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Soft*Silver · 07-14-2012, 11:01 PM

tomorrow is the grand opening of my plus sized clothing store. I am exhausted. I have spent the last few days working 9 to 12 hours each day. Not alot for most of you, but for me and my disabilities, its horrible on my poor body. But I wouldnt miss this for anything! It has been so wonderful doing this, meeting everyone, getting such wonderful support, and hearing so many stories from women!

I need to go to bed. I have an early day tomorrow and even tho I have insomnia, by god, I am sleeping tonight! LOL

Soft*Silver · 07-15-2012, 02:34 PM

the grand opening was more than I ever hoped for! We had tons of customers and sold lots of clothes and so many people made appts to bring in clothes to consign! People loved the shop, and promised to come back again and bring friends with them! From teens to eldery ladies, they all came. I was so proud of my store!

My sister and my niece came for support. Bless their hearts. I couldnt have done this without my family and friends who have been there for me. Including this forum! I will be posting photos later, of the incredible art work the Scrapbooking thread folks made for the store. It says "you are so beautiful" and I have it across the bannisters in the back, so that when people walk in, they see the sign greeting them. Its LOVELY!

I am home, feet up, relaxing. I am BEAT. LOL. But I am so tickled that my store is finally opened!

LeftWriteFemme · 07-20-2012, 03:34 PM

I ran across these.......thought they were sweet....but the name of the ad campaign caused me to post them here

http://www.designboom.com/weblog/cat...-campaign.html

Leigh · 07-20-2012, 04:29 PM

I'm starting to really embrace my size, its a slow process but I'm gonna get there no matter how long it takes me

Soft*Silver · 07-20-2012, 06:48 PM

it happened again. And older woman came into my store and after she had touched (and I mean that..touched, not gone through) three racks, she turned to me with tears in her eyes and said "I am so glad you are here"

this astounds me every time.

It also astounds me when I ask women what size they are, so i can help them look, sometimes their faces change, like I just insulted them. I asked them for a number. Not if they had masturbated that morning. But I might as well have! Fear, anger, shame, fierce self protectiveness from cruelty....man it all races across their face. I have learned to hold their eyes and smile...softly...not too much because then it becomes obscene. A soft smile with soft eyes, as tho to say "ease up missus, I mean you no harm"

and sure enough, they ease up. They realize they are safe to say that number out loud. No one is going to laugh. Or taunt. Or sneer. Nor shame.

I watch as people pass by my window display where it is written what sizes we carry. Women sometimes stop in, but sometimes, I see the look change from curious, to that innate sense of fight or flight and they run...women who are obviously plus size. These women, I figure, are so out of body, they cannot even conceive of being seen reading a plus size store window....I could be misreading them but I have seen this occur several times. They turn tail and run away...

I had a dog and her owner come into the store today. Her missus didnt want to come in but I beckoned her. I need to keep a treat bowl for pups in the store!

Some children came in with mom, and they were SO EXCITED I had a play area. And were so good..they picked up after themselves. Mom was SO EXCITED she could shop without kids whining they were bored. I did good!

I had a steady flow of customers all day. My biggest fear was I would create this shop and no one would come. And the people coming, are coming in from very little advertising. Just wait until I get more marketing out there!

Life...is good.

Beloved · 07-21-2012, 04:43 AM

I am a lurker in this thread. I'm not considered fat, but like many women I just have body image issues. And this thread for me is more than just embracing the fact that you are fat and that there is nothing wrong with it. To me it inspires me to accept and embrace my own body, with it's many "flaws" whatever they may be. So thank you to all of you confident BBW.

Miss Tia, best of luck to you and your store. Sounds like you are enjoying yourself and the community is happy to have you.

nycfem · 07-21-2012, 06:45 AM

Thanks, Beloved! You and anyone, whether thin or fat or whatever size, are very welcome here to lurk or post! I just wanted to carve out a little space where someone could go to get some body positive energy and support

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Originally Posted by Beloved

I am a lurker in this thread. I'm not considered fat, but like many women I just have body image issues. And this thread for me is more than just embracing the fact that you are fat and that there is nothing wrong with it. To me it inspires me to accept and embrace my own body, with it's many "flaws" whatever they may be. So thank you to all of you confident BBW.

Miss Tia, best of luck to you and your store. Sounds like you are enjoying yourself and the community is happy to have you.

07-14-2012, 11:01 PM	#1
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,895 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	tomorrow is the grand opening of my plus sized clothing store. I am exhausted. I have spent the last few days working 9 to 12 hours each day. Not alot for most of you, but for me and my disabilities, its horrible on my poor body. But I wouldnt miss this for anything! It has been so wonderful doing this, meeting everyone, getting such wonderful support, and hearing so many stories from women! I need to go to bed. I have an early day tomorrow and even tho I have insomnia, by god, I am sleeping tonight! LOL __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

07-15-2012, 02:34 PM	#2
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,895 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	the grand opening was more than I ever hoped for! We had tons of customers and sold lots of clothes and so many people made appts to bring in clothes to consign! People loved the shop, and promised to come back again and bring friends with them! From teens to eldery ladies, they all came. I was so proud of my store! My sister and my niece came for support. Bless their hearts. I couldnt have done this without my family and friends who have been there for me. Including this forum! I will be posting photos later, of the incredible art work the Scrapbooking thread folks made for the store. It says "you are so beautiful" and I have it across the bannisters in the back, so that when people walk in, they see the sign greeting them. Its LOVELY! I am home, feet up, relaxing. I am BEAT. LOL. But I am so tickled that my store is finally opened! __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

07-20-2012, 03:34 PM	#3
LeftWriteFemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Daddy's good girl Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Jersey Posts: 16,642 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,529 Thanked 12,285 Times in 5,184 Posts Rep Power: 21474868	I ran across these.......thought they were sweet....but the name of the ad campaign caused me to post them here http://www.designboom.com/weblog/cat...-campaign.html __________________ Clicking on these dragon eggs will take you to my new erotic novella: Dragon Bait .........Hope you enjoy it! ________________________________________________ Please take a look at my work Click on flashing smilie to see my website To look at my Daddy/girl erotica book Click on pompom girl to see Elbows on the Table, Palms Flat

07-20-2012, 04:29 PM	#4
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07-20-2012, 06:48 PM	#5
SoftSilver Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: rose cottage Posts: 5,592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8,948 Thanked 15,895 Times in 4,062 Posts Rep Power*: 21474857	it happened again. And older woman came into my store and after she had touched (and I mean that..touched, not gone through) three racks, she turned to me with tears in her eyes and said "I am so glad you are here" this astounds me every time. It also astounds me when I ask women what size they are, so i can help them look, sometimes their faces change, like I just insulted them. I asked them for a number. Not if they had masturbated that morning. But I might as well have! Fear, anger, shame, fierce self protectiveness from cruelty....man it all races across their face. I have learned to hold their eyes and smile...softly...not too much because then it becomes obscene. A soft smile with soft eyes, as tho to say "ease up missus, I mean you no harm" and sure enough, they ease up. They realize they are safe to say that number out loud. No one is going to laugh. Or taunt. Or sneer. Nor shame. I watch as people pass by my window display where it is written what sizes we carry. Women sometimes stop in, but sometimes, I see the look change from curious, to that innate sense of fight or flight and they run...women who are obviously plus size. These women, I figure, are so out of body, they cannot even conceive of being seen reading a plus size store window....I could be misreading them but I have seen this occur several times. They turn tail and run away... I had a dog and her owner come into the store today. Her missus didnt want to come in but I beckoned her. I need to keep a treat bowl for pups in the store! Some children came in with mom, and they were SO EXCITED I had a play area. And were so good..they picked up after themselves. Mom was SO EXCITED she could shop without kids whining they were bored. I did good! I had a steady flow of customers all day. My biggest fear was I would create this shop and no one would come. And the people coming, are coming in from very little advertising. Just wait until I get more marketing out there! Life...is good. __________________ Pole bachit, a lis chuye. The field sees, the forest hears

07-21-2012, 04:43 AM	#6
Beloved Member How Do You Identify?: alive Preferred Pronoun?: um Relationship Status: married Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: on the stars Posts: 460 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,415 Thanked 1,653 Times in 298 Posts Rep Power: 19348704	I am a lurker in this thread. I'm not considered fat, but like many women I just have body image issues. And this thread for me is more than just embracing the fact that you are fat and that there is nothing wrong with it. To me it inspires me to accept and embrace my own body, with it's many "flaws" whatever they may be. So thank you to all of you confident BBW. Miss Tia, best of luck to you and your store. Sounds like you are enjoying yourself and the community is happy to have you.