FTM's Attracted to Femmes

ButchEire · 12-23-2011, 11:27 PM

I haven't found that to be true at all, and everyone is different and it has nothing to do with how they identify. I myself am attracted only to femmes.

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

I have noticed that many of FTM friends date primarily butch women or FTM and I wanted to know how many FTMs are attracted to femme women? Is there a reason why you are attracted to femmes and are you also attracted to butch women or other FTM as well?

veryfemme · 12-23-2011, 11:29 PM

it seems like to me every time I find a nice guy attractive they tell me they are not interested in me because I am too femme and it sucks. I know everyone is different but no guys has proven me wrong just yet.

ButchEire · 12-23-2011, 11:33 PM

Too femme? That's funny. When did such a ridiculous boundary develop?

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

it seems like to me every time I find a nice guy attractive they tell me they are not interested in me because I am too femme and it sucks. I know everyone is different but no guys has proven me wrong just yet.

veryfemme · 12-23-2011, 11:37 PM

I really couldnt tell you but I have been turned away for being too girly and its hard and I hate it

atomiczombie · 12-24-2011, 12:31 AM

I am all about the femmes. I have no romantic or sexual interest in the fellas. But hey, there's nothing wrong with FTM's who like butches and other FTMs. To each their own.

veryfemme · 12-24-2011, 12:46 AM

I agree completely!

mustangjeano · 12-24-2011, 12:55 AM

There is no such thing as "too girly" in my book.
The more femme the better.

Ebon · 12-28-2011, 08:49 PM

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

I really couldnt tell you but I have been turned away for being too girly and its hard and I hate it

Never too girly. The girlier the better like Bo said. I like someone that will balance out my masculine energy with their feminine energy. A friend of mine got cornered once in a lesbian bar because she's femme. They assumed that she was straight. I thought it was very narrow minded of them. For a long time I didn't realize I could have a girlfriend that was femme, hell I didn't even know what it was. A friend of mine said to me that I liked straight girls so I thought I did, until I found the butch-femme community and realized that I just liked femmes.

Before anyone starts a lesson on gendernomics I realize that straight girls can also be butch and femme girls can be straight etc and so on....

veryfemme · 12-30-2011, 08:38 AM

I love that you said that about the balancing of energy because that is so key to me is finding that balance between my extreme feminine side their masculine side.

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Originally Posted by Ebon

Never too girly. The girlier the better like Bo said. I like someone that will balance out my masculine energy with their feminine energy. A friend of mine got cornered once in a lesbian bar because she's femme. They assumed that she was straight. I thought it was very narrow minded of them. For a long time I didn't realize I could have a girlfriend that was femme, hell I didn't even know what it was. A friend of mine said to me that I liked straight girls so I thought I did, until I found the butch-femme community and realized that I just liked femmes.

Before anyone starts a lesson on gendernomics I realize that straight girls can also be butch and femme girls can be straight etc and so on....

alphadaddy · 07-30-2012, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

I really couldnt tell you but I have been turned away for being too girly and its hard and I hate it

Is there really such a thing...i can't even imagine

Duchess · 08-29-2012, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by veryfemme

I really couldnt tell you but I have been turned away for being too girly and its hard and I hate it

I can totally relate!!

Leigh · 08-29-2012, 11:37 PM

Just came in to say hi to everyone

QueenofSmirks · 12-24-2011, 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by ButchEire

Too femme? That's funny. When did such a ridiculous boundary develop?

Frankly I don't understand why people get so offended when they find out someone isn't attracted to them. I don't/won't slam anyone for their preferences. It isn't my place to judge them. Someone who says someone is "too butch" or "too femme" is really just saying "I am interested in X" or "I fit best with X", but of course, it could be said in a gentler way.

I think the majority of people are attracted to a particular segment, or segments on the gender spectrum. It's less common for people to be attracted to every single possible gender /gender ID.

If someone doesn't like you, or your apprearance, or your eye color, or your clothes... just move on. It really IS that simple.

12-24-2011, 12:31 AM	#5
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12-24-2011, 12:55 AM	#7
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12-23-2011, 11:29 PM	#2
veryfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme/lady Relationship Status: Spoken For Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 83 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15 Thanked 227 Times in 41 Posts Rep Power: 3539929	it seems like to me every time I find a nice guy attractive they tell me they are not interested in me because I am too femme and it sucks. I know everyone is different but no guys has proven me wrong just yet.

12-23-2011, 11:37 PM	#4
veryfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme/lady Relationship Status: Spoken For Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 83 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15 Thanked 227 Times in 41 Posts Rep Power: 3539929	I really couldnt tell you but I have been turned away for being too girly and its hard and I hate it

12-24-2011, 12:46 AM	#6
veryfemme Junior Member How Do You Identify?: High Femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme/lady Relationship Status: Spoken For Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 83 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15 Thanked 227 Times in 41 Posts Rep Power: 3539929	I agree completely!