Something I just noticed..the very logo of the site

[Arwen]

Originally Posted by guihong

I think as a community, we're getting away from sorting everyone into "butch" and "femme", and dealing with everyone as an individual. Many of us just can't or won't be boxed into any grouping, despite the site name. I suspect that some of us are really here for broader support for being gay, and not to be any one label.

Do you mean "we" as the whole queer population or "we" as the community of the Planet?

Because I'm certainly not here for the broader support for being gay.

Personally, I identify as queer rather than gay (and yes, for me, there's a difference). I don't need support in being gay.

I need support in being a queer femme.

The logo is the logo is the logo is. There is an inherent binary between butch and femme. It's not a static thing. It's not a line set in stone. It's in sand.

And sand shifts. Then it shifts more. Where there was a dune yesterday there might be smooth, flat planes today. We've seen that here. Where there was a butch, now there's a femme. Or there's a femme who is attracted to both butches and femmes. Etc.

We are a fluid, unique community just like all the other snowflakes. And, for me, if this planet shifted to a broader spectrum, my voice, my needs to talk about, read about, play about who and what I id as, then that would be lost.

So, for me, I'm quite glad we celebrate the binary here.