A straight girl enters the queer world... - Page 7

Parker · 03-13-2012, 04:09 PM

Ugh - I hate when I'm on the top of a page and I didnt quote anyone - it's like I'm talking to myself! lol

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Originally Posted by Julie

Even better Parker. Siblings argue all the time.
My sister's name is Dana and she is not speaking to me - because we argue LOL.

Julie

My sis and I are polar opposites and fought like cats and dogs when we were little - but thankfully, we're good friends now.

Mercury in retrograde, you have my sister's name ... it was like gas on a fire - I didnt stand a chance! lol

Julie · 03-13-2012, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Corkey

Umbrella drink or up?

No Umbrella please. Not that kind of girl.
I would prefer a Bombay with Tonic - Twist of Lemon, Lime and Orange.

Parker · 03-13-2012, 04:12 PM

I'm more of a chocolate martini butch.
Ugh - but not today, my stomach has been pissed since Saturday.

Julie · 03-13-2012, 04:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Parker

My sis and I are polar opposites and fought like cats and dogs when we were little - but thankfully, we're good friends now.

Mercury in retrograde, you have my sister's name ... it was like gas on a fire - I didnt stand a chance! lol

Add PMS to the equation and you are lucky you are breathing LOL

In all seriousness. We all get emotional and have our opinions here. We are a hot headed passionate group who have genuine love for one another (well some) and it's really okay. Often we confuse people's intent because the lack of physical expression. If you saw my eyes, you would not need to even see body language - they speak volumes. But you cannot see mine or Bully's or Weatherboi's or Corkey's or any person here. The one issue with online.

Perhaps we could get Medusa to just have an EYE cam - then we could see more. Eeeeeeeeeeeek - lol - My eyes are puffy.

Julie

Corkey · 03-13-2012, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Julie

Add PMS to the equation and you are lucky you are breathing LOL

In all seriousness. We all get emotional and have our opinions here. We are a hot headed passionate group who have genuine love for one another (well some) and it's really okay. Often we confuse people's intent because the lack of physical expression. If you saw my eyes, you would not need to even see body language - they speak volumes. But you cannot see mine or Bully's or Weatherboi's or Corkey's or any person here. The one issue with online.

Perhaps we could get Medusa to just have an EYE cam - then we could see more. Eeeeeeeeeeeek - lol - My eyes are puffy.

Julie

Oh sweet jeebus no, I haven't combed my hair and look like Dennis the Menace!

Gemme · 03-13-2012, 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Julie

No Umbrella please. Not that kind of girl.
I would prefer a Bombay with Tonic - Twist of Lemon, Lime and Orange.

I'll take the umbrella drinks. The sweeter and more ridiculous named drinks are my thang.

DeviantDaddy · 03-13-2012, 04:18 PM

I'll take a bottle of whiskey, please.

... with a straw... laughs.

Corkey · 03-13-2012, 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by DeviantDaddy

I'll take a bottle of whiskey, please.

... with a straw... laughs.

Yer just itchin' for a hang over huh?

Julie · 03-13-2012, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Corkey

Oh sweet jeebus no, I haven't combed my hair and look like Dennis the Menace!

Here is a perfect example of not reading an entire post LOL - Corkey - just your eyes. An EYE cam. See how things can get twisted round these here parts

LOL

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Originally Posted by Gemme

I'll take the umbrella drinks. The sweeter and more ridiculous named drinks are my thang.

I figured you for a fruity girl type of drink. UhHuh. No disrespect to those who are of the more masculine energy types who prefer fruity umbrella sweet drinks.

:-)

Corkey · 03-13-2012, 04:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Julie

Here is a perfect example of not reading an entire post LOL - Corkey - just your eyes. An EYE cam. See how things can get twisted round these here parts

LOL

I figured you for a fruity girl type of drink. UhHuh. No disrespect to those who are of the more masculine energy types who prefer fruity umbrella sweet drinks.

:-)

Mah eyes are hairy..... all white.LOL

Gemme · 03-13-2012, 04:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Julie

Here is a perfect example of not reading an entire post LOL - Corkey - just your eyes. An EYE cam. See how things can get twisted round these here parts

LOL

I figured you for a fruity girl type of drink. UhHuh. No disrespect to those who are of the more masculine energy types who prefer fruity umbrella sweet drinks.

:-)

How do you think I got this sweet? Sugar and alcohol and sugary alcohol all the way.

Chancie · 03-13-2012, 04:27 PM

Like someone said, some of us have known each other for ten years, and I am one of those people.

In general, I think new members should be expected to show respect for the culture of our community, but

Many of you have posted as though you have completely forgotten what it's like to be in a new kind of relationship.

Believe me, I remember, and it was more than 25 years ago.

I remember thinking that everyone could tell that I was with a woman, which is how I thought of my relationship at that time.

I grew up in a political progressive family in a diverse neighborhood in a cosmopolitan city, and

I knew that my life was going to be different than my sister's and my cousins' lives, and that it might not be easy.

I read everything I could get my hands on, and I tried to make friends with every lesbian I met, and guess what?

Some of them were just as rigid and uncompromising as some of you.

Corkey · 03-13-2012, 04:40 PM

Speaking for myself, I don't compromise my principals. Never will, that doesn't mean someone else can't do so.
Rigid, perhaps, but it works for me.

weatherboi · 03-13-2012, 05:03 PM

I never said butches demonize transguys. I asked

"Wow are the butches gonna demonize the transguys?"

A viable question at the time considering all that was being said and what I feared might be said and where it was heading. I won't apologize for that.

It is against the TOS to drag drama from other threads and name call just in case people forgot or think it is important. I think it is important since it is me getting name called and having my own shit drug around from space to space and getting accused of shaming.

Thanks for listening!

Toughy · 03-13-2012, 05:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Gemme

I know Bully came in and clarified when folks got up in arms about her saying this, but I've got to say...am I the only one who read it as she typed it? Y'all, I wear coke bottle glasses and I saw this clear as day (not Day, who has been MIA).

Please see the underlined text. I'm putting the underlined text here: I never felt anyone should have to put more effort into understanding me or my issues anymore than I would put effort into understanding them and their issues.

To me, this one point (and only this one point....I'm not touching the other mess) is saying that ALL parties involved with one another should EQUALLY attempt to learn about the other and the other's affiliations/presentation/id/family/etc. That one side should not put more effort or energy into this than the other; that it should be BALANCED.

How does that turn into 'disinterest'?

I read that underlined text to mean disinterest on first read. I knew Bully did not really think that so I re-read it and re-read it and still had a hard time understanding what Bully meant. I chalked it up to poor sentence structure because I know that disinterest is not what Bully meant....been reading her too many years to think that....

it's all good in the 'hood.....

BullDog · 03-13-2012, 05:08 PM

LOL Toughy. Maybe you can teach me how to write. How that sentence could possibly mean disinterest is completely beyond me.

LaneyDoll · 03-13-2012, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Gemme

I'll take the umbrella drinks. The sweeter and more ridiculous named drinks are my thang.

I am going to sit with Gemme!!! I love the umbrella drinks with sexy names. Unless I am having shots, then it better be tequila (Patron please) or Jägermeister.

Julie · 03-13-2012, 05:32 PM

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Originally Posted by BullDog

LOL Toughy. Maybe you can teach me how to write. How that sentence could possibly mean disinterest is completely beyond me.

Bully - I read it the same way. And that did not make sense, based on my personal experience with you.

Julie

BullDog · 03-13-2012, 05:35 PM

This is beyond ridiculous.

LOL apparently now I don't know how to write. Go tell all my writing clients that.

This is all truly laughable and fucked up.

Have fun on the internet y'all.

Julie · 03-13-2012, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by BullDog

This is beyond ridiculous.

LOL apparently now I don't know how to write. Go tell all my writing clients that.

This is all truly laughable and fucked up.

Have fun on the internet y'all.

WOW Bully. It was just misinterpreting your words. I read it wrong. I misunderstood it. It happens all the time on forums. That is why we talk it through.

Nobody said you didn't know how to write. I was an editor for a magazine years ago and my words do not always come off the way I mean for them to be. Does not mean I do not know how to write. Hopefully if someone does not understand, they ask.

Julie

03-13-2012, 04:40 PM	#133
Corkey Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Human Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Very Married Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Where I want to be Posts: 8,155 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 47,491 Thanked 29,270 Times in 6,637 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Speaking for myself, I don't compromise my principals. Never will, that doesn't mean someone else can't do so. Rigid, perhaps, but it works for me. __________________ "Many proposals have been made to us to adopt your laws, your religion, your manners and your customs. We would be better pleased with beholding the good effects of these doctrines in your own practices, than with hearing you talk about them". ~Old Tassel, Chief of the Tsalagi (Cherokee)

03-13-2012, 05:03 PM	#134
weatherboi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Owned boy Preferred Pronoun?: Hey boy!!! Relationship Status: counting freckles slowly under Her direction!!! Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: i have 2 sets of geographic coordinates!!! Posts: 6,097 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,797 Thanked 12,549 Times in 2,993 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I never said butches demonize transguys. I asked "Wow are the butches gonna demonize the transguys?" A viable question at the time considering all that was being said and what I feared might be said and where it was heading. I won't apologize for that. It is against the TOS to drag drama from other threads and name call just in case people forgot or think it is important. I think it is important since it is me getting name called and having my own shit drug around from space to space and getting accused of shaming. Thanks for listening! __________________

03-13-2012, 05:08 PM	#136
BullDog Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Dominant Stone Butch Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In A Healing Place Posts: 5,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,160 Thanked 22,665 Times in 4,464 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	LOL Toughy. Maybe you can teach me how to write. How that sentence could possibly mean disinterest is completely beyond me. __________________ Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other. - Rainer Maria Rilke

03-13-2012, 05:35 PM	#139
BullDog Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Dominant Stone Butch Daddy Preferred Pronoun?: She Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: In A Healing Place Posts: 5,371 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 18,160 Thanked 22,665 Times in 4,464 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	This is beyond ridiculous. LOL apparently now I don't know how to write. Go tell all my writing clients that. This is all truly laughable and fucked up. Have fun on the internet y'all. __________________ Love consists in this, that two solitudes protect and touch and greet each other. - Rainer Maria Rilke

03-13-2012, 04:12 PM	#123
Parker Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: Butch. Lesbian. Dyke. Woman. Female. Preferred Pronoun?: She, of course! Relationship Status: Content Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Small Town Life Posts: 2,880 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,858 Thanked 11,727 Times in 2,429 Posts Rep Power: 0	I'm more of a chocolate martini butch. Ugh - but not today, my stomach has been pissed since Saturday.

03-13-2012, 04:18 PM	#127
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03-13-2012, 04:27 PM	#132
Chancie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme-inist Relationship Status: I'm lucky. Join Date: May 2010 Location: Western Mass Posts: 3,774 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,518 Thanked 14,540 Times in 2,744 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Like someone said, some of us have known each other for ten years, and I am one of those people. In general, I think new members should be expected to show respect for the culture of our community, but Many of you have posted as though you have completely forgotten what it's like to be in a new kind of relationship. Believe me, I remember, and it was more than 25 years ago. I remember thinking that everyone could tell that I was with a woman, which is how I thought of my relationship at that time. I grew up in a political progressive family in a diverse neighborhood in a cosmopolitan city, and I knew that my life was going to be different than my sister's and my cousins' lives, and that it might not be easy. I read everything I could get my hands on, and I tried to make friends with every lesbian I met, and guess what? Some of them were just as rigid and uncompromising as some of you.