Dating women with children, any thoughts?

LaneyDoll · 08-19-2011, 07:42 AM

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Originally Posted by J. Mason

no it's not but when he says negative things about you to the kids there is a problem, IMO

Seems to me that the problem here is with the father, not the kids. Your s/o needs to address this issue-both with the father & the children. She may not be able to change the father's attitude but maybe she can use it in a lesson to the kids of "how people sometimes are hurt or angry and they say mean, untrue things about other people." The main thing is to not sink to that level & say mean things in return. Kids are not pawns.

J. Mason · 08-19-2011, 06:17 PM

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Originally Posted by LaneyDoll

Seems to me that the problem here is with the father, not the kids. Your s/o needs to address this issue-both with the father & the children. She may not be able to change the father's attitude but maybe she can use it in a lesson to the kids of "how people sometimes are hurt or angry and they say mean, untrue things about other people." The main thing is to not sink to that level & say mean things in return. Kids are not pawns.

Yes the father was the issue and I don't recall my ex ever saying anything, just shrugging it off. I was taught not to say anything negative back and never did, ya know kept my feelings to myself most of the time or expressed them to my parents (who never said a word thank god) and I agree children of any age are not pawns.

The_Lady_Snow · 08-19-2011, 06:26 PM

It doesn't help when parents talk about other parents about potential mates.. Kids need to not hear that shit period... I wish you all luck..

J. Mason · 08-19-2011, 06:30 PM

Ain't that the truth and TY!

Ebon · 08-19-2011, 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by puregrrl

I can tell you from personal experience of being the child of a single mother who dated a lot and men were introduced quickly and often it was VERY confusing and hurt a lot when the relationship didn't go anywhere. Children are very resilient but at the same time, it is not fair to bring people into their lives that may not be there for the long haul. Kids don't understand the complexities.

Yeah I grew up in this situation as well. My mom put the guys before me and my sister so I ended up taking care of my sister.

My ex used her daughter, who I became very close with, to try to hurt me. Unfortunately it worked. I wish I could have watched her grow up but I wasn't ready for what mom was ready for, I was a kid myself and I never got to see her again after we split. So I hope that doesn't happen to you or anyone else for that matter.

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