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11-12-2011, 07:57 AM
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What does your gut-feeling tell you? Can you call her anytime?
As the other posters have said; are they limitations of when and where you can spend time together? Have you seen where she lives? Does ahe have a Polyamourous relationship with her 'girlfriend' and hasn't said? It's hard not to build your hopes up about someone, but, sometimes, we have no control over who our heart desires, so caution is needed to protect yourself from getting hurt. I'm upfront with the fact I share a house with my English cousin - I've also posted often on here that I do.
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11-12-2011, 08:03 AM
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Yes your gut. Your alarms have got be be going off all over the place.
Use your common sense, if we were presenting this to you, what advice would you give? Even if you have seen where she is, lots can be hidden or covered up, even innocently in a one time visit. If it is this complicated from the beginning, guess what.... |
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11-12-2011, 08:09 AM
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IF she lives with the girlfriend, (I noticed you didnt say ex-girlfriend) for financial reasons, make sure she has her finances in order before she moves in with you. Do not offer to help her out with those finances, dont send her money if she cries help. I dont know you, I dont know the girl, but I've read MANY MANY stories on how someone helped the love of their lives, financially, and never saw the girl, or the money again.
call me a cynic if you please, but reality costs far less than fantasy. |
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11-12-2011, 08:35 AM
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I originally posted femme, but not quite I am femme. Maybe a 'tweener. Relationship Status:
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Have to agree with everyone. The red flag should have been when she said she lives with her gf for financial reasons.
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12-18-2011, 10:12 PM
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