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Old 04-14-2012, 02:54 PM   #1
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i made it clear that i was referring to MYSELF. Lesbian sex is not something i will ever do because, FOR ME, it's distasteful. Because i am a stonefemme.

Hi there Miss Silver,
I am by no means a "word police".. trust me.. mine get me into enough trouble, so I am surely not going to pick apart your words or your convictions.

I , as a stone butch, had some issue with your phrasing and still do. Had a good discussion about why it bothered me so with a friend who happens to be a stonefemme.

Part of what I think you may be missing in this "conversation" with people whom have voiced less than agreeable responses to your postings, is exemplified above in the quote I pulled from your last post.

When you declare in one breath that "lesbian sex" is distasteful to you and simultaneously call yourself a stonefemme, how do you think that would make someone like Cheryl S feel, who has previously stated in this thread that she is stonefemme AND lesbian? I am not sure if you get my point. ( Which is really ok in the long run)

In talking to my friend, I told her the issue I have is ANYONE trying to set such parameters for ANYONE other than themselves. While, I do understand that you are trying to come from your "me" place and stating your personal feelings of distaste for certain acts, you must know that for other stones ( like myself) out there, it was a clear dis-invite to your self defined stone party.

I am all about having a space where those of us who find our intimacy in this way can gather, get to know one another, hell hook up if that be in the cards. However, it "feels" like, unless us "other" stones fall into YOUR definition, we aren't welcome. I just think that might narrow the already minute part of this community down to nothing. Good luck with whatever part of your journey you are on. I hope it bears you well.
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In talking to my friend, I told her the issue I have is ANYONE trying to set such parameters for ANYONE other than themselves. While, I do understand that you are trying to come from your "me" place and stating your personal feelings of distaste for certain acts, you must know that for other stones ( like myself) out there, it was a clear dis-invite to your self defined stone party.

I am all about having a space where those of us who find our intimacy in this way can gather, get to know one another, hell hook up if that be in the cards. However, it "feels" like, unless us "other" stones fall into YOUR definition, we aren't welcome. I just think that might narrow the already minute part of this community down to nothing. Good luck with whatever part of your journey you are on. I hope it bears you well.
Jess I am thinking "here" is a welcome place for stones of all sorts of variety. The thread was started and called the house of stone, let it be your house too.

As the conversation shapes I do hope to learn much with the planet's Stone (and Stone+ more) identified people.

Olive branch to all to enjoy a wider range of conversations.
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Jess I am thinking "here" is a welcome place for stones of all sorts of variety. The thread was started and called the house of stone, let it be your house too.

As the conversation shapes I do hope to learn much with the planet's Stone (and Stone+ more) identified people.

Olive branch to all to enjoy a wider range of conversations.

Thanks Jenna. I appreciate your intentions very much. I too hope it becomes a place/space for us to talk about stuff that does pertain to stone identified folks, who carry whatever other identifiers they add on to "stone". It is a very small fraction of the community and out end of the pool is rather shallow.

I will however, wait for an invite from the OP.

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Thanks Jenna. I appreciate your intentions very much. I too hope it becomes a place/space for us to talk about stuff that does pertain to stone identified folks, who carry whatever other identifiers they add on to "stone". It is a very small fraction of the community and out end of the pool is rather shallow.

I will however, wait for an invite from the OP.

thank you again
Jess, you are welcome and thank you. I do hope the invite comes. Meanwhile I think we may need a digging crew to just make the pool as deep as we want it.
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