Grieving

Andrew, Jr. · 03-01-2010, 08:12 AM

I was suddenly surprised, and somewhat shocked by my niece who is getting married. She wants to put a picture of her late Aunt on the alter during the service. I thought it was a good idea. Well, her cousins will be at the wedding, and are ok with that. However, her uncle is not. He wants to bring a date to the wedding, and wants to move on to some normal-cy with life and living. He told everyone not to put anything in the program to recogn. his late wife, and does not want her picture on the alter. He got very upset when this subject was even talked about. I mean he was pissed. That took everyone by surprise.

What should I do? I was asked to be a mediator. I am not sure of what to do or say really. I recognize both sides.

Thanks.

Andrew, Jr. · 03-15-2010, 10:36 AM

Bumping the thread incase someone needs it.

I hope everyone is doing well, and life is being kind to each of you.

Andrew

Butterbean · 03-15-2010, 01:26 PM

I just wrote a lengthy post concerning the death of each of my parents in March of 1983 and March of 2005.

The post flew away somehow and I'm leaving it up to fate that perhaps the post was just for me to write.

I appreciate this thread a tremendous amount.

I'll never stop hating the month of March.

Andrew, Jr. · 03-15-2010, 02:00 PM

Butterbean,

Someone told me the same exact thing yesterday. March seems to be hard on a lot of folks for some reason. I just don't have the words to say today. Know that I am here, and I am listening.

Peace,
Andrew

Andrew, Jr. · 03-24-2010, 06:28 AM

One of my nieces got married over the weekend. On the alter was a picture of my late sister, her aunt, Jo. The two of them were very close. This was just a way of acknowledging Jo. And in the program was a short paragraph about my late sister. It was tasteful, and on one hand very sad. On another hand very sentimental, and happy. It was an acknowledgement of Jo's life. Jo's two sons were very touched by this. And her husband (who brought a date, but we won't go there in this thread), cried when they all saw the alter, and read about Jo in the program.

Jo has not even been gone for over a little over a year now. It feels like forever and a day. And we all survived. Life does go on. It is just very strange. Strange in that we have a life without Jo, and it's ok.

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03-15-2010, 01:26 PM	#3
Butterbean Member How Do You Identify?: ---- Preferred Pronoun?: ---- Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: ----- Posts: 1,143 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,417 Thanked 2,215 Times in 771 Posts Rep Power: 17690475	I just wrote a lengthy post concerning the death of each of my parents in March of 1983 and March of 2005. The post flew away somehow and I'm leaving it up to fate that perhaps the post was just for me to write. I appreciate this thread a tremendous amount. I'll never stop hating the month of March.

03-15-2010, 02:00 PM	#4
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	Butterbean, Someone told me the same exact thing yesterday. March seems to be hard on a lot of folks for some reason. I just don't have the words to say today. Know that I am here, and I am listening. Peace, Andrew

03-24-2010, 06:28 AM	#5
Andrew, Jr. Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Me Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Over the Rainbow in a House Posts: 5,072 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16,004 Thanked 5,249 Times in 2,216 Posts Rep Power: 0	One of my nieces got married over the weekend. On the alter was a picture of my late sister, her aunt, Jo. The two of them were very close. This was just a way of acknowledging Jo. And in the program was a short paragraph about my late sister. It was tasteful, and on one hand very sad. On another hand very sentimental, and happy. It was an acknowledgement of Jo's life. Jo's two sons were very touched by this. And her husband (who brought a date, but we won't go there in this thread), cried when they all saw the alter, and read about Jo in the program. Jo has not even been gone for over a little over a year now. It feels like forever and a day. And we all survived. Life does go on. It is just very strange. Strange in that we have a life without Jo, and it's ok.