What are your three non-negotiables (in a relationship)?

kittygrrl · 12-24-2011, 05:09 PM

I think three (really wanted to say five) is healthy (with some things being givens) because the more "I have to have this" it takes the less open we are to what life has to offer..life isn't perfect and we aren't either, thats ok, in life there has to be sweet and bitter..but balance is what we are seeking..(imo)

VintageFemme · 01-03-2012, 01:11 PM

honesty
loyalty
strength [heart, soul & spirit]

you would think these are all a given in any relationship but they are in fact quite rare. even the smallest of white lies and betrayals are commonplace in most relationships and finding true strength of heart, is probably the hardest and yet most important trait in a relationship for me.

foxyshaman · 01-03-2012, 01:23 PM

First and foremost a sense of humor; cause I am kick ass funny and if you don't laugh I will be sad...
interest in tantra or sacred sex - wham bams - need not apply
deeply spiritual - I will accept yours if you accept mine

Apocalipstic · 01-03-2012, 02:26 PM

no birds as pets

no snakes in the house

must love cats and dogs and allow them to sleep in the bed

OS Butch · 01-03-2012, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Apocalipstic

no birds as pets

no snakes in the house

must love cats and dogs and allow them to sleep in the bed

Dang! Another deal breaker! No birds or snakes, love dogs and cats. I have a Boxer, but he has his own bed.

Novelafemme · 01-03-2012, 02:51 PM

1. respect and understanding for and of my daughters. they come first.

2. a healthy relationship with food. it's a big part of my life but not the center of it.

3. loves to laugh.....at me and with me.

especially about farting, pooping, and everything bathroom oriented.

01-03-2012, 01:11 PM	#2
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foxyshaman Member How Do You Identify?: spiritually minded dirt dog Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: canada Posts: 898 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,957 Thanked 2,592 Times in 663 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	First and foremost a sense of humor; cause I am kick ass funny and if you don't laugh I will be sad... interest in tantra or sacred sex - wham bams - need not apply deeply spiritual - I will accept yours if you accept mine __________________ Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail. Muriel Strode

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Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	no birds as pets no snakes in the house must love cats and dogs and allow them to sleep in the bed __________________

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Novelafemme Timed Out - TOS Drama How Do You Identify?: ........ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ........ Posts: 2,402 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4,981 Thanked 8,925 Times in 1,834 Posts Rep Power: 0	1. respect and understanding for and of my daughters. they come first. 2. a healthy relationship with food. it's a big part of my life but not the center of it. 3. loves to laugh.....at me and with me. especially about farting, pooping, and everything bathroom oriented.