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08-14-2012, 12:23 PM
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<---not a fan of wearing makeup, still as femme as they come.
pack, don't pack, doesn't change who you are. There are butches on this site who don't use c*cks at all, so I hardly think you are alone.
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08-14-2012, 12:34 PM
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I have packed in the past both soft and hard, but have not in a long time.
Nothing wrong with doing it or not doing it just depends on your preference.
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08-14-2012, 07:13 PM
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Packing? Awkward!
Okay I am a cop...when I am asked if I am packing...forgive the "deer in the headlights" look you get! I just never know how to answer that question..."yes and no!" "yes and yes" or "no and yes"....tonight the answer is yes and no...I am home. Someone will figuer that one out!
 waiting for Mrs Arcstriker to come home!
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08-14-2012, 07:21 PM
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I think it comes down to personal preference and in my mind there is no debating a personal choice. I'm weird like that.
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08-14-2012, 08:34 PM
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So are we talking "heat" or cock? If so, then I prefer Yes and Yes. The cock definitely turns me on, and the .40 cal. makes up for the height discrepency. (Or is it the other way around?) (tippy-toeing out of the room now...) |
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08-14-2012, 09:18 PM
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i'm packing right now, for the Reunion! It's going to be a tight squeeze!
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09-09-2012, 01:17 PM
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I do not pack, nor have I ever. I may be young, but I'm fully aware that I don't need to pack to know I am butch. I am just as much of one whether I pack or I don't. We all have things that make us who we are, and we are no more or less without said traits. So, does that make me less of a butch? no. not at all. We were made to be our own versions, not copies of another type. We're all still who we are. I'm still a young, dapper butch, without anything between my legs. I am me, and that's what counts.
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09-09-2012, 01:25 PM
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If a butch I am seeing wants to soft pack, I say go for it. It's none of my business really. If she wants me to groove on it, it's going to be disappointing for her because I just don't. It doesn't do a thing for me.
I hear about femmes who scrape it with their nails and share that MOMENT, that acknowledgement of difference, and I think, wow, we are so not the same. Seriously. I love those moments of acknowledgement with butches or femmes. That frisson of recognition of who we are. That delicious exchange. But the softpack as a signifier of gender is not erotic for me. It is not a manifestation of masculinity that I find hot or even interesting. If someone were to wear it and not need me to interact with it in that way, then we'd be good. It wouldn't mean I didn't see them for who they are or that I wouldn't groove on their masculine presentation. |
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09-09-2012, 01:55 PM
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As I have always said...packing or not packing doesn't matter to me. I will pack if the femme I am with wants me to, but I don't define me by an addition carried between my legs. I am just ME.
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09-09-2012, 02:21 PM
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When I think about it, that moment, reaching for someone -- it's a fun thing. All consensual, of course. Whether doing it slyly in public or not, it's a pleasure.
Just rubbing that high inner thigh in the car or anywhere. Yum. A soft pack, for me, means I won't be going there. There are things we do for the pleasure of our partners that don't do all that much for us. But to fake that I want to reach for her stuff when I don't, no, that would not work. Yet, I'd have to be busy or in a pretty pissy mood not to want to touch a partner between the legs if she wanted it. The softpack is, ironically, a cock block to me. I do not have any interest in it. If it's there, I am not likely to fondle her. |
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09-09-2012, 02:14 PM
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I pack
I pack on certain occasions depending on what I have plan for us. I love to pack when I go out dancing. I know femmes that love the feel while dancing.
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09-09-2012, 02:50 PM
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My Butch does not pack, and until coming to the Butch-Femme site I had no idea that packing was something some Butches did. I don't judge a Butch by what's in their pants.
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09-09-2012, 04:48 PM
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I only pack when I'm going to use it needless to say, it's not a soft pack.
Packing vs. non-packing is about personal preferences of the butch and has nothing to do with being butch enough or this or that kind of butch or whatever the hell people want to come up with. Yes, I've met femmes that pack and butches that do and do not pack all the time, some of the time, only on a Sunday <g>.... Rope-- |
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09-09-2012, 05:28 PM
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Getting educated here.
I thought all Butches had to pack or strap on to be in "The Bois Club". Hummm,maybe not.
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09-09-2012, 05:41 PM
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I know I spend alot of time in the butch c*ck thread, however that doesn't mean I have to be with someone who does - I accept my butch as they are, whether they pack or not
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09-09-2012, 05:42 PM
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When I first came out to the big world other than a fue friends I was told by nearly everyone that if I didnt pack or strap it on I would never really be any kind of a butch.With that in mind I bought whatever it took to fill the toy bag...I spent mucho deniro....wow that good stuff aint cheep.That's been a long time ago,and to tell the truth untill I became a bfp planiteer I never felt I could ever not have or need to strap or pack to intrest anyone in the community.It dosent bother me to do either one way or the other..there is another thing I got from being hear that is being called her isnt a black ball word,I can stull be a big old butch jaust the same.I learn something reading these post that its ok to relax and be me without haveing to fix in a box that i'm expexted to be in.
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09-09-2012, 07:36 PM
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I pack very occasionally but never soft pack. I don't feel the need for it. My connection is always there whether I am packing or not.
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09-09-2012, 07:09 PM
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Thank you bunches June  Finaly beleaveing this came late but better late than never.
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09-09-2012, 05:44 PM
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I did pack for a few b-f gatherings, but never mainstream. I don't think I would pack again unless it was a turn-on for the femme. I don't mind packing, but it isn't something I need to do currently. |
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09-09-2012, 05:45 PM
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I've never actually been with anyone who packs. My ex in San Diego used to think about it but never went shopping. And when I came out 20 years ago, I don't know that we knew much about it in New Zealand. Although, I'm sure there were plenty of butches who did think about it and tried doing it with socks etc.
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