What Do You Think of TIME‘s Breastfeeding Cover?

princessbelle · 05-13-2012, 01:53 PM

I never breast fed and the reason i didn't is because i went back to work 6 weeks after giving birth, both times. I did not want to "pump" due to the inconvenience quite honestly and that was the only reason. My kids had formula and they were healthy and i don't really have an issue with either way. I think as long as the child is healthy and thriving, keep doing what you are doing.

Now a pacifier, that is another story...

My oldest never would take one, he actually gagged when i tried to give it to him. My youngest was over 3 before i got him off of that. He called it his "ossie-wass" no clue where that came from but it was comfort to him and he would panic when it wasn't around. So would i . Not positive that him getting braces was because of that or not, but that is something that i've heard. The suckling need in every baby is something that they have to have and is an ingrained way of staying alive.

As i've said before, whether you breast feed or not and whether you do so until whatever age YOU see fit as a mother and child dynamic, it's YOUR business. Given the context of feeding and nurturing, there is no wrong way in my book.

girl_dee · 05-13-2012, 02:29 PM

Belle i was wondering if the breastmilk/formula would come up. It's not the issue at hand, attached parenting is but i do not like when formula moms are judged!

i believe in "nurturing", i believe a mom feeding her baby a bottle can be just as nurturing as a mom breastfeeding.

The_Lady_Snow · 05-13-2012, 03:50 PM

So after watching a few interviews, learning more about the intent I can now really voice what I strongly feel about this particular way of marketing, because it's what it is marketing.

The magazine stirred up tons of controversy the way the child is posed, it's put Moms against Moms regarding who's the better parent or not. The picture is misleading since I thought it would be about when or when not to breastfeed a child and how Mom's that choose to are literally being bullied in society and shamed for doing what feels right to them.

It's a OLD MAN telling women how to *parent*, how to be *better* Mom's. What the hell does this old guy know and most importantly WHY are we as women listening to this MAN telling us or giving us advice on how to better parent.

I'd rather seek advice from a Mom before some old guy who they could not put on the cover because let's be honest, Mom on the cover is the sexist ideal of a *hot mom*

Thin, blonde, pretty he's not gonna sell covers like she is, throw in a stool and an almost 4 year old child posed into the mix and you have controversy and this magazine sells a bit more, women are dogging out one another on Mother's Day.

It's disgusting sometimes how we allow *men* to display images of us (women) in ways that can be, are demeaning especially to something as important as.

Motherhood.

RockOn · 05-13-2012, 03:55 PM

I came into work today. I used my cell phone to reply. Since I am at work, I was only able to read a couple of posts above mine.

I do want to come back when home and read all the other posts.

thanks ...

always2late · 05-13-2012, 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

So after watching a few interviews, learning more about the intent I can now really voice what I strongly feel about this particular way of marketing, because it's what it is marketing.

The magazine stirred up tons of controversy the way the child is posed, it's put Moms against Moms regarding who's the better parent or not. The picture is misleading since I thought it would be about when or when not to breastfeed a child and how Mom's that choose to are literally being bullied in society and shamed for doing what feels right to them.

It's a OLD MAN telling women how to *parent*, how to be *better* Mom's. What the hell does this old guy know and most importantly WHY are we as women listening to this MAN telling us or giving us advice on how to better parent.

I'd rather seek advice from a Mom before some old guy who they could not put on the cover because let's be honest, Mom on the cover is the sexist ideal of a *hot mom*

Thin, blonde, pretty he's not gonna sell covers like she is, throw in a stool and an almost 4 year old child posed into the mix and you have controversy and this magazine sells a bit more, women are dogging out one another on Mother's Day.

It's disgusting sometimes how we allow *men* to display images of us (women) in ways that can be, are demeaning especially to something as important as.

Motherhood.

THANK YOU! This is kinda the point I was trying to make in one of my previous posts..but you said it WAY better than me!

I found the photo disturbing...and then I did some soul searching as to WHY I found it so disturbing. And the reason was that is was a staged photo designed to provoke controversy. Hell, I don't care how women breastfeed, or when, or how long...that is entirely up to each individual. And I could care less if they choose to do it while hanging upside down from a tree! However, I DO have a problem with someone posing a woman the way THEY want to and staging a photograph. And then to block in a title that somehow implies that a certain type of "mothering" is better than another. Yeah...I have a BIG problem with that.

The_Lady_Snow · 05-13-2012, 05:25 PM

LINKYLOO

The_Lady_Snow · 05-13-2012, 05:28 PM

What is ironic to me (not really) is that Dad gets no criticism at all, nor is he being shamed for making this decision as well..

Mysoginy and sexism are a curious thing.... The women and children are the ones always shit on...

tantalizingfemme · 05-14-2012, 05:03 AM

I haven't read through the entire thread, so I am apologizing if this has already been covered.....

Is it really the the act of breast-feeding that is the nurturing part, or is it the act of holding the child close to you in a loving way for periods of time? I believe that it can be both, but one does not negate the other.

I breast-fed for about 2 months, but bottles were used at the same time when I was back at work. Does this mean that my relationship and closeness with my son is any different from others who breast-fed their children for longer than I did with no bottle? Nope.

I also don't appreciate that this idea promotes only the closeness of mothers to their children. What about fathers... what about adoptive parents... what about other family members who end up taking care of someone elses child?

I believe that we all do what we find best for our kids...but as others have stated, why do we have to start an us and them controvery again?

I abhor the fact that they chose to stage the cover with the child standing up, when the mother states that she breast feeds-him in a cradling, cuddling fashion.

It's a shame that TIME appears to have taken sides.

05-13-2012, 01:53 PM	#1
princessbelle Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: femme ones Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Tennessee Posts: 6,100 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 29,380 Thanked 30,496 Times in 5,198 Posts Rep Power: 21474858	I never breast fed and the reason i didn't is because i went back to work 6 weeks after giving birth, both times. I did not want to "pump" due to the inconvenience quite honestly and that was the only reason. My kids had formula and they were healthy and i don't really have an issue with either way. I think as long as the child is healthy and thriving, keep doing what you are doing. Now a pacifier, that is another story... My oldest never would take one, he actually gagged when i tried to give it to him. My youngest was over 3 before i got him off of that. He called it his "ossie-wass" no clue where that came from but it was comfort to him and he would panic when it wasn't around. So would i . Not positive that him getting braces was because of that or not, but that is something that i've heard. The suckling need in every baby is something that they have to have and is an ingrained way of staying alive. As i've said before, whether you breast feed or not and whether you do so until whatever age YOU see fit as a mother and child dynamic, it's YOUR business. Given the context of feeding and nurturing, there is no wrong way in my book. __________________ ~ I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~ Maya Angelou

05-13-2012, 03:50 PM	#3
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05-13-2012, 02:29 PM	#2
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05-14-2012, 05:03 AM	#8
tantalizingfemme Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Me Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: * Posts: 4,184 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,957 Thanked 3,984 Times in 822 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	I haven't read through the entire thread, so I am apologizing if this has already been covered..... Is it really the the act of breast-feeding that is the nurturing part, or is it the act of holding the child close to you in a loving way for periods of time? I believe that it can be both, but one does not negate the other. I breast-fed for about 2 months, but bottles were used at the same time when I was back at work. Does this mean that my relationship and closeness with my son is any different from others who breast-fed their children for longer than I did with no bottle? Nope. I also don't appreciate that this idea promotes only the closeness of mothers to their children. What about fathers... what about adoptive parents... what about other family members who end up taking care of someone elses child? I believe that we all do what we find best for our kids...but as others have stated, why do we have to start an us and them controvery again? I abhor the fact that they chose to stage the cover with the child standing up, when the mother states that she breast feeds-him in a cradling, cuddling fashion. It's a shame that TIME appears to have taken sides.