Are you a donor???????????

girl_dee · 10-08-2012, 05:17 PM

Sometimes there isn't a cord to pull. Most of the head injury people i worked with were on feeding tubes, not life machines. Their brains and bodies were functioning but they were physically unable to swallow or feed themselves.

The feeding tube has to be pulled out, or someone has to stop feeding you so you can starve to death.

That's where it gets tricky.

DamonK · 10-08-2012, 05:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Cajun_dee

Sometimes there isn't a cord. Most of the head injury people i worked with were on feeding tubes, not life machines. Their brains and bodies were functioning but they were physically unable to swallow or feed themselves.

The feeding tube has to be pulled out, or someone has to stop feeding you so you can starve to death.

That's where it gets tricky.

Yes. It does. I've had to watch those decisions be made as well.

The cord I mean is anything that connects me to life if I have no quality of life left.

LaneyDoll · 10-08-2012, 05:29 PM

Donor here. Take what can be used and cremate the rest. I do not want to be buried-for a variety of reasons.

DMW · 10-08-2012, 05:33 PM

Affirmative...for years...and then... i actually am a recipient...who knew.
Thank you donor

Bit · 10-08-2012, 05:37 PM

Yes, here. My family has known for a long time, but people do forget so this is a timely reminder to have that talk with them again. Thanks!

aishah · 10-08-2012, 05:43 PM

by the way - most states now i think allow advanced medical directives so you can make legally binding decisions about end-of-life (as well as psychiatric crises) instead of having to depend on others to make those decisions when the time comes. not that you can't trust people, but...in situations like that, i've seen people do complete 180s. so it's something i'd recommend looking into.

princessbelle · 10-08-2012, 06:15 PM

Good points. Get your wishes in paper out there. Copies to your doc, family etc.

Here's the thing to remember...

Say you are in a car wreck and it is decided that you are legally dead, breathing or not. In the hospital, it is Law in the state of Tennessee and i'm assuming it is close to the same all over the country, for the RN or Doc to notify the Donor Registry and tell them of the death or impending death. It is then by phone that the Donor Registry will contact the family and ask over the phone what they want to do. They don't know histories or who is suppose to be the one making the decision. All of that should be done way ahead of the need so everyone knows who to go to for the answer. Again, this is initiated over the phone. Make sure EVERYONE knows your wishes that may even be somewhat involved.

So, unless it is a long drawn out death, so to speak, where there is plenty of time to contact this one and that one and fight who has the legal rights, get all the paper work in order, etc, all of the decision comes down to who is next of kin to make the sometimes very fast decision.

Make sure everyone will know who is in charge in that situation because it is rare there is time to get through the legal mumbo jumbo.

Ginger · 10-08-2012, 06:17 PM

Yep, my NY driver's license identifies me as an organ donor.

Great thread, Belle! Something that's easy not to think about, till someone brings it to our attention.

skeeter_01 · 10-08-2012, 06:19 PM

organ donor and bone marrow donor here!!

skeet

DapperButch · 10-08-2012, 06:21 PM

Yes, but until I am 5 years cancer free they can only use my corneas!

Luv · 10-09-2012, 06:55 PM

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Originally Posted by LaneyDoll

Donor here. Take what can be used and cremate the rest. I do not want to be buried-for a variety of reasons.

Ditto.......

girl_dee · 10-08-2012, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by DamonK

Yes. It does. I've had to watch those decisions be made as well.

The cord I mean is anything that connects me to life if I have no quality of life left.

Exactly so be very specific in your wishes (to all) because pulling a feeding tube and pulling a plug are two totally different things in the eyes of the law.

Pulling the plug- the person usually drifts off like in the movies

pulling the feeding tube - the person starves to death after a week or so which is murder in the eyes of some law makers and not allowed.

So be very specific in your wishes because the pull the plug DNR wishes do not apply when someone is on a a feeding tube.

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