Reclaiming Lesbian Pride

AtLast · 08-18-2011, 12:40 PM

Hummmm... and are we ready to discuss discrimination and bigotry against butch lesbians of every corner of our community dating or partnering with a lesbian transwoman? Where does the crux of this conversation usually go first- the "once a woman" issue? Are these relationships viewed with the same disdain that I have read in threads (mainly in the dash site) about butch on butch relationships and bi-sexuality?

We have many areas in which there existing a safe space is not felt to be so. hell, there have been times I have felt disdain for having been heterosexual in my life time on these forums.

AtLast · 08-18-2011, 04:53 PM

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Originally Posted by AtLastHome

Hummmm... and are we ready to discuss discrimination and bigotry against butch lesbians of every corner of our community dating or partnering with a lesbian transwoman? Where does the crux of this conversation usually go first- the "once a woman" issue? Are these relationships viewed with the same disdain that I have read in threads (mainly in the dash site) about butch on butch relationships and bi-sexuality?

We have many areas in which there existing a safe space is not felt to be so. hell, there have been times I have felt disdain for having been heterosexual in my life time on these forums.

WOW- no one corrected my error- it is "once a man" not once a woman. This gets thrown out a lot at butches that relate/date transwomen- and a whole lot of "not a real lesbian" slights.

It has always appeared to me that transwomen do not feel comfortable in our community as either butch or femme identified. The only thread I recall (but I certainly have not read/viewed them all) that focused on transwomen in the B-F dynamic was one in dash site. And it was derogatory- it was about why transwomen were even on the site!! This was over 3 years ago.

Medusa · 08-18-2011, 06:52 PM

Further than that, if you see something problematic and don't report it, then ask yourself why you are waiting on someone else to handle it.

You have a voice as an adult. Use it. Use it respectfully, but use it.

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