Carried over the threshold

[Ginger]

Originally Posted by stepfordfemme

I am a large and fabulous woman. I embrace many things that are considered "old fashioned" and out of date. I sometimes feel like I was born in the wrong era. I have no problems with butch/guy led relationships or demonstrations of courtship/chivalry. That being said I would never feel comfortable with this tradition. A) I would worry that my partner would injure themselves. B) I would not feel comfortable with it.

It reminds me of the quote - do not walk in front of me, I may not follow. Do not follow me, I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend. I feel that marriage is a start of a partnership and I want my partner to be my equal. This tradition just waxes a little passé and heteronormative to me personally.

This thread doesn't offend me or make me feel inadequate or fat. Traditions aren't for everyone. Some people will admire and adhere to tradition and some will trailblaze new ones.

I wish you both happiness in your marriage & that all your threshold moments are memorable.

Hi, I liked your post, which referenced mine. Just for clarification, in case the last line was directed at me, I'm not married. I think you were addressing the (now revealed as a troll) "Steph" person who started the thread? Anyway, nice to meet you, and BTW, Happy Halloween! Scout