Abuse in butch-femme relationships

theoddz · 03-30-2012, 09:26 AM

I think there are a plethora of good suggestions and comments here, but I have just one thing to add.

Several posters have said "You don't hit girls/women".

Well. It is my personal upbringing and steadfast belief that NO ONE should EVER be hitting anyone else, be they men/women/butches/femmes/whatever. There is never, EVER ANY excuse for being violent with another person. Mother taught my sister and me, very early in life, that if one person respects another, they will keep their hands off of them, and vice versa. (Mother is always right.)

If you feel the need to "reach out and touch someone" in anger, you need to step back, walk away, regroup and get yourself some coping skills. Life is full of problems, and there's never, ever, any excuse to hit someone else.....unless it's in self defense and simply walking away is not possible....as in "no escape route".

There are so many damaged people out there, but there are more good, decent, loving, intelligent folks who are healthy and well adjusted. The trick is in knowing who's who and avoiding the bad apples.

Good luck to you in finding your one and only heart's desire. Believe me, there's someone out there for you who will tread you like spun platinum!!!! Don't ever settle for less.

~Theo~

03-30-2012, 09:26 AM	#24
theoddz Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Cranky Old Poop Preferred Pronoun?: Mr. Beast Relationship Status: Married to a beautiful babe whom I don't deserve. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Central Texas Posts: 3,546 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,163 Thanked 9,941 Times in 2,517 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	I think there are a plethora of good suggestions and comments here, but I have just one thing to add. Several posters have said "You don't hit girls/women". Well. It is my personal upbringing and steadfast belief that NO ONE should EVER be hitting anyone else, be they men/women/butches/femmes/whatever. There is never, EVER ANY excuse for being violent with another person. Mother taught my sister and me, very early in life, that if one person respects another, they will keep their hands off of them, and vice versa. (Mother is always right.) If you feel the need to "reach out and touch someone" in anger, you need to step back, walk away, regroup and get yourself some coping skills. Life is full of problems, and there's never, ever, any excuse to hit someone else.....unless it's in self defense and simply walking away is *not possible....as in "no escape route". There are so many damaged people out there, but there are more good, decent, loving, intelligent folks who are healthy and well adjusted. The trick is in knowing who's who and avoiding the bad apples. Good luck to you in finding your one and only heart's desire. Believe me, there's someone out there for you who will tread you like spun platinum!!!! Don't ever settle for less. ~Theo~* __________________ *"All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost; The old that is strong does not wither, Deep roots are not reached by the frost."* -- J. R. R. Tolkien