OFOS Butches & Femmes

clay · 01-24-2012, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Bootsandheels

*Struts in so you all can hear me coming... Oh can I get an "AMEN" here?! THANK YOU for sharing everyone! OFOS is SO misunderstood and mistaken out here in the pacific NW...the butches seem terrified of me or something...haven't they ever seen or been around a real lady with integrity, honesty and a femme who knows how to treat them like gold and drop them to their knees with one well placed touch? Good Lord...I'm about to lose faith and heart. However...I will NOT lose these vital 'ingredients' that make me who I am...a fierce sexy OFOS femme with high standards who knows what she wants and needs and will not settle for less. Maybe that means I'll be alone but that's ok...I'd rather be alone than settle for anything less than a gentlmyn butch! *Curtsies and exits stage left....

Bootsie...YOU are an amazingly beautiful soul...your presence illuminates the room....as does your impeccable manners, refined elegance, a true lady in every sense of the word, and your aura...of how you are who you are...and apologize to no one..you OWN you...you are "felt" long before you enter a room...powerful, sensuous, and so decadently elegant! Have a cup of mexican hot chocolate, gorgeous!!! THANKS for the validation, the affirmations, and being YOU, my friend!! You exude "old fashioned" and "respect"..you carry YOU well.. WORK it Girl!!! bows and tip brim of fedora to all the ladies......Clay

1QuirkyKiwi · 01-24-2012, 10:41 AM

I love it when K gently kisses my hands and forehead and leads me gracefully to the table or door, etc, before doing the gentle(wo)manly thing of pulling out the chair or opening the door.

Yesterday, she escorted my to the Uni reception, wished me ‘Good luck’ and waited in the car with a book to read. Whilst helping me in and out of the car hy help my coat.

It’s too early to say whether this is her Army training and the rank she held of Major, or if it’s how she was also raised….it’s fun discovering! LOL!

Is this chivalry common place among veterans of the Military, or is it just a typical British Army thing?

mariamma · 04-28-2012, 12:37 AM

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Originally Posted by claybaby

Bootsie...YOU are an amazingly beautiful soul...your presence illuminates the room....as does your impeccable manners, refined elegance, a true lady in every sense of the word, and your aura...of how you are who you are...and apologize to no one..you OWN you...you are "felt" long before you enter a room...powerful, sensuous, and so decadently elegant! Have a cup of mexican hot chocolate, gorgeous!!! THANKS for the validation, the affirmations, and being YOU, my friend!! You exude "old fashioned" and "respect"..you carry YOU well.. WORK it Girl!!! bows and tip brim of fedora to all the ladies......Clay

Such a gentlemyn claybaby

Keep it up. Keep setting the bar for what an honorable butch/boi/stud is to us gratefully femmes.

Firedance · 05-07-2012, 03:41 PM

So I have a question for ya'll.

As a Femme, I know OFOS when I see it. But I've been wondering how my counterparts recognize an OFOS Femme when you meet one?

~Fire.

~ocean · 05-07-2012, 03:44 PM

hi ((( fire ))) from another femme , I've always felt the energy ~

OS Butch · 05-07-2012, 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Firedance

So I have a question for ya'll.

As a Femme, I know OFOS when I see it. But I've been wondering how my counterparts recognize an OFOS Femme when you meet one?

~Fire.

Actions speak louder than words. For me, I watch to see what the reaction is to my actions. Getting to a door before me is a little hint

I have just about stopped using OFOS because it seems so misunderstood almost as if it is a bad thing...I dunno. So, there might be Femmes out there that don't id as OFOS, just as there are a number of Butchly sorts that don't like the term OFOS.

Leigh · 05-07-2012, 08:22 PM

Its nice to know that OFOS butches do still exist

Firedance · 05-07-2012, 09:18 PM

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Originally Posted by OS Butch

Actions speak louder than words. For me, I watch to see what the reaction is to my actions. Getting to a door before me is a little hint

I have just about stopped using OFOS because it seems so misunderstood almost as if it is a bad thing...I dunno. So, there might be Femmes out there that don't id as OFOS, just as there are a number of Butchly sorts that don't like the term OFOS.

I almost had a little heart attack there! So, to clarify, have you almost stopped using the term, "OFOS", or have you almost stopped using the manners that OFOS refers to?

... Please, please tell me it's the first, and not the second option!

clay · 05-07-2012, 09:32 PM

My "OFOS" will never go away..it is ingrained into my soul and fabric and being.
I understand what OSB is saying...using those letters to describe oneself..well...sometimes is viewed in a negative way.
BUT what I have inside of me..doesn't ever leave..it is as deeply a part of me as is my heart and my blood...it is vital to who I am..and it doesn't have to be visible for it to be present..and my OFOS femme does indeed "feel it", sense it, and reap that energy from me...
For me, OFOS is not a part of the "good old days" or the 50's or about a woman being "less than" in MY world...it IS about being with manners, courtesies, respect, considerations, cavalierly manners, equality, voice,and many other things that will always be a part of my fabric and morals and has been part of me from my earliest days of being....just my .02.
I do like to open doors, pull out chairs, walk with my arm in small of her back, help her don/doff her coat, and walk on outside of her with elbow cupped in my hand..among so many other things...this is just what is part of me...my personal stuff I own...so much more to share BUT I do have to be in bed now..and up early....have a greta night...

Miss Scarlett · 05-08-2012, 04:56 AM

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Originally Posted by claybaby

My "OFOS" will never go away..it is ingrained into my soul and fabric and being.
I understand what OSB is saying...using those letters to describe oneself..well...sometimes is viewed in a negative way.
BUT what I have inside of me..doesn't ever leave..it is as deeply a part of me as is my heart and my blood...it is vital to who I am..and it doesn't have to be visible for it to be present..and my OFOS femme does indeed "feel it", sense it, and reap that energy from me...
For me, OFOS is not a part of the "good old days" or the 50's or about a woman being "less than" in MY world...it IS about being with manners, courtesies, respect, considerations, cavalierly manners, equality, voice,and many other things that will always be a part of my fabric and morals and has been part of me from my earliest days of being....just my .02.
I do like to open doors, pull out chairs, walk with my arm in small of her back, help her don/doff her coat, and walk on outside of her with elbow cupped in my hand..among so many other things...this is just what is part of me...my personal stuff I own...so much more to share BUT I do have to be in bed now..and up early....have a greta night...

Honey, this is one of the many things i just love about you...these things make me feel special, important and uninvisible...it reinforces the respect you have for me...yes, i do indeed "feel" it even when we're just sitting together...my inner OFOS feels and responds to your inner OFOS and quite often they communicate with each other without saying anything...

OS Butch · 05-08-2012, 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Firedance

I almost had a little heart attack there! So, to clarify, have you almost stopped using the term, "OFOS", or have you almost stopped using the manners that OFOS refers to?

... Please, please tell me it's the first, and not the second option!

LOL! OFOS is very much a part of me and that will not change....I just am more likely not to use it as an identifier. Femmes know it when the see it

Firedance · 05-09-2012, 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by OS Butch

LOL! OFOS is very much a part of me and that will not change....I just am more likely not to use it as an identifier. Femmes know it when the see it

Phew! I didn't want to lose another one of you because you were unappreciated!

And yes, we DO know it when we see it. But like you said, those manners aren't always welcomed.

My question is, is there anything about a Femme that tells you one would welcome that part of the dance?

kittygrrl · 05-07-2012, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by OS Butch

Actions speak louder than words. For me, I watch to see what the reaction is to my actions. Getting to a door before me is a little hint

I have just about stopped using OFOS

please don't. You're among friends here

01-24-2012, 10:41 AM	#2
1QuirkyKiwi Senior Member How Do You Identify?: BBW. Unique femininity that does not encompass the western paradigm. Preferred Pronoun?: Anything Respectful! Relationship Status: Single, Happy, not Desparate or Looking, but Open to Possibilities... Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Europe and Aotearoa on a 5:2 ratio. Posts: 2,308 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,003 Thanked 6,035 Times in 1,617 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	I love it when K gently kisses my hands and forehead and leads me gracefully to the table or door, etc, before doing the gentle(wo)manly thing of pulling out the chair or opening the door. Yesterday, she escorted my to the Uni reception, wished me ‘Good luck’ and waited in the car with a book to read. Whilst helping me in and out of the car hy help my coat. It’s too early to say whether this is her Army training and the rank she held of Major, or if it’s how she was also raised….it’s fun discovering! LOL! Is this chivalry common place among veterans of the Military, or is it just a typical British Army thing? __________________ What will make the difference to me is your strength of character and what's in your heart...

05-07-2012, 09:32 PM	#9
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,674 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	Disclaimer: This is MY personal opinion, is NOT about anyone else just ME, MYSELF, and I!!! So don't mean any offense to anyone..a My "OFOS" will never go away..it is ingrained into my soul and fabric and being. I understand what OSB is saying...using those letters to describe oneself..well...sometimes is viewed in a negative way. BUT what I have inside of me..doesn't ever leave..it is as deeply a part of me as is my heart and my blood...it is vital to who I am..and it doesn't have to be visible for it to be present..and my OFOS femme does indeed "feel it", sense it, and reap that energy from me... For me, OFOS is not a part of the "good old days" or the 50's or about a woman being "less than" in MY world...it IS about being with manners, courtesies, respect, considerations, cavalierly manners, equality, voice,and many other things that will always be a part of my fabric and morals and has been part of me from my earliest days of being....just my .02. I do like to open doors, pull out chairs, walk with my arm in small of her back, help her don/doff her coat, and walk on outside of her with elbow cupped in my hand..among so many other things...this is just what is part of me...my personal stuff I own...so much more to share BUT I do have to be in bed now..and up early....have a greta night... __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

05-07-2012, 03:41 PM	#4
Firedance Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Gender Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: she, Ma'am, My Lady Relationship Status: carrer girl Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Arlington TX Posts: 42 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 208 Thanked 257 Times in 33 Posts Rep Power: 3216264	So I have a question for ya'll. As a Femme, I know OFOS when I see it. But I've been wondering how my counterparts recognize an OFOS Femme when you meet one? ~Fire.

05-07-2012, 03:44 PM	#5
~ocean Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme blows a kiss off my finger tips * Preferred Pronoun?: ~ hey girl ~ Relationship Status: ~ single & content ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Massachusetts ~coastal Posts: 7,905 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 22,958 Thanked 16,043 Times in 4,727 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	hi ((( fire ))) from another femme , I've always felt the energy ~

05-07-2012, 08:22 PM	#7
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