A question for the butches....

[Just_G]

If it were me, I would hope that whomever I was dating or considered my girlfriend would just come to me and say "hey, I've been thinking and I would like to explore things with you...." or something along those lines. Someone wanting to spice things up in the bedroom isn't going to hurt my ego.

Communication is the key....but that is just my opinion.

Besides that, talking about it gets the wheels turning and there is no telling where it would go from there! (that's when the fun texts start flying back and forth....lol)

[fludderbies]

Thanks again everyone for all of the replies! I am just going to talk to her about it. We talk about everything, i was just wondering how to do it without hurting her feelings, or making her feel like she isn't already great-- which she is. So... i guess if I want more/ different things, i have to ask for them. I can't expect her to read my mind!

Thanks again!!

Fludder

[Ginger]

Originally Posted by fludderbies

Thanks again everyone for all of the replies! I am just going to talk to her about it. We talk about everything, i was just wondering how to do it without hurting her feelings, or making her feel like she isn't already great-- which she is. So... i guess if I want more/ different things, i have to ask for them. I can't expect her to read my mind!

Thanks again!!

Fludder

Fludder,

I'm glad you're going to talk to your partner about what you want, sexually.

It's about you; what you want, not about her, and what she lacks.

I hope she can hear it that way.

Also, I hope she can hear that your voicing of what you want, is a vote of confidence in her.

The fact that you can even bring it up says that you believe she wants to hear it, you believe that she wants the sexual bond between the two of you to be stronger.

Scout