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kannon · 10-12-2011, 04:34 PM

Thanks Cocky. It really is up to each individual to decide for themselves. I guess I'll play it by ear and wait for the right moment to reveal that part of myself.

J. Mason · 10-13-2011, 03:18 AM

I agree with Cocky, you have to do what you think is right and comfortable to you.

I am upfront about being trans, I believe in honesty and if women run off, well as my friends say often, it's their loss.

DapperButch · 10-13-2011, 05:49 AM

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Originally Posted by J. Mason

I agree with Cocky, you have to do what you think is right and comfortable to you.

I am upfront about being trans, I believe in honesty and if women run off, well as my friends say often, it's their loss.

Hey, J. Mason. I am just thinking out loud here....but, I am wondering if it would be different for you if you were taking hormones and were read as male?

Isn't it kind of a different situation from those who are taking hormones? They are read as male and have to tell someone that they were assigned female at birth. You are seen as female and have to tell someone that inside you are male. The women that each of you are coming out to are coming from opposite places.

Make sense? No disrespect meant, I am just thinking outloud here and wondering your thoughts on this.

J. Mason · 10-13-2011, 06:05 AM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

Hey, J. Mason. I am just thinking out loud here....but, I am wondering if it would be different for you if you were taking hormones and were read as male?

Isn't it kind of a different situation from those who are taking hormones? They are read as male and have to tell someone that they were assigned female at birth. You are seen as female and have to tell someone that inside you are male. The women that each of you are coming out to are coming from opposite places.

Make sense? No disrespect meant, I am just thinking outloud here and wondering your thoughts on this.

I am read as male to most people, to some I am not. It would prolly be a different situation but I can only speak for myself, when I do get everything done (surgeries and hormones, etc) I will still be open and honest about who I am, no holds barred.

The ladies that I have told about myself knew me when I ID'ed as butch, have been pretty accepting about it, maybe it is because they have taken it upon themselves to educate themselves about transmen and the things it encompasses.

Again I can only speak for myself.

DapperButch · 10-13-2011, 10:18 AM

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Originally Posted by J. Mason

I am read as male to most people, to some I am not. It would prolly be a different situation but I can only speak for myself, when I do get everything done (surgeries and hormones, etc) I will still be open and honest about who I am, no holds barred.

The ladies that I have told about myself knew me when I ID'ed as butch, have been pretty accepting about it, maybe it is because they have taken it upon themselves to educate themselves about transmen and the things it encompasses.

Again I can only speak for myself.

Got it. Thanks for your thoughts.

kannon · 10-13-2011, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by J. Mason

I agree with Cocky, you have to do what you think is right and comfortable to you.

I am upfront about being trans, I believe in honesty and if women run off, well as my friends say often, it's their loss.

I believe in honesty as well. I'm not sure what you mean by being upfront. Do you tell women the day you meet them?

For me, I will not share personal information with someone until I've developed a certain level of trust. I've met some women that proved to be very untrustworthy. I've learned to take my time and watch people's behavior rather than listen to their words. After a period of time I really get to know what that person is made of. I don't listen to what other people say about them. I base my opinions on my own observations and experiences with them.

I will share this aspect of myself after I've developed a bond with someone.

10-12-2011, 04:34 PM	#1
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