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Old 02-19-2010, 02:03 AM   #1
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All i can say is that is so wrong (((((((((cali)))))))))))and it happens entierly too much.



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I have Stage 4 non-small cell lung cancer and am currently under the care of hospice. I have found this to be a seriously bizarre journey. What I have found most bizarre is that people already have me dead. They will ask Mike how I am doing but they don't ask me. There were only 2 people that would call and check in on me when I was going through chemo the rest got angry because apparently I wasn't communicating enough. The whole journey is just weird. I find it really odd that they got angry with me when I was undergoing chemo treatment and I couldn't put 2 words together let alone type. Yet they were angry with me for not communicating. Ummmm...hello.....you try having every cell in your body killed off, drugs shoved into your body, swell up like a balloon and then then try to act as if everything is just fine. LOL It ain't gonna happen.

The whole thing is just bizarre.

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Old 02-19-2010, 07:59 AM   #2
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I think the problem is fear. Alot of people just don't know what to say or do around those who have cancer. You get alot of talk, but no action. Some well-meaning people really do want to do something but are so afraid. The cancer scares them. It changes everything about your life.

I did receive a note from Fiercefemme. The news is not good. She has a rare form of cancer. It has spread. She is starting on chemo. She asks for everyone to pray for her, and her family. I told her I would pass the word on.

I wish everyone peace.

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I think the problem is fear. Alot of people just don't know what to say or do around those who have cancer. You get alot of talk, but no action. Some well-meaning people really do want to do something but are so afraid. The cancer scares them. It changes everything about your life.

I did receive a note from Fiercefemme. The news is not good. She has a rare form of cancer. It has spread. She is starting on chemo. She asks for everyone to pray for her, and her family. I told her I would pass the word on.

I wish everyone peace.

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hi to anyone following this thread.
i do have a rare cancer in that i shouldn't be affected with it for a good 40 years from now. i have a form of ovarian cancer that usually affect women in their 40s-60s. my doctor is baffled as to why i, at 26, have ended up with it.
i am incredibly lucky though and there was an angel in the form of a GYN i saw at sliding scale clinich (that mostly works with the LGBTQ community) who called in favors and got me a fantastic doctor and my medical care is being covered (i am uninsured). i owe her thank yous every day.
because if much time had to had been taken to find health care all of the 100's of small tumors that are on the surfaces of my small.large intestine, colon, and diaphram they would be IN those organs and i probably wouldn't have much hope for recovery much less survival. but i'm lucky and they are still on surfaces so i'm trying to focus on that.
and my doctor thinks that since i and young and otherwise healthy that i will fight this. i just might have to fight it many time over my life span.
not what i asked for from life. but i don't have many options but to be fierce and deal with it.

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You are a fighter. I am praying for you. God bless you, and your family.

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I celebrated 6 years of being cancer free on May 15. Endometrial cancer diagnosis shook my world and it felt like the air was sucked out of the universe. After radical total hysterectomy, and 16 lymph nodes removed, i did well UNTIL...I got a massive infection that almost killed me.

I live every day to the fullest, and love like there is no tomorrow..Thanks for all the love and positive energy.

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Andrew,
After a tough couple of months, and DustyBoy Kitty passing through on May 1st, I realized how time flies
I celebrated 6 years of being cancer free on May 15. Endometrial cancer diagnosis shook my world and it felt like the air was sucked out of the universe. After radical total hysterectomy, and 16 lymph nodes removed, i did well UNTIL...I got a massive infection that almost killed me.

I live every day to the fullest, and love like there is no tomorrow..Thanks for all the love and positive energy.

Tommi
Another rose bush Tommi! My second anniversary is coming up soon. It's a good feeling, isn't it?

Prayers and hugs to all those fighting the fight.

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After a tough couple of months, and DustyBoy Kitty passing through on May 1st, I realized how time flies
I celebrated 6 years of being cancer free on May 15. Endometrial cancer diagnosis shook my world and it felt like the air was sucked out of the universe. After radical total hysterectomy, and 16 lymph nodes removed, i did well UNTIL...I got a massive infection that almost killed me.

I live every day to the fullest, and love like there is no tomorrow..Thanks for all the love and positive energy.

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Update.
I am now 9 years cancer free.

I have learned and lived and loved alot. I highly recommend it. THAT annual appointment at 7AM with my Oncologist is looming, I can't sleep, so..this is a healthy place to hang out.

Think I'll go make some hot chocolate and cinnamon toast.
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