Your Death and Post-Death Preferences

[SelfMadeMan]

These conversations are never easy for me... since I was a small child, death was my biggest fear - still is I suppose. I used to be afraid to spend the night away from home as a child - I had this paralyzing fear that something would happen to my parents. I would get up at night sometimes and go check on them. Weird I know, but I think maybe it was a premonition that I would lose them sooner than I should - I was 24 when my Mom died, and lost my Dad two years later. It causes me physical pain when I think even briefly of something happening to Stacy. So it isn't even that I fear my own death, as much as I fear losing those I love.

All that being said - I would love to go WITH Stacy when we're very old, surrounded by our children and grandchildren so I can tell them all one more time (hopefully) that they were our greatest joy in life and how proud they've made us. I want our friends to know they were loved and appreciated as well. I want to have made a difference.

Neither of us want a funeral - we're adamant about that. I am not a religious person and don't want any type of religious ceremony held for me. I want any useable organs donated - I am a registered donor - and then cremate what's left and scatter my ashes somewhere beautiful... doesn't really matter where, although the Grand Canyon would be cool. I don't want any formal mourning event held for me... but a party. I want my life and memory to be celebrated with love and laughter, music and dancing. Matter of fact, I want to pre pay for a keg so I can buy my friends one more round

[tapu]

The idea of being "sprinkled" or "scattered" skeeves me. Was it Beetlejuice when the dead women were falling apart at the end, or was that some other movie?

[Apocalipstic]

I don't want to die alone.
Thats all for now

More later.

[tapu]

Originally Posted by Apocalipstic

I don't want to die alone.
Thats all for now

More later.

Do you mean, like, die alone in the frozen tundra? Or, die alone without a lover there?

[Andrea]

As others have said: Harvest what can be used and then cremate me. Place me as close to Rene as possible. Preferably within his arms. This is if Rene goes first.

If I go first Rene gets to decide because my wishes go against his religion and I don't wish to put him through that.

No funeral. We agree on that. A celebration of life would be a nice touch but not required.

[princessbelle]

I have one rule in my relationship...that's that i go first.

I do not want to be left alone. Send me out with a song, a toast and a tip of your hat. I'd much rather be "over there" than here by myself.

[hot-not]

I love love love to have parties and I entertain frequently. When I die I want my friends to threw the biggest damn party I have ever had; loud music, outside fire, dancing, drinking, meeting new people, quiet places to talk, fun games to play... I want them to party as though I am there ...

My body was a vessel - when I die give it to whom ever may benefit from it and burn the rest.... it anyone needs to see my dead body for psychological acceptance that I am gone--see it fast cause there will be no funeral or viewing of the body.

If I die very old-- I son will have to have his children and their children throw the party... Smiiles

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by tapu

Do you mean, like, die alone in the frozen tundra? Or, die alone without a lover there?

Now that you mention it, I would prefer not do freeze to death. lol!!!!

It does not have to be a lover, but I would like someone I love to be holding my hand as I dies, yes.

I would like to be cremated with icons of the Virgen de la Guadalupe and my ashes maybe added to a coral reef, something water related.

I would like "I am the Walrus" to be played.

[macele]

i am a donor.

i don't want to be viewed, nor do i want to be at a funeral home. i want a service held at the church, ... this is for my mother and daddy. i want their lives to remember with mine. preach, sing, play the piano, ... the old-fashioned southern way. this is not about just me.

i want to be buried. because i'm going to rise again. like a phoenix! where i am buried, i don't mind.

make me comfortable. mesh shorts and a white tshirt. socks, i want brand new socks on lol.

life should be remembered. memory is one of our greatest gifts. i just hope the memories of me are remembered in caring, in competition, in imagination, in written words, celebrated with laughter and tears. yes, tears. i love tears.

[Queerasfck]

Organ donor-yes
cremated-yes
ashes thrown out over Heinz Field-hell yes!