What are your three non-negotiables (in a relationship)?

[Sassy]

Originally Posted by Sassy

I have one non-negotiable.... Spirituality. You must be open-minded, open-hearted and interested in alternative faiths and spiritual practices at least to the point of being willing to discuss/debate philosophical differences and participate in rituals, etc. on special occasions.

And then one solid, undeniable truth... I'm a Sagittarius. The wild wanderings -- verbal, mental, emotional, physical, sensual and metaphysical -- of a Jupiter's child can be tiring. If you have days where you don't have the energy to get off the couch, then you do not have the energy for me.

After entirely too much thought on this subject lately, I have to amend/add something:
Health conscious.
Willing to prepare, or at least eat, healthy food. Not bring junk food in the home. Take walks, ride bikes, visit the gym, etc. ... good for me in more than just the dinner-and-a-movie kind of way.

[PumaJ]

1) No drugs, no alcohol, no cigarettes/pipes/cigars.
2) Must like cats.
3) Be able to own one's own emotional stuff & be honest.
4) Be a capable, caring top when it comes to sex.

Sorry that's four. Oh well

[Hack]

Fascinating what people focus on in this thread. Further proof we all make our own happiness.

1. Let's start with what I am not -- your rebound guy, your consolation prize, your soft place to land after you've been dumped or your revenge romp.

2. I am a nice guy who is going to be nice to you, your mom, your grandmother, your friends, your siblings, etc. If the fact that I am going to treat you right is an issue, then I am not your guy.

3. Own your stuff. Personal responsibility and accountability are both huge to me because of what I have been through the past almost 26 years. Be an adult, please.

[SuddenlyWestFemme]

1) Edgy but KIND. There was a time when I really wanted/needed edgy with a bit of kind, but time and experience has switched that. I want and need kind first with a bit of Edgy!

2) Interested in family (as I'm a package deal).

3) GREAT kisser! This is not-negotiable.

[Mtn]

Integrity
Kindness
Compassion

[JAGG]

Great sense of adventure
Great sense of humor
Good communication

[1QuirkyKiwi]

Originally Posted by Sassy

After entirely too much thought on this subject lately, I have to amend/add something:
Health conscious.
Willing to prepare, or at least eat, healthy food. Not bring junk food in the home. Take walks, ride bikes, visit the gym, etc. ... good for me in more than just the dinner-and-a-movie kind of way.

I get a few potential dates that don’t eat healthily and are put off by the fact that I do and that I’m vegan and have been for nearly 30 years. I’m not a lover of cakes, biscuits and many other types of junk food….never have been.

I ask before the first date if she/hy has a problem with me being vegan and would they eat vegan foods at home, should the relationship become serious….most have said they would.

I’m often complimented on my nicely toned body and how I don’t move like a BBW. I’m also complimented on my fitness and high energy levels….I’ve said before in threads that I’ve always enjoyed being active; doing Yoga, T’ai Chi, Swimming, walking, etc. I’ve never let my Spina Bifida or my Plus size body be an issue….I can’t do anything about my genetics when it comes to my body size, but, I can maintain a good fitness level.

My Ex. gave me the nickname ‘Xenia Onatopp’ because she liked the way I held her gently with my thighs when we, well….you know!

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by SuddenlyWestFemme

1) Edgy but KIND. There was a time when I really wanted/needed edgy with a bit of kind, but time and experience has switched that. I want and need kind first with a bit of Edgy!

2) Interested in family (as I'm a package deal).

3) GREAT kisser! This is not-negotiable.

Absolutely. If I don't enjoy their kiss, nothing else will follow. Of course, I don't have to be in a relationship with someone to kiss them.

[LaneyDoll]

I am not going to list the things I feel that do not need to list. If you lack honesty, integrity, stability, a job (or substitute like pursuit of an education/retirement etc) then you may as well move on. And do not think that I will not catch you in a lie-I have an almost photographic memory.

My dealbreakers are:

* what you lack-hygiene, manners, sex drive, confidence, a positive outlook
* what you are addicted to-smoking, alcohol, gambling
* what you are not-interesting, kind, thoughtful, accepting of my kids

[deb_U_taunt]

I keep busy – must be able to match my energy level or accept it. I haven’t made this a priority in the past and it’s been an issue. I don’t expect you to keep up, but don’t expect me to slow down.

I am gentle and I like peace (does not mean passive) – if you need/like to argue or on a constant vent about injustices at work, home, life. I am not the woman for you.

She must be able to live with and accept change. Let's keep out of the rut.

[JAGG]

No druggies drunks or smokers or addicts past or present.
Strong convictions/good self-esteem and self-worth.
Must be affectionate with a sweet kind compassionate heart.

[starryeyes]

1. Treat me like the special woman that I am.
2. Must kiss me good morning and good night every day! No excuses!
3. Let go, laugh and be silly.

:-D