Is Marriage for you?

starryeyes · 02-09-2012, 11:54 AM

I was in a hetero marriage for 2 years. I know being married to a woman who I felt that complete connection with would be different, but it gonna take me a while to get to that point, if ever. My whole idea of marriage is kinda spoiled with my experience, the media, the controversy, ect. I would want to have a ceremony of some sort, somethig special that was meaningful to us if I ever find a partner who would want to go there with me (lol). Now, when it gets to the point of kids, mortgages, insurance, etc I can totally see why a marriage that would be legally binding would be important.

To each their own, and congrats to the folks who are and will be getting legally married. It's amazing to see how far we have come.

Love!
Starry

LaneyDoll · 02-09-2012, 12:03 PM

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Originally Posted by starryeyes

To each their own, and congrats to the folks who are and will be getting legally married. It's amazing to see how far we have come.

Love this!!!

genghisfawn · 02-09-2012, 12:15 PM

I find that a lot of people say, "I don't care if they pass same-sex marriage or not. I don't need a piece of paper."

The thing is, whether you want to be married or not, it's a good thing for those who value marriage to be able to have what they want and need for their relationship. I like to encourage people to think of those they love and see equal rights as a necessity, not a privilege.

I am also the marrying kind.

SweetJane · 02-09-2012, 01:13 PM

Having been in a 36 year marriage and then a divorce, I can say that marriage does have its protections. And that's why I see same-sex marriage as a must for the whole country. It protects children, deals with medical and end-of-life issues, and property ownership and division. Not all of that is protected by the federal government, though some is protected by state civil union laws and some state same sex marriage laws.

I will also say that any marriage should not be a quick decision because it's hard to get out of legally and can get messy.

Marriage, like any long-term commitment, should be based on knowing someone really well and not just what they like to do in bed. It's about all of the little things that can bless or curse your life together if you decided to share a home. It's everything. So a strong friendship (that may be hot) is essential.

Would I marry again? I don't think so. Would I commit to a long-term relationship? Someday perhaps with the right person. But my standards are high and I really don't know if that's in my future.

Sachita · 02-09-2012, 01:14 PM

If I was with someone and I knew it was going to be forever then yes. When in a committed relationship you work hard to build a life together. You want to know that you're both safe to make investments, purchase a home, etc. When I was in a relationship we did have provisions and paperwork to protect us. Getting married makes it easier and perhaps more affordable.

I think we deserve the same rights, however if I got married it would be based on my feelings and love for my life partner.

View Poll Results: What is your ststus?
I am unmarried in my State or Country	103	58.52%
I am married in my State or Country	27	15.34%
I have had an alternate joining which is not legally marriage	18	10.23%
I wouldn't get married if they paid me!	28	15.91%
Voters: 176. You may not vote on this poll

02-09-2012, 11:54 AM	#1
starryeyes Senior Member How Do You Identify?: a round peg in a square hole Preferred Pronoun?: Guess... Relationship Status: Seat taken Join Date: May 2011 Location: Rocky Mountain High Posts: 2,491 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,199 Thanked 10,049 Times in 2,075 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I was in a hetero marriage for 2 years. I know being married to a woman who I felt that complete connection with would be different, but it gonna take me a while to get to that point, if ever. My whole idea of marriage is kinda spoiled with my experience, the media, the controversy, ect. I would want to have a ceremony of some sort, somethig special that was meaningful to us if I ever find a partner who would want to go there with me (lol). Now, when it gets to the point of kids, mortgages, insurance, etc I can totally see why a marriage that would be legally binding would be important. To each their own, and congrats to the folks who are and will be getting legally married. It's amazing to see how far we have come. Love! Starry __________________ "It's ok to make mistakes. It's ok to fall down. Get up! Look sickening....and make them eat it!" - Latrice Royale Starry

02-09-2012, 01:14 PM	#5
Sachita Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Alpha Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Goddess Relationship Status: Completely in love Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Southern Virginia Posts: 3,225 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,564 Thanked 8,992 Times in 2,247 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	If I was with someone and I knew it was going to be forever then yes. When in a committed relationship you work hard to build a life together. You want to know that you're both safe to make investments, purchase a home, etc. When I was in a relationship we did have provisions and paperwork to protect us. Getting married makes it easier and perhaps more affordable. I think we deserve the same rights, however if I got married it would be based on my feelings and love for my life partner. __________________ You either like me or you don't. It took me Twenty-something years to learn how to love myself, I don't have that kinda time to convince somebody else. ~ Daniel Franzese

02-09-2012, 12:15 PM	#3
genghisfawn Member How Do You Identify?: Femme/Gentlewoman Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: Happily married 05/17/14 Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Saskatchewan, Canada Posts: 561 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,056 Thanked 2,158 Times in 403 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	I find that a lot of people say, "I don't care if they pass same-sex marriage or not. I don't need a piece of paper." The thing is, whether you want to be married or not, it's a good thing for those who value marriage to be able to have what they want and need for their relationship. I like to encourage people to think of those they love and see equal rights as a necessity, not a privilege. I am also the marrying kind.

02-09-2012, 01:13 PM	#4
SweetJane Member How Do You Identify?: stone femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: always solo Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: New Mexico Posts: 368 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 380 Thanked 815 Times in 198 Posts Rep Power: 4309958	Having been in a 36 year marriage and then a divorce, I can say that marriage does have its protections. And that's why I see same-sex marriage as a must for the whole country. It protects children, deals with medical and end-of-life issues, and property ownership and division. Not all of that is protected by the federal government, though some is protected by state civil union laws and some state same sex marriage laws. I will also say that any marriage should not be a quick decision because it's hard to get out of legally and can get messy. Marriage, like any long-term commitment, should be based on knowing someone really well and not just what they like to do in bed. It's about all of the little things that can bless or curse your life together if you decided to share a home. It's everything. So a strong friendship (that may be hot) is essential. Would I marry again? I don't think so. Would I commit to a long-term relationship? Someday perhaps with the right person. But my standards are high and I really don't know if that's in my future.