It's ever so lonely..

[Liquefaction]

Originally Posted by Strappie

[COLOR="Blue"] People don't show their true colors right away.

Talking on the phone is "not" enough to know who they are and going to visit on wknds or a few days is fun, but do you really get to know them?

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LOL...Where were you two years ago? You could have stopped me!

We spent almost two years doing the long distance thing. The first of the many red flags didn't go up until we were packing up the cars the day before I moved.

For anyone thinking about moving for another, read and reread Strappie's post. Now, go back and read it again. lol

[Strappie]

Originally Posted by Liquefaction

LOL...Where were you two years ago? You could have stopped me!

We spent almost two years doing the long distance thing. The first of the many red flags didn't go up until we were packing up the cars the day before I moved.

For anyone thinking about moving for another, read and reread Strappie's post. Now, go back and read it again. lol

lol Well I have been around the block a few times at the dash site. I have been there for 12 years. I know I'm not saying that I know all, but I do know whats right for me.

I have a friend that is here in the states and dating someone from another country. My friends gf would never be able to move her with Visa's and all it's a nightmare anyways. I'm trying to talk to her basically without say WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU THINKING! lol but oh well she and her gf will figure it out. The other country is not Canada if it was I wouldn't be pushing so hard it a little easier there than were the gf if at.

[Strappie]

The one thing I can say is that when you do meet someone online and talk to them on the phone to me you get to know them a bit better (if you are asking the right questions) than if you were dating in person.

Like for instance you go out on a date with someone and you go to dinner. Are you really going to be asking the "deep dark" questions about hwo they feel about things or are you going to answer their questions as easily as you would without looking them directly in the eye. Sure you can get more of a feel for the person with them right there in front of you and see their expressions and so on. But are we really getting to know them with all the distractions going on around us? We have or tend to be more in tune to them on the phone and ask more in depth questions. I do like talking to ppl on the phone to get to know them I'm able to ask more questions "sooner" than maybe the 5 or 10th date. So to me talking on the phone for an hour is like 3 - 5 dates.

With all that said... Dating online to me isn't that scary what is scary to me is when it's time to do something about it. You all know what my answer is there..... Living separate for the first 6 - 12 months!

[Liquefaction]

Originally Posted by Strappie

The one thing I can say is that when you do meet someone online and talk to them on the phone to me you get to know them a bit better (if you are asking the right questions) than if you were dating in person.

Like for instance you go out on a date with someone and you go to dinner. Are you really going to be asking the "deep dark" questions about hwo they feel about things or are you going to answer their questions as easily as you would without looking them directly in the eye. Sure you can get more of a feel for the person with them right there in front of you and see their expressions and so on. But are we really getting to know them with all the distractions going on around us? We have or tend to be more in tune to them on the phone and ask more in depth questions. I do like talking to ppl on the phone to get to know them I'm able to ask more questions "sooner" than maybe the 5 or 10th date. So to me talking on the phone for an hour is like 3 - 5 dates.

With all that said... Dating online to me isn't that scary what is scary to me is when it's time to do something about it. You all know what my answer is there..... Living separate for the first 6 - 12 months!

I have to agree with you on this but I have found it much easier for someone to lie or at least hide the truth better when they are not looking you in the eye. But then again, some people are so good, it wouldn't matter one way or the other.

No matter how we go about it, sooner or later you do see people for who they are, good or bad. And yes, the scariest part is when you have to do something about it. Do you take that chance and risk it all or do you play it safe and wonder what if?

If I had to do it all over again, I do not know what my answer to that question would be.

Oh.....That must be one hell of a phone call if it is worth 3-5 dates!

[Strappie]

Originally Posted by Liquefaction

I have to agree with you on this but I have found it much easier for someone to lie or at least hide the truth better when they are not looking you in the eye. But then again, some people are so good, it wouldn't matter one way or the other.

No matter how we go about it, sooner or later you do see people for who they are, good or bad. And yes, the scariest part is when you have to do something about it. Do you take that chance and risk it all or do you play it safe and wonder what if?

If I had to do it all over again, I do not know what my answer to that question would be.

Oh.....That must be one hell of a phone call if it is worth 3-5 dates!

I agree, some people do lie and some people like to agree with you and say the same answers. I think it's because they are insecure. But if you ask them again later down the line you will eventually catch them.

I tend not to be afraid of asking questions. Might as well ask them rather than wonder what their answers will be.

You outta see my 3rd date!! lol