PTSD and Trauma recovery

Apocalipstic · 03-12-2010, 09:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Princess4u

I am sorry to hear about your mom...my mother died too...and we werent very close at all..as a matter of fact she is part of my PTSD...both of us girls...were far from her faviourite and she let us know on a daily basis...!!!! I hope you didnt have the same issues w your mom!!!

She died when I was 13. I still miss her and in therapy we are working on trauma around her death right now. Yesterday I was so nauseated and heachy, we had to stop therapy. She was my angel, though If she would have left my father she would likely still be here now at 83.

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Originally Posted by Andrew, Jr.

I adore and love my mother dearly. However, I am 46 yo and lost a lot of respect for her because she refused to stand up to my father, and protect her children. I believe a mother - no matter what the situation is - should always be there for their kids. That is the one thing I can't say for my mother. She chose her husband over her kids. All the time. Each and every time.

Life is not easy. It is a challenge. It is not for extra credit. Extending a hand is not something that a mother should have to be taught.

I wonder about that too. So sorry this happened to you Andrew.

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Originally Posted by Ol' Jet

When my trauma occurred, my mother flew in from California to take care of me. She took care of my apartment, car, bills and sat in the hospital with me until my release. There was no one like her as being a terrific mother and friend to me. As I relive and reprocess my trauma, after 17 years, thinking of her being there helps with this purging and reliving process today. These days, I think of her often as I remember what happened. It helps to sooth the pain.

My father and stepmother were also there and so were my friends.

I am so glad you had them all to support you and help you.

Apocalipstic · 03-12-2010, 09:09 AM

I am just so glad we have all made it this far. It is a miracle really.

Andrew, Jr. · 03-12-2010, 11:15 AM

It is a miracle. By the grace of God I know I made it thru. I was homeless. I know what it was like to be hungry, cold, fithly dirty, and needing love. I know rejection and abandonment. In fact, that is why I am so sensitive today. So those who want to belittle me, online or in real time, I say go right ahead. I have my faith. You may tire me out, but the next life will be much better than this one.

Leigh · 03-12-2010, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by apocalipstic

I am just so glad we have all made it this far. It is a miracle really.

I absolutely agree, and this makes Me think of a saying in My cross-stitch book that I think applies to all of us in the support and love and encouragement that we get from one another ......... it goes like this:

"That you and I could live our lives at the same time on earth, how incredible God's plan"

Apocalipstic · 03-12-2010, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Braedon

I absolutely agree, and this makes Me think of a saying in My cross-stitch book that I think applies to all of us in the support and love and encouragement that we get from one another ......... it goes like this:

"That you and I could live our lives at the same time on earth, how incredible God's plan"

I think that is perfect!

I know this song is about loss in a romantic relationship, and that is not where my PTSD comes from at all....but this song has been on my mind all week.

Elton John
I'm Still Standing

You could never know what it's like
Your blood like winter freezes just like ice
And there's a cold lonely light that shines from you
You'll wind up like the wreck you hide behind that mask you use

And did you think this fool could never win
Well look at me, I'm coming back again
I got a taste of love in a simple way
And if you need to know while I'm still standing you just fade away

Don't you know I'm still standing better than I ever did
Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid

I'm still standing after all this time
Picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind
I'm still standing yeah yeah yeah
I'm still standing yeah yeah yeah

Once I never could hope to win
You starting down the road leaving me again
The threats you made were meant to cut me down
And if our love was just a circus you'd be a clown by now

Leigh · 03-12-2010, 05:06 PM

I love that song, and I'll include another one that seems fitting too:

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBR2G-iI3-I"]YouTube- I Will Survive[/ame]

Princess4u · 03-12-2010, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Braedon

I love that song, and I'll include another one that seems fitting too:

YouTube- I Will Survive

I find that I sing this song for many reasons throughout my life...it has kept me going at times...and has given me the courage to keep going when i just wanted to end it all....

Apocalipstic · 03-12-2010, 05:17 PM

That is a great one Braedon!

For those of you who listen to music to calm down, what do you like?

For me, it depends on mood, but for deep relaxation I like Kitaro best.

When I am depressed, Elton always helps.

Duke Ellington, Count Basie always put a smile on my face.

I will find myself at my desk, listening to music from the Great Depression...or Requiems and I know its time to put on Big Band.

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Apocalipstic Pink Confection How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am Relationship Status: Dating Myself Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Nashville Posts: 4,266 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 17,195 Thanked 11,362 Times in 2,838 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	That is a great one Braedon! For those of you who listen to music to calm down, what do you like? For me, it depends on mood, but for deep relaxation I like Kitaro best. When I am depressed, Elton always helps. Duke Ellington, Count Basie always put a smile on my face. I will find myself at my desk, listening to music from the Great Depression...or Requiems and I know its time to put on Big Band. __________________

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