The Loft: Butches and Femmes in their 40s, 50s and over. - Page 147

morningstar55 · 08-18-2012, 07:23 PM

Howdy loft dwellers ....
Ladyrein... welcome 2 the loft, just b urself .

As 4 me... watching my cat frm hell... and tanked ha...
cuddling up in my blankie sipping sm ginger ale,and eating sm Imodium AD.
not feeling 2 well 2 nite.

Hey ruth
Osbutch i only took 2 and deleted1.. and no wont post it without permission

ferret · 08-18-2012, 07:29 PM

Thought I could at least poke my head in and say hello. Sad that vacation has come to an end, and that I have to deal with some things I'd rather keep at a distance. Anyway, hope you all are enjoying your weekend.

Sue

ruthie14 · 08-18-2012, 07:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by morningstar55

Howdy loft dwellers ....
Ladyrein... welcome 2 the loft, just b urself .

As 4 me... watching my cat frm hell... and tanked ha...
cuddling up in my blankie sipping sm ginger ale,and eating sm Imodium AD.
not feeling 2 well 2 nite.

Hey ruth
Osbutch i only took 2 and deleted1.. and no wont post it without permission

Feel better morningstar!!!!

I am feeling down tonight... my body is stopping me from doing things that I want to do. Keeping me from spending time with my friends. I don't usually whine about it... but 2 days in a row is a bit much.

oh well

Gotta find something else to do with my day tomorrow... WILL NOT stay home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

morningstar55 · 08-18-2012, 08:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ruthie14

Feel better morningstar!!!!

I am feeling down tonight... my body is stopping me from doing things that I want to do. Keeping me from spending time with my friends. I don't usually whine about it... but 2 days in a row is a bit much.

oh well

Gotta find something else to do with my day tomorrow... WILL NOT stay home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

....understandable.....

OS Butch · 08-18-2012, 09:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by morningstar55

Howdy loft dwellers ....
Ladyrein... welcome 2 the loft, just b urself .

As 4 me... watching my cat frm hell... and tanked ha...
cuddling up in my blankie sipping sm ginger ale,and eating sm Imodium AD.
not feeling 2 well 2 nite.

Hey ruth
Osbutch i only took 2 and deleted1.. and no wont post it without permission

LOL! Ok, and it would be okay as long as you ask

I hope you are feeling better.

OS Butch · 08-18-2012, 09:11 PM

Dear LadyRieinAL and Ruthie, I do have a bunch to say on your posts, I am in the same boat( since I am the butch, I will row, if you all don't mind

)

Unfortunately, it is late and I need to think clearly.

But for now, changing the core you and your beliefs in my opinion, may not be the answer.

Jo

ruthie14 · 08-19-2012, 08:10 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OS Butch

Dear LadyRieinAL and Ruthie, I do have a bunch to say on your posts, I am in the same boat( since I am the butch, I will row, if you all don't mind

)

Unfortunately, it is late and I need to think clearly.

But for now, changing the core you and your beliefs in my opinion, may not be the answer.

Jo

Ya, I agree with you. I won't change my core values or what I believe is right for me.... took me a long time to figure myself out and I am not gonna change for ANYONE!! However, sometimes I just wish I could be that way. It would make some things in my life easier.

Have a great Sunday all!

Ruthie

morningstar55 · 08-20-2012, 04:05 AM

Morning loft dwellers and peekers
another day at the office
headng 2 ..... Toledo....
Catch yal on the flip side ...

Glenn · 08-20-2012, 06:47 AM

Good Mornin Folks and All; Been a peepin for years, but then again, I'm a psychological antique

It's always nice to see the ladies up and at em in here. School started in town today. Seems a bit early. It's the coolest August I've ever seen here. Makes me wonder what winter will be like. Well, that's all for now. Take care of yourselves Folks.

fever · 08-20-2012, 01:23 PM

It sure starts early in the US of A. My little grandson is all excited about grade 3. It has been frightfully hot here in B.C., Glenn, so a little cooler weather would be very nice. The blackberries are now ripe, so that is on my list of todos. I need to get picking and freezing.

I sure don't like that little "Canadian" emicon thing. We don't talk like that. lol

Have a super week everyone.

Candice

morningstar55 · 08-20-2012, 04:07 PM

Howdy Glenn nd fever...

I have landed in ah .. Byrcus,ohiya..... and pkng up a load here in the morning and headng down to Princeton,Ind.....

ruthie14 · 08-21-2012, 08:16 PM

A friend of mine had to put her 17 year old pit mix down today. I am so sad.... her dog Kelsey and I spent a LOT of time together over the last couple years. Her mommy had to go away for work a lot so she would often spend 3 to 4 days a week at my house. Sometimes a couple of weeks. It breaks my heart. Run swiftly over the rainbow bridge my friend!

LadyRieinAL · 08-21-2012, 08:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by morningstar55

Howdy loft dwellers ....
Ladyrein... welcome 2 the loft, just b urself .

As 4 me... watching my cat frm hell... and tanked ha...
cuddling up in my blankie sipping sm ginger ale,and eating sm Imodium AD.
not feeling 2 well 2 nite.

Hey ruth
Osbutch i only took 2 and deleted1.. and no wont post it without permission

thanks morningstar - If I try to be someone other than me, could you give ma shake and tell me to snap out of it?!

morningstar55 · 08-22-2012, 04:53 AM

Morning loft dwellers and peekers
am hanging near Electrocell territory..... yeha.
dont hav a. Load yet which is fine i need 2 get sm paintings done.

Ruth sorry 4 the loss

*Anya* · 08-22-2012, 06:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LadyRieinAL

The other night, a younger friend of mine, a butch, who knows I've been single for almost two years, asked me if I had ever considered friends with benefits - my response was no, (wanted to sing - baby I was born this way) - and at the same time, I couldn't help but wonder, why I can't just let go, enjoy making love for the excitement of it all - why can't I be polymorphous and know it is ok to be in a polyamorous relationship.
The people I'm most attracted to, those who I have come in contact with over the last few months, live hundreds of miles from Alabama - long distant committed relationships seeing someone once a year doesn't work for me - If I'm committed to someone I want to see them at least once a month, and I would prefer they live the same town. But if I were poly, I would have choices, variety, and maybe I wouldn't dwell on the "age" factor - someone being too young for me, and I wouldn't have to worry that I'm took kink or not kink enough.
I don't know - I thought I did - but being without a partner has caused me to rethink my belief that being in a manogamous relationship maybe helps someone to grow and it isn't as off track for me as it seems - and what I know about me, I'm so frigging partner oriented, I want to be in love with one person, I want to share intimate moments with one person, I want to give one special person my attention, my devotion, and my love - and I don't like sharing.
So, can you teach an old dog new tricks of the heart?

Quote:

Originally Posted by ruthie14

I have had the same thoughts recently in regards to this butch I've been dating (see recent posts). She wants to have sex while dating various people... I wish I could. I think she is hot, she is smart, caring, affectionate. I just can't wrap my head around it and i know from past experience...once we cross that bridge, not matter how hard I try, i will expect more. It will ruin what we do have. Ohhhh but I do wish I could... just enjoy myself. I have the same problem the the ldr too. I won't do that anymore, but that is who I seem to connect with. I live in Jersey and currently am quite attracted to a woman in Cali... sigh. I won't have a ldr with her.. won't move.. sooooooooo it's flirty texts and leaving it at that. .. I feel ya!!

Hi all. I pop in once in a blue moon and this subject caught my eye. Good morning!

There is a thread on the Planet called something like poly and mono. I think the upshot is that you are either wired for poly or you are not.

I have never been able to have sex without deep feelings, on my way to being in love. My wires don't work that way.

Do I think how much more simple my life would be? Yes and no. If it could be done in the right head space, yes. Me? I would not feel good about myself.

I do not judge others that can do it and a matter of fact, I have a little bit of envy because they can.

The age thing? Yes, that is hard for me. My ex-girlfriend was 10-years younger. Just this week I got an email on a lesbian dating site that I had not even looked at in almost 9-months, from a butch 15-years younger than I. That just seems too wide a gap. There has to be a limit, right?! I guess when the age category feels really creepy, that's too young! It is flattering though, I must admit!

We all have to stay true to ourselves and our personal values. Hard to do sometimes.

Have a good day all.

morningstar55 · 08-22-2012, 04:53 PM

Need voters 4 my .... cocoa chips please

https://www.dousaflavor.com/canvas/i...urce=tdimeline

DMW · 08-24-2012, 02:47 PM

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morningstar55 · 08-24-2012, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by DMW

We Got Tonight - Dolly Parton & Kenny Rogers live 1985 - YouTube

we got tonight????
heyyy DMW Sir... hello and welcome to the loft.....

morningstar55 · 08-25-2012, 07:22 AM

Morning..loft dwellers nd peekers
. late last nite had a visit from a sort of sparkly Mr Leonard... lol ...
Also had a dream I wad at a hospital.. and a doc was telling me minister was doing better and i could hear her talking..but they had to do some test... everyone I was walking towards hr room , had to go around things that got only way and thru another room , I could hear her, then there was someone sleeping on the couch, thn my brother was sitting there and we had to go to my mom,s ... I wanted to call my mom , and tell Kath was ok and coming home soon .. but never could get hold of My mom....thn woke up.. sigh.
I miss my sister...

Anyways. Have a great day ... everyone

DMW · 08-25-2012, 08:19 AM

Mornin.
The we've got tonight song is just pipe dreams...in reference to some of the earlier posts. Sometimes it is easier said than done.
Morningstar, I am sorry that you are missing your sister. That is what i would call a nightmare...not a dream.
I find when i miss someone...nothing and nobody else can really make it better or take that entities place in my heart.(that is good because each person is their own entity. People and pets can't really be replaced. I think it has to do with acceptance and respect.)
So, i go into that...gratitude mode and tell myself that i was lucky to have them in my life at all. And then, i think of the good things about them and how they would want my reflection on them to be good and happy because they want me happy. I don't know where your sister is but, i am sure she is giving you some spirit hugs. I am sorry you are hurting.

08-18-2012, 07:23 PM	#2921
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Howdy loft dwellers .... Ladyrein... welcome 2 the loft, just b urself . As 4 me... watching my cat frm hell... and tanked ha... cuddling up in my blankie sipping sm ginger ale,and eating sm Imodium AD. not feeling 2 well 2 nite. Hey ruth Osbutch i only took 2 and deleted1.. and no wont post it without permission __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-18-2012, 07:29 PM	#2922
ferret Member How Do You Identify?: As myself. Preferred Pronoun?: Female ones. Relationship Status: Timed out. Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: US Posts: 332 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 19 Thanked 887 Times in 277 Posts Rep Power: 5468780	Thought I could at least poke my head in and say hello. Sad that vacation has come to an end, and that I have to deal with some things I'd rather keep at a distance. Anyway, hope you all are enjoying your weekend. Sue __________________ There are three things you can't recover in life: The moment after it's missed, the word after it's said, and the time after it's wasted.

08-18-2012, 09:11 PM	#2926
OS Butch Member How Do You Identify?: Butch-BLW Preferred Pronoun?: Default-She Relationship Status: Closed Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 636 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 488 Thanked 1,378 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 12988704	Dear LadyRieinAL and Ruthie, I do have a bunch to say on your posts, I am in the same boat( since I am the butch, I will row, if you all don't mind ) Unfortunately, it is late and I need to think clearly. But for now, changing the core you and your beliefs in my opinion, may not be the answer. Jo __________________ You know that place between sleep and awake, the place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I'll always love you. ~Tinkerbell~

08-20-2012, 04:05 AM	#2928
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Morning loft dwellers and peekers another day at the office headng 2 ..... Toledo.... Catch yal on the flip side ... __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-20-2012, 06:47 AM	#2929
Glenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Ol butch bones. Preferred Pronoun?: Old thing Relationship Status: Too old to play. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: :rolleyes: Posts: 1,547 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,602 Thanked 3,729 Times in 1,095 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	Good Mornin Folks and All; Been a peepin for years, but then again, I'm a psychological antiqueIt's always nice to see the ladies up and at em in here. School started in town today. Seems a bit early. It's the coolest August I've ever seen here. Makes me wonder what winter will be like. Well, that's all for now. Take care of yourselves Folks.

08-20-2012, 01:23 PM	#2930
fever Member How Do You Identify?: stonefemme Relationship Status: single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: near Vancouver, B.C. Canada Posts: 592 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,649 Thanked 1,279 Times in 357 Posts Rep Power: 17783436	School already? It sure starts early in the US of A. My little grandson is all excited about grade 3. It has been frightfully hot here in B.C., Glenn, so a little cooler weather would be very nice. The blackberries are now ripe, so that is on my list of todos. I need to get picking and freezing. I sure don't like that little "Canadian" emicon thing. We don't talk like that. lol Have a super week everyone. Candice

08-20-2012, 04:07 PM	#2931
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Howdy Glenn nd fever... I have landed in ah .. Byrcus,ohiya..... and pkng up a load here in the morning and headng down to Princeton,Ind..... __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-21-2012, 08:16 PM	#2932
ruthie14 Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 844 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,904 Thanked 1,245 Times in 461 Posts Rep Power: 5946335	A friend of mine had to put her 17 year old pit mix down today. I am so sad.... her dog Kelsey and I spent a LOT of time together over the last couple years. Her mommy had to go away for work a lot so she would often spend 3 to 4 days a week at my house. Sometimes a couple of weeks. It breaks my heart. Run swiftly over the rainbow bridge my friend!

08-22-2012, 04:53 AM	#2934
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Morning loft dwellers and peekers am hanging near Electrocell territory..... yeha. dont hav a. Load yet which is fine i need 2 get sm paintings done. Ruth sorry 4 the loss __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-22-2012, 04:53 PM	#2936
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Need voters 4 my .... cocoa chips please https://www.dousaflavor.com/canvas/i...urce=tdimeline __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-24-2012, 02:47 PM	#2937
DMW Member How Do You Identify?: FTM/Male (Will 14) Relationship Status: Caught An Angel and she doesn't lie! Join Date: May 2012 Location: @ Posts: 784 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,256 Thanked 1,857 Times in 614 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	[nomedia="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P6IIkpmw8Ow&feature=related"]We Got Tonight - Dolly Parton & Kenny Rogers live 1985 - YouTube[/nomedia]

08-25-2012, 07:22 AM	#2939
morningstar55 Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme,she Preferred Pronoun?: she,her, Relationship Status: very single Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: western NY Posts: 3,809 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,280 Thanked 4,240 Times in 1,845 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Morning..loft dwellers nd peekers . late last nite had a visit from a sort of sparkly Mr Leonard... lol ... Also had a dream I wad at a hospital.. and a doc was telling me minister was doing better and i could hear her talking..but they had to do some test... everyone I was walking towards hr room , had to go around things that got only way and thru another room , I could hear her, then there was someone sleeping on the couch, thn my brother was sitting there and we had to go to my mom,s ... I wanted to call my mom , and tell Kath was ok and coming home soon .. but never could get hold of My mom....thn woke up.. sigh. I miss my sister... Anyways. Have a great day ... everyone __________________ -------------------------------------------- life is to short to wake up in the morning with regrets so love the people who treat you right, forget about the ones who dont, and believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance take it... if it changes your life let it.

08-25-2012, 08:19 AM	#2940
DMW Member How Do You Identify?: FTM/Male (Will 14) Relationship Status: Caught An Angel and she doesn't lie! Join Date: May 2012 Location: @ Posts: 784 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,256 Thanked 1,857 Times in 614 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Mornin. The we've got tonight song is just pipe dreams...in reference to some of the earlier posts. Sometimes it is easier said than done. Morningstar, I am sorry that you are missing your sister. That is what i would call a nightmare...not a dream. I find when i miss someone...nothing and nobody else can really make it better or take that entities place in my heart.(that is good because each person is their own entity. People and pets can't really be replaced. I think it has to do with acceptance and respect.) So, i go into that...gratitude mode and tell myself that i was lucky to have them in my life at all. And then, i think of the good things about them and how they would want my reflection on them to be good and happy because they want me happy. I don't know where your sister is but, i am sure she is giving you some spirit hugs. I am sorry you are hurting.