Anger and Gender Smashing

i totally understand vulnerabilities, i understand anger and rage, i understnd most emotions....what i do not undertsand is the intention with which people attack. when you proclaim love whether it be a relationship, friendship or companionshp you have entered in to an 'emotional contract of trust and respect'. anger at any of its hieghts for me, has never resulted in such distainful words with intention of destruction.

in so far as how you can hurt a person, that is not in question for me we all know the answer.... but how you can one look yourself in the mirror after attemting to 'murder' someone emotionally, is the question do you see a monster? do you see pain? do you see a lack of respect?

if i say something truely horrible to someone i carefor, it takes me months to live with myself. so now, no matter how angry or enraged i am, i stay mindful of potential pains i can cause, they can last a lifetime!
i fight fairly i expect that from soemone i have allowed in my life.