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04-09-2012, 07:23 AM
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Thank you everyone....so much.
I had asked Snack to come post an update when I couldn't yesterday...mostly because you have all been so supportive of me during this incredibly difficult time, and I am immensely grateful to all of you. I keep waiting for the phone to ring from the hospital to tell me she has passed, even though I know it may not be right away. It's a strange feeling to know that she is essentially gone into unconsciousness and we'll never speak again...but that her body is still there, hanging on for a little longer. Her decision was to be kept unconscious and pain-free until the end, with hydration and TPN removed. Since she is already going into kidney failure, the end will be very soon. She has made arrangements to donate her body for medical research on Crohn's disease, since it was 50 years of that disease that set her up for this final cancer that is killing her. She hopes that perhaps doctors can learn something from her that will help others...especially Rooster, who she loves more than anyone on the earth, and who has all of the genetic disposition for Crohn's. It's the most generous thing she's done in her life....and it still amazes me that she made that choice in full knowledge of what it entails. I have started work on the scrapbook she asked me to make for my son....with all of the silly pictures I have of the two of them together....wearing funny goggles, sword-fighting, mom in a "coonskin" cap....a helmet....the goofiest hat at Disney....always with Rooster, laughing with him, being his constant willing companion into fantasy and silliness. The first picture in the book was taken when he was about 2 weeks old....she is holding him up in front of her face...and the look on both of their faces is identical....excitement.
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04-09-2012, 08:31 AM
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You are such an incredible soul...to be able to share so much of your mom with us, and of her time with Rooster...I sat with a smile...and tears...and feeling your heartache. Your mom is an amazing lady....may her spirit always be in yours & Rooster's heart. My heart and prayers remain with you my friend...as does Miss Scarlett's. I kept her aware of this yesterday evening as she drove back home...she is praying for you all as well..and sends her love and energy too. Words fail me now..just know, we walk this journey with you....take our hands and let us help comfort you and Rooster & Snack thru this....you are in my thoughts, Jo....hugs...sending you our love...Clay and Miss Scarlett!
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04-09-2012, 08:45 AM
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My Dear Sweet Jo,
you and I may not always see eye to eye. but you are one hell of a woman and I have so very much respect and love for you. Desd and I are so very sorry for you loss and wish you and that sweet young man of yours peace  and may the good loving memories always surround you and make your heart smile  with love and profound sadness Bard, Desd and the Goose
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04-10-2012, 04:55 PM
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I am so very sorry.. Saying goodbye to a loved one is the hardest thing we ever have to do. Your memories make me smile and are a reminder to all of us to hold those we love close, to laugh lots and to make many memories of our own. My thoughts and prayers go out to you as well as a reminder that you are surrounded by people who are here for you. I hope that you will continue to share those memories with us. Gentle hugs
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04-11-2012, 05:44 PM
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I am completely beside myself, and hesitate to even come in here and post...
I found out today that Mom woke up on Monday....something she did not expect, and was furious. Since then she has been in and out of consciousness, and they are still trying to figure out the level of sedation she needs. This has been an issue with anesthesia and her....and she has woken up during surgery a few times previously....horrifying thought. Some days I hate Google....especially today when I learned that death by dehydration takes a week or ten days. Cancer sucks....this whole thing sucks.
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{{{{Jo}}}} My mom used to do the same thing and it is indeed horrifying to contemplate.
I don't know what to say except that we are here for you and yes, cancer sucks big time! All my love, Novela
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 Hi Jo, Always glad to read your posts and updates, because Cancer Sucks. Cancer sucks for those that don't have cancer because we are painfully aware that our loved one is leaving us. Glad to see your Mom's suffering is almost over. My heart goes out to you and the Rooster. Cancer sucks and I can come here and spit it out...  [/COLOR][/B]: ((((MOM)))) So as "they" say, keep coming back and share with us. Last edited by Tommi; 04-11-2012 at 10:41 PM. |
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04-12-2012, 08:23 AM
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Mom passed away early this morning. She was still unconscious so it was, at least, peaceful at the end.
Thank you so much to everyone for the support you've given me through this whole process....and thank you Tommi....I saw that salute to cancer and laughed so hard I cried....and know that Mom would have happily given that salute herself. Hugs to you all.
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