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is offensive and demeaning to gay people |
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21 | 35.00% |
is harmless |
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9 | 15.00% |
is funny |
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1 | 1.67% |
is something I have done, but no longer do |
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9 | 15.00% |
is something I have done and still do |
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0 | 0% |
is something I see often |
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2 | 3.33% |
is something I haven't seen in the last decade |
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23 | 38.33% |
is something I sometimes see |
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13 | 21.67% |
makes me feel bad |
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5 | 8.33% |
is worth speaking up against |
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16 | 26.67% |
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If we are not willing to say "Hey, that is wrong/offensive, even amoungst us," then we really should not be allowed to complain when someone outside of the group does it. We should all stand up for what we believe to be right-even if the people in the wrong are ourselves or our peers. ![]()
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I don't like the gesture. It's up there with "that's so gay" for me. It's definitely something I speak up about when I see it.
I think your mom feeling hurt that you would think she was being anti-gay is something that needs to be addressed with all allies, whether we're talking about allies to the queer community, trans community, POC, women etc. Many people think they are allies, and that some things that they do or say they don't "mean" in an offensive way. Unfortunately, intention does not always make it any less offensive or derogatory. I do think there's a difference between being homophobic and saying something homophobic. It's definitely a learning process for allies, since they don't know what it's like to be a part of the queer community (or other similar communities), so sometimes they don't consider how certain comments meant in jest might hurt others. But helping them through that learning process is important, imo. I also want to make a comment about "being offensive/offended" and the idea that because someone finds something hurtful or offensive that they are being "too sensitive." I don't think understanding the power of words/terms/gestures that target marginalized groups is being "too sensitive." It's understanding privilege and how it functions against certain target groups who don't have that same kind of power. Quote:
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