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Maybe I’m missing something. I admit to being a bit odd so things that most people get easily, believe emphatically or see as reality I will probably not understand, think is crap or have a completely different take on. But to me it makes no sense to be concerned or feel unsafe or unprotected when people read what you post or look at your profile on a public forum. I mean this is a public forum and no one forces anyone to post on it. But once you do anybody and their grandmother can read whatever you post here without ever signing in. They can follow you around without you ever knowing they exist and read every single word you ever write, all day and all night, over and over a hundred times if they wish. And you might never know.
People who pay for memberships can do the same with the extra added bonus of not leaving a trail and getting to see your profile and your visitor’s page without showing up on it. Other members can just go to see your profile any time they want although they will leave a calling card so to speak. And everybody can read what you post with the exception of must be a member and logged in sections like the red zone. So anything you post there won’t be read by anyone who isn’t a member. But it doesn’t take a lot of fancy credentials and a background check by the FBI to get a membership. Therefore in reality, with a minimum of effort, anyone who wants to can read anything you post and your profile as well. What puzzles the shit out of me is if this bothers someone in any meaningful way, why would they choose to post stuff on a public forum? Or fill in a profile page? I mean isn’t that the purpose of posting or putting stuff on your profile page? Isn’t it so that other people can read it? Isn’t this even the outcome that is hoped for? I mean how would it feel if no one ever looked at your profile page? That would suck a bit no? Or if no one ever read your posts? I mean sure, mostly I post for myself, but still I want people to read what I write. And I don’t need them to agree. I don’t even need them to like me or me to like them. Not that I can think of anyone off the top of my head that I don’t like. Truthfully I don’t know too many people on here. But regardless of who it is, I still want them to read what I write. I mean we can’t expect that only the people we like or approve of will be allowed to read our words. Or look at our public profile. And what could possibly happen that we would need to be protected from people who go to read our profile? Even if they camp out there? It’s not like they can set booby traps for us and the next time we open our profiles our computers will explode or god forbid our keyboards blow up leaving our hands and fingers in shreds. I guess the people who don’t like us can glean information about us from the things we say, the threads we post in, the stuff we chose to read and the people who friend us, but seriously what can they do with this information? Other than make fun of us, talk about us with their friends behind or not so behind our backs, spread gossip and rumours about us and generally take every opportunity to bad mouth us whenever and wherever they can, what can they actually do? And the people who want to do shit like that will do it anyway with or without access to your posts, your profile or information about the threads you read. |
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03-20-2012, 02:16 PM
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well spoken, Miss Tick!
I have one person who visits my page...every single day...but is a futile visit as what is there to see is limited to contacts and admin/mods!! It bothers me NOT!!! Besides I think that person has a secret crush on me..why else would they need a daily visit..grins...(make it a positive experience!!!) I totally agree with you...we all know it is a public forum, and we all know what we post is accessible by anyone....so why post if you are worried about being read by anyone else? It doesn't bother me that the benefits of higher paid memberships have the "invisible" feature. That is one of the perks of the extra membership level. Anyone who chooses has that opportunity. Of course, I am not able to afford a paid one at this time, so I am quite pleased we do have the free one available, and I have never been treated any differently than the paid members are. I am most grateful to Admin. for this perk...CIJS I LOVE the Planet!!! I also fail to see how it is "stalking" if one chooses to read someone's posts, or maybe goes to visit their page...I go look at profiles or to leave a visitor's message...as I can't always "remember" where they may live, or I may go to click on their statistics page to follow their posts...we have some amazingly talented writers, and some people who are just beautiful with their words.....wit...and knowledge....I don't see the fact I go to read their posts, or subscribe to them, that is "stalking"....I don't think along those lines...I think along lines of "gee I sure do like their posts, or gee I sure do love their wisdom....instead of a negative sense. And I am an open book, so I write from my heart and want others to read it if they enjoy my words. It is flattering to me if they do visit my page, my posts, and leave me user reps..or not. Anyway, my point is..if I don't want to be seen, then I don't stand in front of a window!...smiles....
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03-25-2012, 01:42 PM
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03-25-2012, 02:59 PM
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How do you know they visit your page every day? Just because June's name is there every day does not mean Juney has visited every day. 10 more people would have to visit after June's last visit to kick her name off.
========================= This idea of registering before you can read is something I do not understand. What does making someone register do for privacy when bots and spiders get to read anything they want to read without registering? How many people are we stopping from reading and learning by requiring registration? There are many reasons a person might not want to register. How does creating an obstacle (registering) to access this site help build and create community? What safety does requiring registration create?
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03-25-2012, 03:32 PM
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Well i can only speak for myself...this person appears in the list, gets bumped out then reappears...and it does seem to happen daily...
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I personally don't get why people get upset if someone/anyone visits their profile page.
It is there for all to see and read is it not? There is no guarantee of privacy anywhere on the Internet and certainly not on B-F Planet. I like to think that people have good motives in reading mine and always appreciate the positive visitor messages they leave. The few times I have been visited without someone leaving me a message, I just shrugged and figured they had their reasons for looking-either way: not a problem for me. Have at it!
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[QUOTE=Toughy;553336]How do you know they visit your page every day? Just because June's name is there every day does not mean Juney has visited every day. 10 more people would have to visit after June's last visit to kick her name off.
I find this thread to be rather amusing....great way to make someone think you have a secret crush or are a stalker. Maybe someone enjoyed reading something and want to go back and reread the post. Perhaps they hit the wrong button. I do not get paranoid, curious maybe, but secret crush....that is very flattering. And I believe it does take a while for the name of the person who visited to go off your page, especially if it is someone else entirely that visits your page a lot, may take longer than 10 visits for the person you think is visiting your page to get bumped off.
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03-20-2012, 02:25 PM
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There's a minimum of 5 members (that I can see) that have recently looked at my profile--I don't know them, I think nothing of it--I hardly think they have sinister intentions, maybe they found a post interesting/stupid/amazing/strange, maybe they want my body and want to know if I'm single, maybe they're just curious about other members of the community in other parts of the world--Maybe they wonder how E puts up with me! (My therapist doesn't allow the what-if game so I am really going to town, here!)
Also, I randomly look at profiles and also think nothing of it--I had NO IDEA that it caused some such duress, I guess I didn't think anyone thought of me as important enough to think about, let alone apply some meaning over a peek at their profile--Which could even have been accidental as (the same with what someone else posted, above) if I have a few minutes to kill and I use my phone to read the site, I will likely have viewed a couple of profiles, unintentionally. *Given this new information, I will try not to antagonize anyone by reading their super-secret profile with my spidery eyes. |
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I am not going to divulge why sometimes I look a yours. (profile that is) But on a serious note, if you want privacy, get off the internet. Not YOU apretty, but the general you. |
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Reiterating...there is NO such animal as internet privacy. It does not exist, ever.
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that list of people on our profile pages COULD be people like me who click a name by accident on a post, or like Kim said trying to post from the (i)phone in tiny itty bitty font. It's easy to end up on SOMEONE's page with NO intent at all.
i don't recognize half the folks on my list either, and if my ex, my exes (sort of) ex and current friend, (both on this site) or the exes new gf (also on this site), the exes new gf's ex (no idea i just threw that in) my ex friend (on this site), my friend again ( still on this site, we reconnected), my long time friend (on this site) or my mother (not on this site) want to look at my *page* so be it. i don't even feel comfy calling it MY page, is a page on a website that i get to use, it's not like i bought the damn page anyway. i have full confidence that the site would take care of business if anyone tried to hurt a hair on our heads. Watching people who try to do internet harm being banned is the best deterrent for the rest of the population here to behave. i think they handle it well and one day i am going to get that ex/new/new ex lover float chart to June. i know all of these people are here and i love this site so sharing the same space can be weird but hey welcome to the internet. i am here knowing i have limited privacy and my words can be read by the entire world, if i wanted 100% privacy i would not be online at all. If i were vain enough to think the world wanted to read my words i would still not care if they did or not. |
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clay....
the only thing missing from your profile page is the ability to leave visitor messages (folks can leave a user note) and your contact info (you have chosen not to receive PMs). All your other info is there for all to see.
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I figure if they are lookin' at my page, they are curious as to who I am, wanting to read my profile, or checking to see if I posted anything. Feel free to look...I sure don't mind.
As for the ones that keep coming back to look....they must see something they like or they can't get me out of their head and have to come back for more every day...lol  I don't put anything out there that I don't want people to see anyway...that would be asking for trouble!  I had an incident a few years ago where the girl I was dating here in town saw that I was horsing around with my BFFF in the "Dear" thread where a bunch of us were posting all silly like we do, being schmoopies. The girl read that and printed screen shots of the conversation so she could accuse me of cheating on her.  It was NUTZ! No matter how I explained it, she was pissed. I really felt like my privacy was invaded, but it is right there where anyone and everyone can read it.
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hey Toughy:
I can, and do receive PM's but only from my friends/contacts I accept!!! As for all the other info...it isn't anything anyone can do anything with...grins... Thanks for the information..I am so NOT savvy with this tech stuff! I LOVE your posts, BTW! Yea, I "stalk" you, too...lol...do you mind? Have an awesome day....Clay Quote:
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Who even looks at their own profile everyday? I only look at mine if it says I have a message on the corner of the front page. Even then, I don't think it is very often that I even look over to see who has been on my page. Why would I care? If they have something to say, they will leave a message, and said indicator will tell me to take a look!
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I have an unusual first name, et voila, the rest is history.
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