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Old 10-29-2011, 09:46 AM   #1
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Glad to hear she is referring it to a race. Plastic utensils helped me with the metal taste. It was a couple weeks after chemo, when food started tasting better. I ate a LOT of watermelon during chemo. Dairy didn't taste good to me during chemo and I usually eat yogurt everyday.
There were days I felt the same way. Cancer sucks and its normal to feel that way somedays. Has her Dr suggested an antidepressant?

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Hey everyone

Sorry I haven't been in for awhile. Feels like we're in a holding pattern. My mom is home at her own house (now sans car thanks to my sister), which is probably good as she would be driving and shouldn't be at this point.

She has a visiting nurse daily, an aide who comes every other day for a couple hours, and a friend who spends a good chunk of each day with her.

Her weight has dropped a little since leaving the hospital, and she struggles to eat and drink at all. Some days better than others...but too frequently I hear that she managed half a carton of yogurt for the day. She was eating better in the hospital, even though she complained about the quality of the food.

She's on the TPN 24 hours a day...so that's enough food and liquid to sustain her life, but not to thrive. She really does need to eat and drink as well.

The timeframe for the Avastin clearing her system has passed and they are now talking about the plan for seeing what the rest of the mass is. What they find will determine whether she gets on a plane to come here, or has to stay there for another procedure.

She's 2/3 of the way through her chemo...and is now describing it as a race....can she eat and drink enough when she's sick and exhausted and everything tastes like metal to be strong enough to get through it? She has the expectation that, once the chemo is over, she will be able to eat and drink and have no trouble. According to the doctor, that may not be the case...but I'm glad she believes that. It can't hurt.

I know she's happier to be out of the hospital and at her own house, but I'm also worried about the feeling she frequently describes....that she now understands how people long ago just took to their beds, turned their face to the wall, refused to eat or drink, and died. She says she feels like that herself most days.

It's hard to hear.
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My update:

Half way through radiation, so have 3 weeks left. I am feeling good. I am getting some energy back. Been swimming and walking the dog, again. My feet still hurt, but seem to be getting better. Adjusting to living alone. Surgeon and Onocologist submitted to my insurance to approve a double mastectomy. This has been a hard one for me to accept. I am hoping insurance approves a reconstruction, too.
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My update:

Half way through radiation, so have 3 weeks left. I am feeling good. I am getting some energy back. Been swimming and walking the dog, again. My feet still hurt, but seem to be getting better. Adjusting to living alone. Surgeon and Onocologist submitted to my insurance to approve a double mastectomy. This has been a hard one for me to accept. I am hoping insurance approves a reconstruction, too.
Hi, Debby. I am an asshole. I just realized I never responded to this post after asking for information! Instead I jumped on the whole dairy thing!

I am glad to hear that things are going so well. I was worried that the reason that we hadn't heard anything from you was b/c you were very worn out. That is great to hear that you have been swimming and walking the dog!

Glad the feet are getting better, too!

I did not realize that you have to get a double mastectomy. I'm sorry.

I would think that mastectomy approval means automatic reconstruction approval?
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Old 11-05-2011, 12:35 PM   #4
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Hi, Debby. I am an asshole. I just realized I never responded to this post after asking for information! Instead I jumped on the whole dairy thing!

I am glad to hear that things are going so well. I was worried that the reason that we hadn't heard anything from you was b/c you were very worn out. That is great to hear that you have been swimming and walking the dog!

Glad the feet are getting better, too!

I did not realize that you have to get a double mastectomy. I'm sorry.

I would think that mastectomy approval means automatic reconstruction approval?
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You are NOT an asshole.
I am starting to get wiped out and radiation burns this week. Gonna slow me down a bit. No more swimming until the burns heal.
Doesn't mean the recontruction will be approved. Shame to have to battle insurance and cancer at the same time.

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My update:

Half way through radiation, so have 3 weeks left. I am feeling good. I am getting some energy back. Been swimming and walking the dog, again. My feet still hurt, but seem to be getting better. Adjusting to living alone. Surgeon and Onocologist submitted to my insurance to approve a double mastectomy. This has been a hard one for me to accept. I am hoping insurance approves a reconstruction, too.
Hi you. Glad you are oun N about. Good news, the pending surgery will remove the bad gunky that may be hiding there, and .....the reconstruction will give you a chance to pick what cup size u want to b.

okay, it's not quite that easy, but I know thousands of success stories over the years that I have been active in this field.
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Living alone was tougher than cancer surgery and recovery over 7 years ago. We broke up in Oct. I was diagnosed the next May..Life was drive thru's, eating off paper plates, struggling to choose dish patterns and shelf paper... Bachelorhood was a big surprise at every meal , and ...the decisions on which appliances I needed ..ugh...

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Hi Tommi,

Might be great to be a smaller cup size, too. Clothes will fit better and it will be easier on my back.
Living alone has been an adjustment, but much better than living in a bad relationship.

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Hi you. Glad you are oun N about. Good news, the pending surgery will remove the bad gunky that may be hiding there, and .....the reconstruction will give you a chance to pick what cup size u want to b.

okay, it's not quite that easy, but I know thousands of success stories over the years that I have been active in this field.
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Living alone was tougher than cancer surgery and recovery over 7 years ago. We broke up in Oct. I was diagnosed the next May..Life was drive thru's, eating off paper plates, struggling to choose dish patterns and shelf paper... Bachelorhood was a big surprise at every meal , and ...the decisions on which appliances I needed ..ugh...
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Oh dear, Debby...radiation burns...do I even want to know? {{{hugs}}} to you on all fronts!

I have to agree with the dairy issue Dapper speaks about. I have a very strong oppionion when it comes to dietary issues, so I'll keep my mouth shut. But if anyone wants to hear, feel free to contact me!

I am doing pretty good! Thanks for asking Dapper! I have another procedure coming up on the 21st and then I hope to be on the mend. Sorry if I am vague about all of the details. I tend to be an open book about almost everything in my life except for health issues. My mother was "dying" from age 27 on, so it touches a nerve in me to discuss my own health. I'd rather think there is nothing can keep me down for long!

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Oh dear, Debby...radiation burns...do I even want to know? {{{hugs}}} to you on all fronts!

I have to agree with the dairy issue Dapper speaks about. I have a very strong oppionion when it comes to dietary issues, so I'll keep my mouth shut. But if anyone wants to hear, feel free to contact me!

I am doing pretty good! Thanks for asking Dapper! I have another procedure coming up on the 21st and then I hope to be on the mend. Sorry if I am vague about all of the details. I tend to be an open book about almost everything in my life except for health issues. My mother was "dying" from age 27 on, so it touches a nerve in me to discuss my own health. I'd rather think there is nothing can keep me down for long!

Thinking of you all!
Hey, Catalina. I for one would like it very much if you posted your thoughts on dairy and diet here. I am a strong believer that the reason I ended up with cancer was my dietary choices. I doubt that anyone here is not open to hearing about nutrition, especially as it relates to lower incidents of cancer! I am sure many of us here (including those that just read and do not write), think about recurrence a great deal. I would love to hear your thoughts!

I hope that the 21st goes well!

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Let me say that each and every one of YOU are such Brave Warriors! I have been in and out of this thread at times, since joining the Planet in May this year! I came then as someone who had been a caregiver.
Recently I was diagnosed with Endometrial Cancer...found on biopsy of uterus after an abnormal US showed some thickening of one side of uterine wall. My gynecologist feels this is in the earliest of stages and I am given a prognosis of 95% survival rate! I will take those odds!
I was referred to a Gynecological Oncologist in a town an hr. from me...at a cancer treatment center. This Friday is my first appointment...11/11/11..cool huh? I had my (yearly) mammo done last Friday to take results to her..and am having a colonoscopy done tomorrow with anesthesia. The Oncologist wanted those results also.
I am okay with facing all of this..and I am in a very positive frame of mind. I am going to fight this..all the way. My battle isn't as tough as most of you have faced...and I am in awe of each and every one of you. Some are facing this battle alone..some are with someone to face it with them..I am in that camp of no one to face this with me. For me, that is hard...but I have to trudge on...you know.
I have days of being afraid, of being so alone, and feeling so lonely...I try to stay busy, occupy my mind..but my heart..it is just not satisfied..it wants what it wants...you know? I know there are schools of thought..and I have thought them all..I just would wish for someone to hold my hand, tel me I am going to be okay, to care about me..and to be by my side...
Sorry I am crying and losing thoughts...I will come back later..
Thanks all you Brave Warriors..you make ME want to be just like YOU! I heart you all...Clay
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