Relationships - What things do you want & need?

[girl_dee]

i want the real deal, a real life, not a life made up on a computer or layers of saccharin under what is actually a non-existence. i don't want to have to make it up and cover so that people don't know the real deal, i want to enjoy life and although i love the internet, i do not want to maintain a relationship there. i want to know that everyday is solid and secure with someone who doesn't need me to complete them or make them look good, because they look pretty damn good on their own.

My needs are water and air, the rest are wants and desires..

Thank you UNIVERSE!

[Metro]

Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

"i want the real deal... i want to know that everyday is solid and secure with someone who doesn't need me to complete them or make them look good, because they look pretty damn good on their own."

I agree with Dee...

And, while it's nice to have an online space to vent, or share, or provide others with positive written support, for me I've found that too much is missed online (both physical and verbal cues) when trying to sort out any kind of romantic connection. I salute those who can make it *work* but for me geographic proximity is necessary.

[Scuba]

...Someone who knows that relationships are not part-time jobs. Not ready for a full-time position? Apply somewhere else

[luv2luvgirls]

Originally Posted by Scuba

...Someone who knows that relationships are not part-time jobs. Not ready for a full-time position? Apply somewhere else

I lol on this but its so true! well put scuba

[Tcountry]

...someone who completes me body, mind, and soul
...who loves being affectionate almost always, and understands when I choose not to be
...someone who accepts me for who I am, and gets to know my entire history
...has a good character, and gets my sense of humor
...smart and can call me out on my shit, but isn't above my cheezy flirting
...wants to communicate often, and can focus just on the issue when there is an issue...to solve it and then let it go
...oh & cooking is a plus...cause my skills are limited

*tip hat*

[StrongButch]

Patient,caring,kind,supportive,strong not afraid to love and be loved.I am lucky to have this and so much more.

[alexri]

I need balance. I need balance between me time and time with a partner. I need stability. I need loyalty. I need the comfort of routine, with the occasional excitement of something new and different.

For me, I think the most wonderful example of a healthy relationship is the Triquetra. It is a balance of individuality and unity, looking at how the three arms are connected.

You are one arm, your partner is the other arm, and the relationship is the third arm. The relationship exists independently of you and your partner and has it's own energy and presence. You and your partner do not give up your individuality. The two of you do not merge into one person, but are connected to something important. And all three are interconnected. I also see it as a sign that when one arm is struggling, the other two can support it.

I know this symbol has so many meanings to so many people, practices and faiths. It just means a lot to me and this is one of the insights for me.

[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by Metro

I agree with Dee...

And, while it's nice to have an online space to vent, or share, or provide others with positive written support, for me I've found that too much is missed online (both physical and verbal cues) when trying to sort out any kind of romantic connection. I salute those who can make it *work* but for me geographic proximity is necessary.

me too, for ME that is the only way to know someone..

[PurpleQuestions84]

* Lots of affection

* honesty

* a person who is really on my team and supportive of my goals

* you cant be abusive
JUST SIMPLY CARE