BBW ??? - Qualifications

ScandalAndy · 10-04-2011, 11:48 PM

My understanding of it is that anyone who falls outside standard manufacturer sizing is a BBW. American Apparel's plus size models are 12-14. Personally, I think it's ridiculous to call someone in those sizes "big".

I don't consider anyone under a size 18 to be a bbw, but I'm probably just wearing my judgy pants. Great thread, as now I'm forced to think about why I'm being like that. Thanks for posting!

Delish · 10-05-2011, 01:06 AM

I agree with Apocalipstic...I'm just me! I am a BBW in all sense of the words, but for some reason I just don't like that term.
I've recently had Lapband surgery but not because I want to be a bag of bones. I'm very happy with the way I am, and althOugh I'm loosing weight, it has no reflection on me being comfortable with my size.
I say life is too short! Enjoy it while u can and embrace who u are..not your size or "status"

Just my $.02

J. Mason · 10-05-2011, 05:46 AM

Coming from a big transguy, I think BBW is any female who wears over a size 18, like Scandal Andy said. I have never heard of American Appareal till now as well and those sizes to me are not a BBW, but I think what qualifies as a BBW is up to the female themselves.

SecretAgentMa'am · 10-05-2011, 10:10 AM

And there you have it. As a size 16, I'm plenty fat enough to have a hard time finding clothes (most regular stores don't carry my size, and neither do most plus size stores), more than fat enough to have complete strangers make nasty comments to be about my weight, definitely fat enough to have doctors dismiss just about every physical problem I have as weight related and tell me to lose weight instead of actually treating me, but not fat enough to qualify here.

LaneyDoll · 10-05-2011, 10:20 AM

Hmmm, these are my thoughts about how the terms relate to me personally. So, I hope I do not offend anyone...

I do not like the term "thick." To me it implies that I have big bone structure which I do not. I also do not like the term BBW but I will use it since it is (seemingly) understood universally.

For me, I have a hard time recognizing my weight issues. When I was a teenager I was 5'6 and 125 pounds of boobs, butt and big hair. And I worked out a lot so I had muscle weight and minimal fatty tissue. But, my dad & stepmom compared me to my 5'1, size 2 stepsister-and I came up short in those comparisions. She was the beauty of the house and I was the smart one. Then, I never really saw me as who I was and still have trouble doing so. (It never ceases to amaze me what loving parents inadvertantly do to their kids).

But, since I am much larger now, "BBW" does apply although I prefer the term "dangerously curvy."

suebee · 10-05-2011, 10:28 AM

When I was cyber-dating I described myself as a BBW, and my brother (of all people lol) told me that I didn't fit in that category. The more I saw on the sites, the more I tended to agree that the term seemed to be used to self-describe women who were plus-sized. I'm at the upper end of commercial sized clothing without going into the plus sizes, so I began clicking the "a few extra pounds" category.

Personally I consider myself to be fluffy.

1QuirkyKiwi · 10-05-2011, 11:54 AM

["3"]I use the various terminologies; BBW, Rubenesque, Cuddly, Curvy, Full Figured, Large and Lovely, Fat, etc. I've never like the term 'thick' to me it suggests NO curves and the body shape of a tree trunk! NOT very sexy! LOL!

I've been fat most of my life - I come from a family of fat women who are also tall (Polynesian and Italian) and tall Norwegians. My weight and size have NEVER been an issue for me as I've always been physically active with competitive (yet, I'm not competitive by nature) swimming 800 and 1500 metres freestyle and Yoga.

Earlier this year, my size and weight saved me from a lot of damage when I had an accident - my fat protected the part of my Spine with Spina Bifida.

I really DO hate the fetish Fat Admirers - [As I said in the BBW thread, I do admire BBW for their soft curves, but, it's NOT a sexual admiration. I also admire slender women, too. For me, it's the love of the female body shape an curves - I see what Rembrandt, Boticelli, Matisse and Rubens saw in the artistic beauty of a woman's body......A sensualness of love, life giving and nurturing essences. /SIZE]

ScandalAndy · 10-05-2011, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by SecretAgentMa'am

And there you have it. As a size 16, I'm plenty fat enough to have a hard time finding clothes (most regular stores don't carry my size, and neither do most plus size stores), more than fat enough to have complete strangers make nasty comments to be about my weight, definitely fat enough to have doctors dismiss just about every physical problem I have as weight related and tell me to lose weight instead of actually treating me, but not fat enough to qualify here.

In my defense, I did say that I was probably wearing my judgy pants and needed to examine that. In my personal experience I can find lots of clothes in your size, but I'm probably looking in different places.

Nobody has told you that you "don't qualify here", I was solely stating how I felt about it at the time. I still got nasty comments as a 12/14 when I was 15 years old, so I'm not really interested in excluding anyone. Mean words hurt no matter what size you are. If you feel like a BBW then by all means please claim it. We need all the support and visibility we can get.

10-04-2011, 11:48 PM	#1
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10-05-2011, 11:54 AM	#7
1QuirkyKiwi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: BBW. Unique femininity that does not encompass the western paradigm. Preferred Pronoun?: Anything Respectful! Relationship Status: Single, Happy, not Desparate or Looking, but Open to Possibilities... Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Europe and Aotearoa on a 5:2 ratio. Posts: 2,308 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,003 Thanked 6,035 Times in 1,617 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	["3"]I use the various terminologies; BBW, Rubenesque, Cuddly, Curvy, Full Figured, Large and Lovely, Fat, etc. I've never like the term 'thick' to me it suggests NO curves and the body shape of a tree trunk! NOT very sexy! LOL! I've been fat most of my life - I come from a family of fat women who are also tall (Polynesian and Italian) and tall Norwegians. My weight and size have NEVER been an issue for me as I've always been physically active with competitive (yet, I'm not competitive by nature) swimming 800 and 1500 metres freestyle and Yoga. Earlier this year, my size and weight saved me from a lot of damage when I had an accident - my fat protected the part of my Spine with Spina Bifida. I really DO hate the fetish Fat Admirers - [As I said in the BBW thread, I do admire BBW for their soft curves, but, it's NOT a sexual admiration. I also admire slender women, too. For me, it's the love of the female body shape an curves - I see what Rembrandt, Boticelli, Matisse and Rubens saw in the artistic beauty of a woman's body......A sensualness of love, life giving and nurturing essences. /SIZE] __________________ What will make the difference to me is your strength of character and what's in your heart...