comments like "If you'd have that surgery, you'd be so pretty!" or "it would be so much easier if you would have that surgery!"

My response to that has always been "I don't need surgery to be beautiful, I'm a knock-out sassyass NOW" and "It would not be "easier" to have surgery, my body would be cut open and I'd gain it all back".

I have witnessed coworkers and several friends go through different forms of WLS and some have lost significant amounts of weight. Without fail, *all* of them have lost varying amounts of hair (some permanently), have thrown up for months on end, have had diarrhea for months on end, have had vitamin absorbtion issues, and have developed different blood issues like anemia.

Some have lost over 100 pounds, some have only lost 30. All but one of the people that I personally know have gained either a portion or ALL of the weight back. (out of 12 different people)

Much like Tonya, I have witnessed folks who have had the surgery and have continued to eat junk food and drink sodas. That would have been me if I had the surgery. It would have been a temporary band-aid to me. I know myself well enough to know that losing or gaining weight is only a symptom of the bigger issue.

Let's say someone was allergic to rice and every time they ate it, a finger fell off. If I were a Doctor, I would not scratch my head and go "Hmmmm, we need to do something about that finger!", I would get to the root of the issue, the rice allergy, and treat THAT.

That is what I am personally doing right now. I am treating the issue and not the symptom. I am glad to be doing it with all of you.

nycfem · 08-12-2011, 10:18 AM

I just love this woman's blog! As a vegetarian, I'm digging reading and seeing the visuals for all her healthy, vegan snacks and meals! What a great resource!

PinkieLee · 08-12-2011, 10:22 AM

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Originally Posted by nycfembbw

I just love this woman's blog! As a vegetarian, I'm digging reading and seeing the visuals for all her healthy, vegan snacks and meals! What a great resource!

I totally agree! Her picture of brussel sprouts & corn made my mouth water

08-12-2011, 09:22 AM	#5
Medusa Mentally Delicious How Do You Identify?: Queer High Femme, thank you very much Preferred Pronoun?: Mme. Relationship Status: Married to JD. Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Atlanta Posts: 10,446 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,995 Thanked 42,683 Times in 7,831 Posts Rep Power: 10000026	WEE! My pants are loose! Even with a 2lb gain last week (and I peeked already and have lost it this week!) I am actually starting to see the weight loss. When I hit that 40-lb gone forever mark, I might have to celebrate with a massage! WOOT! Also, I did any of you see the "Secret Trois" group that had such Youtube popularity over the last year or two? This group is just 3 women (self described "big girls") who get together and do dances and put them up on Youtube. This one was the one that got them popular: But THIS one is my favorite: I'm sorry but the girl in white can work her ass! I LOVE watching these three! Well, apparently "Beautiful" started a weight loss blog a while back and has been doing Weight Watchers and has lost over 100 pounds! She is not only an amazing dancer but very motivational. One thing she talked about on her blog is how people would get all excited to see her lose weight but would kinda wrinkle their nose when she told them it took her a year or two. She said she used to have the same reaction when encountering blogs that were not a "lose 100 pounds in 3 months" kind of thing and would click the "back" button. I think it is so awesome that she not only acknowledges the fact that true and permanent weight loss takes a long time but also encourages other people in such a positive way. Here is her blog: http://www.madamethejourneyblog.com/ __________________ . . . Buy ButchFemmePlanet Merch Here: https://teespring.com/stores/butchfemmeplanetcom-merch

08-12-2011, 10:40 AM	#9
Medusa Mentally Delicious How Do You Identify?: Queer High Femme, thank you very much Preferred Pronoun?: Mme. Relationship Status: Married to JD. Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Atlanta Posts: 10,446 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,995 Thanked 42,683 Times in 7,831 Posts Rep Power: 10000026	Y'all can blame Tonya for this next rant! Oh girl - Don't EVEN get me started on weight loss surgery! (Too late!) I want to make it clear that what I'm about to post is not a judgment on anyone who has had WLS (weight loss surgery) but is more about my personal process around WLS. I have been fat for a long time. Maybe about 15 years now. I'll be 35 in September and did not start gaining significant weight until I was 20. And when I say significant, I mean going from 150 pounds to 250 in the space of a few years. I am now 299 after hitting my highest weight of 335. Never in all of that time of being fat, fatter, fattest did I ever consider getting my stomach stapled or lapband. Here's why: It would feel to me like conceding to the "be thin at any cost" bullshit that is fed to us by the media and I am NOT willing to cut my body open so that someone else won't be offended by my fat ass. I am not willing to reroute my organs so that I can "get a date". I am not willing to lose my hair. have nurtrition issues, or throw up and have diarrhea for MONTHS because of a surgery that would be unncessary for me.Why? Because I can do this shit myself. Again, I understand that this is a personal journey for each of us and that some folks have the surgery as a last resort or to increase mobility or because that is what will work for them. I have had a family member (someone I don't have a super good relationship with) offer to pay half of the price of the surgery if I would have it. I was offended and still am. This person has always been embarassed of my weight and was obviously willing to spend $15k to make the "problem of Angie's fat ass" go away. I respectfully declined the offer and instructed them never to approach me with it again. I have also had several people that I have worked with over the years make comments like "If you'd have that surgery, you'd be so pretty!" or "it would be so much easier if you would have that surgery!" My response to that has always been "I don't need surgery to be beautiful, I'm a knock-out sassyass NOW" and "It would not be "easier" to have surgery, my body would be cut open and I'd gain it all back". I have witnessed coworkers and several friends go through different forms of WLS and some have lost significant amounts of weight. Without fail, all of them have lost varying amounts of hair (some permanently), have thrown up for months on end, have had diarrhea for months on end, have had vitamin absorbtion issues, and have developed different blood issues like anemia. Some have lost over 100 pounds, some have only lost 30. All but one of the people that I personally know have gained either a portion or ALL of the weight back. (out of 12 different people) Much like Tonya, I have witnessed folks who have had the surgery and have continued to eat junk food and drink sodas. That would have been me if I had the surgery. It would have been a temporary band-aid to me. I know myself well enough to know that losing or gaining weight is only a symptom of the bigger issue. Let's say someone was allergic to rice and every time they ate it, a finger fell off. If I were a Doctor, I would not scratch my head and go "Hmmmm, we need to do something about that finger!", I would get to the root of the issue, the rice allergy, and treat THAT. That is what I am personally doing right now. I am treating the issue and not the symptom. I am glad to be doing it with all of you. __________________ . . . Buy ButchFemmePlanet Merch Here: https://teespring.com/stores/butchfemmeplanetcom-merch

08-12-2011, 07:52 AM	#1
Scorp Italian Stallion How Do You Identify?: DNA Usually... Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: In a van, down by the river.. Posts: 2,702 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,557 Thanked 4,714 Times in 1,263 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I'm tempted to hop on the scale today instead of tomorrow, which is my usual weigh-in day... I know I'm retaining water so I better get that through my head from now and not beat myself up... One can hope though...Stranger things have happened! Crossing my fingers it won't be as bad as I think....

08-12-2011, 08:07 AM	#2
PinkieLee Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: I need ya boo, gotta see ya boo Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Big Money Texas Posts: 4,708 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,309 Thanked 13,075 Times in 3,049 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	GOOD MORNING and Happy Friday y'all Thinker, that small weight gain is not bad at all. Sometimes when we work out, our body weight flucuates...you'll probably lose that .6 plus some next week! You have done amazing, and I'm so proud of your success! SCORPY... don't drive yourself too crazy about the stupid water retention. Go ahead and weigh to see where you are at. Just be sure to keep chugging water, and next week FOR SURE you'll have a loss! You are doing sooo good Jackie, keep it up!!!

08-12-2011, 08:22 AM	#3
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,795 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,988 Thanked 21,426 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Last night I dreamed that I had a job interview that didn't go well, and I got in line at Dunkin Donuts to buy donuts afterwards. Just as I was about to have made it to the front of the line, I summoned all my willpower and scrambled out of the line, ran out the door, and went and bought an unsweetened passion iced tea at Starbucks instead. I didn't know who else to tell this dream to but you all

08-12-2011, 10:15 AM	#6
PinkieLee Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Relationship Status: I need ya boo, gotta see ya boo Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Big Money Texas Posts: 4,708 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 24,309 Thanked 13,075 Times in 3,049 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Medusa... YOU GO GIRL! Enjoy those loose fitting clothes honey, and when you do hit that close approaching 40 pound forever lost mark, you DESERVE the massage! THANK YOU for posting the videos (which I've probably watched a dozen times in the past) and for the blog. It's crazy that most people don't understand that weight loss takes time! Losing 100 pounds in 3 months is not healthy... and really scares the crap out of me. I know any time that I've lost mass amount of weight (65+ pounds in 4 months), I always gained it back, plus another 15 pounds, because I NEVER changed anything about how I relate to food. The binges would begin again and on the downward spiral I would go. A friend of mine recently had lap band surgery about 5 months ago. She's already lost 75 pounds. I've been on WW for 10 weeks, and have lost 19. It's nuts how people are so eager to congratulate her on the weight loss, but don't even seem to acknowledge how much work I've done to lose weight ON MY OWN. At a recent party, she actually said to me, "Tonya, you should really have the surgery, you'll lose the weight so much quicker." Ugh... what the fuck ever! I sat quietly and watched her make a plate of food, eat a few bites here and there, and complain about not feeling well because her band was too tight. She was still eating the same crap as before... just in smaller portions. I was able to look at the food choices, and pick healthier options and actually eat a normal size portion of food... not feeling deprived. I know that for some folks, weight loss surgery is the best option for medical reasons. But, I know that my big ass can exercise & make smarter choices, and I CAN and WILL do this on my own (plus with all the support from y'all). I think that for most folks, they want a quick fix for everything. Damn the instant gratification that we all want! But, good things come to those that wait. I want to feel proud of myself for doing it the right way and not because I just couldn't eat anymore. off my soapbox for the day

08-12-2011, 10:18 AM	#10
nycfem Moderator How Do You Identify?: femme sub Preferred Pronoun?: Baby Grrl Relationship Status: Attached Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: NYC Posts: 6,795 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 52,988 Thanked 21,426 Times in 5,101 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I just love this woman's blog! As a vegetarian, I'm digging reading and seeing the visuals for all her healthy, vegan snacks and meals! What a great resource!