A straight girl enters the queer world...

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by BullDog

I am a stone butch. I never felt anyone should have to put more effort into understanding me or my issues anymore than I would put effort into understanding them and their issues. I've also made it quite clear that no one should ever have to change because of me. It will only work if we are compatible and we both are true to ourselves.

I know Bully came in and clarified when folks got up in arms about her saying this, but I've got to say...am I the only one who read it as she typed it? Y'all, I wear coke bottle glasses and I saw this clear as day (not Day, who has been MIA).

Please see the underlined text.

To me, this one point (and only this one point....I'm not touching the other mess) is saying that ALL parties involved with one another should EQUALLY attempt to learn about the other and the other's affiliations/presentation/id/family/etc. That one side should not put more effort or energy into this than the other; that it should be BALANCED.

How does that turn into 'disinterest'?

[BullDog]

Originally Posted by Gemme

I know Bully came in and clarified when folks got up in arms about her saying this, but I've got to say...am I the only one who read it as she typed it? Y'all, I wear coke bottle glasses and I saw this clear as day (not Day, who has been MIA).

Please see the underlined text.

To me, this one point (and only this one point....I'm not touching the other mess) is saying that ALL parties involved with one another should EQUALLY attempt to learn about the other and the other's affiliations/presentation/id/family/etc. That one side should not put more effort or energy into this than the other; that it should be BALANCED.

How does that turn into 'disinterest'?

Thank you Gemme. I don't know how it could have been any clearer. That's why it felt like ill intent to call it disinterest.

[Gemme]

Originally Posted by BullDog

Thank you Gemme. I don't know how it could have been any clearer. That's why it felt like ill intent to call it disinterest.

I think folks read it with their emotions. Or maybe they need to borrow my glasses. For their sakes, I hope not.

As it's been said in the last few posts, emotions get high and we're all pretty vocal about our beliefs. It just doesn't help the matter when things get discombolutated and taken wrong. Luckily, it seems as if things will get back on track here pretty soon.

[Toughy]

Originally Posted by Gemme

I know Bully came in and clarified when folks got up in arms about her saying this, but I've got to say...am I the only one who read it as she typed it? Y'all, I wear coke bottle glasses and I saw this clear as day (not Day, who has been MIA).

Please see the underlined text. I'm putting the underlined text here: I never felt anyone should have to put more effort into understanding me or my issues anymore than I would put effort into understanding them and their issues.

To me, this one point (and only this one point....I'm not touching the other mess) is saying that ALL parties involved with one another should EQUALLY attempt to learn about the other and the other's affiliations/presentation/id/family/etc. That one side should not put more effort or energy into this than the other; that it should be BALANCED.

How does that turn into 'disinterest'?

I read that underlined text to mean disinterest on first read. I knew Bully did not really think that so I re-read it and re-read it and still had a hard time understanding what Bully meant. I chalked it up to poor sentence structure because I know that disinterest is not what Bully meant....been reading her too many years to think that....

it's all good in the 'hood.....

[BullDog]

LOL Toughy. Maybe you can teach me how to write. How that sentence could possibly mean disinterest is completely beyond me.

[Julie]

Originally Posted by BullDog

LOL Toughy. Maybe you can teach me how to write. How that sentence could possibly mean disinterest is completely beyond me.

Bully - I read it the same way. And that did not make sense, based on my personal experience with you.

Julie

[BullDog]

This is beyond ridiculous.

LOL apparently now I don't know how to write. Go tell all my writing clients that.

This is all truly laughable and fucked up.

Have fun on the internet y'all.

[Julie]

Originally Posted by BullDog

This is beyond ridiculous.

LOL apparently now I don't know how to write. Go tell all my writing clients that.

This is all truly laughable and fucked up.

Have fun on the internet y'all.

WOW Bully. It was just misinterpreting your words. I read it wrong. I misunderstood it. It happens all the time on forums. That is why we talk it through.

Nobody said you didn't know how to write. I was an editor for a magazine years ago and my words do not always come off the way I mean for them to be. Does not mean I do not know how to write. Hopefully if someone does not understand, they ask.

Julie

[DaddysKitten]

Originally Posted by Toughy

I read that underlined text to mean disinterest on first read. I knew Bully did not really think that so I re-read it and re-read it and still had a hard time understanding what Bully meant. I chalked it up to poor sentence structure because I know that disinterest is not what Bully meant....been reading her too many years to think that....

it's all good in the 'hood.....

As I stated exactly myself, and I do not know her well enough to read her that way. It's why I addressed it respectfully, and pointed out where the miscommunication would come from.