Cancer Support and Caregivers Who Are Trail Blazers!

Tommi · 04-27-2012, 11:16 AM

Caregivers are my hero.

By default have been an off-site caregiver of my Ex (1997) since mid Sept. 2011.

24/7 the worry, the strain, the confusion, the anger. the love, the get-out of my face, please don't leave me, the I want to die, I don't want to die.

" I TOOK my pills". Well what are these ? "I don't know, you must have put them there. "

Learning about sickness when it is up close and personal. She was victimized by her son the beginning of this April, and is now in a state of sadness, shock and loss and last night told me she is numb.

This morning, Leia, the daughter we raised called from the house (she is here for 4 days from Ohio, and needs to get back to her kids) said, Bama wants to go for Fish and Chips to Dana Point Harbor where we used to when I was little.

AHhhhhhhh, life can turn on a dime.

Soon to celebrate 8 years cancer free, I am realizing what a blessed life I have lead.

Love goes around amnd comes back in the stangest of times. We separated in 1997 for Gosh sake. We (Leia, Peg and I) are seeing an attorney this afternoon, about Advanced Directives , property, wills, living trusts, and ....end of life arrangements

Please know , if you are a caregiver I LOVE YOU ,and u have my utmost respect.... or become a caregiver, it is one hella feeling when you get that smile that says, I know you are doing what is best for me..

DapperButch · 04-27-2012, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Tommi

Caregivers are my hero.

Please know , if you are a caregiver I LOVE YOU ,and u have my utmost respect.... or become a caregiver, it is one hella feeling when you get that smile that says, I know you are doing what is best for me..

I agree! A shout out to my caregiver, tantalizingfemme!

pynkkameleon · 05-02-2012, 01:50 AM

A friend and former colleague of mine was just diagnosed in April with stage 4 lung cancer. It had spread to her pancreas. She passed away over the weekend. It happened so quickly. I found out last night. I didn't get to say goodbye ...

She was an amazing lady. Tough as nails professionally but a very giving and compassionate woman. She was a mentor of sorts for me and others as well. She will be very much missed.

Yet another life taken away by this horrible and selfish disease. I f**king hate cancer!

clay · 05-02-2012, 08:07 AM

Here...here...on shout out to the caregiver!!!
I posted before, and will gladly do so again...countyfem was my awesome and wonderful caregiver!! I will never forget her time, care, love, and devotion to me...during that journey! Thank you, countyfem!!!
{{{{{{{{{{VONNI}}}}}}}}}}}...I am so sorry about the loss of your dear friend....yes this dreaded disease DOES suckin' fluck!!!
{{{{{{{{{debby}}}}}}}}}}}}} I spoke with her a good long while yesterday...she is mending amd healing.....was good to chat with her and hear her humor...I LOVE that woman!!! Godspeed woman!!!

Tommi · 05-02-2012, 09:01 AM

I am in need of the above. Please make it a great day. Each one counts.

deb_U_taunt · 05-02-2012, 12:31 PM

JO!!!!!
Hugs to you. I am so sorry to hear your mom passed away. I feel like I have neglected my family here.

I hope you are doing well and taking care of yourself.

deb_U_taunt · 05-02-2012, 12:40 PM

I have been keeping busy, taking dogs to the park, spending time with nieces and working. I knew the time would be coming for me to have to take another break from my life. Last Wednesday I had a double mastectomy, with no reconstruction. (I didn't want to go through any further surgeries). I am doing okay, the first week was a bit rough, but I added to my own misery by trying to do a load of laundry. I have learned my lesson and am taking it easy again. I go to the Dr tomorrow and hoping to have the drains removed. Dr said one to two weeks and still getting fluid, so not sure if I am stuck for another week. I also hope to get the pathology report tomorrow. I am home from work until June 4th, so I will be back online. I missed everyone.

04-27-2012, 11:16 AM	#1
Tommi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Usually "Hello" Relationship Status: Married and Bound to Tommi's kaijira (Ts_kaijira ) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Suthun.... California that is. Across the ridge from Laguna Beach. Posts: 8,151 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,621 Thanked 21,337 Times in 5,969 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	COPD and early signs of ..memory loss and confusion Caregivers are my hero. By default have been an off-site caregiver of my Ex (1997) since mid Sept. 2011. 24/7 the worry, the strain, the confusion, the anger. the love, the get-out of my face, please don't leave me, the I want to die, I don't want to die. " I TOOK my pills". Well what are these ? "I don't know, you must have put them there. " Learning about sickness when it is up close and personal. She was victimized by her son the beginning of this April, and is now in a state of sadness, shock and loss and last night told me she is numb. This morning, Leia, the daughter we raised called from the house (she is here for 4 days from Ohio, and needs to get back to her kids) said, Bama wants to go for Fish and Chips to Dana Point Harbor where we used to when I was little. AHhhhhhhh, life can turn on a dime. Soon to celebrate 8 years cancer free, I am realizing what a blessed life I have lead. Love goes around amnd comes back in the stangest of times. We separated in 1997 for Gosh sake. We (Leia, Peg and I) are seeing an attorney this afternoon, about Advanced Directives , property, wills, living trusts, and ....end of life arrangements *Please know , if you are a caregiver I LOVE YOU ,and u have my utmost respect..*.. or become a caregiver, it is one hella feeling when you get that smile that says, I know you are doing what is best for me..

05-02-2012, 01:50 AM	#3
pynkkameleon Member How Do You Identify?: Queer Femme Preferred Pronoun?: Girly ones Relationship Status: Riding off into the sunset with my Cowboi Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Texas Posts: 130 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,279 Thanked 484 Times in 98 Posts Rep Power: 7809054	Venting and sharing A friend and former colleague of mine was just diagnosed in April with stage 4 lung cancer. It had spread to her pancreas. She passed away over the weekend. It happened so quickly. I found out last night. I didn't get to say goodbye ... She was an amazing lady. Tough as nails professionally but a very giving and compassionate woman. She was a mentor of sorts for me and others as well. She will be very much missed. Yet another life taken away by this horrible and selfish disease. I f*king hate cancer! __________________ ~Vonni~* *Don't define your world in black and white..* *There is so much hiding amongst the greys* *❤❤❤❤❤*

05-02-2012, 08:07 AM	#4
clay Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Butch (Silver Fox) Dom Daddi Preferred Pronoun?: 50 Shades of Clay Darker & Deeper Relationship Status: married to my forever Join Date: May 2011 Location: salt air & sandy beaches Posts: 13,136 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 97,020 Thanked 31,675 Times in 7,748 Posts Rep Power: 21474864	Here...here...on shout out to the caregiver!!! I posted before, and will gladly do so again...countyfem was my awesome and wonderful caregiver!! I will never forget her time, care, love, and devotion to me...during that journey! Thank you, countyfem!!! {{{{{{{{{{VONNI}}}}}}}}}}}...I am so sorry about the loss of your dear friend....yes this dreaded disease DOES suckin' fluck!!! {{{{{{{{{debby}}}}}}}}}}}}} I spoke with her a good long while yesterday...she is mending amd healing.....was good to chat with her and hear her humor...I LOVE that woman!!! Godspeed woman!!! __________________ To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness. ~Robert Brault

05-02-2012, 12:31 PM	#6
deb_U_taunt Senior Member How Do You Identify?: ........ Join Date: May 2011 Location: ....... Posts: 1,748 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,324 Thanked 5,256 Times in 1,361 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	been a while JO!!!!! Hugs to you. I am so sorry to hear your mom passed away. I feel like I have neglected my family here. I hope you are doing well and taking care of yourself.

05-02-2012, 12:40 PM	#7
deb_U_taunt Senior Member How Do You Identify?: ........ Join Date: May 2011 Location: ....... Posts: 1,748 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,324 Thanked 5,256 Times in 1,361 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	update: I have been keeping busy, taking dogs to the park, spending time with nieces and working. I knew the time would be coming for me to have to take another break from my life. Last Wednesday I had a double mastectomy, with no reconstruction. (I didn't want to go through any further surgeries). I am doing okay, the first week was a bit rough, but I added to my own misery by trying to do a load of laundry. I have learned my lesson and am taking it easy again. I go to the Dr tomorrow and hoping to have the drains removed. Dr said one to two weeks and still getting fluid, so not sure if I am stuck for another week. I also hope to get the pathology report tomorrow. I am home from work until June 4th, so I will be back online. I missed everyone.

05-02-2012, 09:01 AM	#5
Tommi Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Usually "Hello" Relationship Status: Married and Bound to Tommi's kaijira (Ts_kaijira ) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Suthun.... California that is. Across the ridge from Laguna Beach. Posts: 8,151 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,621 Thanked 21,337 Times in 5,969 Posts Rep Power: 21474860	I am in need of the above. Please make it a great day. Each one counts.