Dykes And Lesbians To Watch Out For

[Parker]

Originally Posted by *Anya*

Thanks OS,

I remember how many publications there were when I first came out that are now defunct. Lesbian Tide, Lesbian News, On Our Backs (one of my personal favorites, ahem...)

I made a contribution to the Connection.

Thanks for the reminder.

On Our Backs was one of my faves as well - was so sorry to see that one go!

I remember being a baby dyke in the US Navy, living & stationed in San Diego, sitting in Club Bombay (which is gone now too, sadly), the local lesbian bar and reading the latest issue of that mag .... Sigh.

[OS Butch]

Originally Posted by Parker

On Our Backs was one of my faves as well - was so sorry to see that one go!

I remember being a baby dyke in the US Navy, living & stationed in San Diego, sitting in Club Bombay (which is gone now too, sadly), the local lesbian bar and reading the latest issue of that mag .... Sigh.

Yep, same here....though not in the military. I would head to the Phase on Friday night, the nation's oldest continuous lesbian bar, to pick up the Washington Blade....and play some pool

[Parker]

Man, the memories that just produced ..... the DJ knew me and whenever I went to the bar, as soon as I walked in, she would play Melissa Etheridge's Like The Way I Do because it was my favorite; and my friends and I would sing that song at the top of our baby dyke lungs while the older dykes watched us with those knowing smiles on their faces ...

Now I *am* one of those older dykes who smiles at the younger generation when I see them out and about .... lol, a complete circle.

[macele]

parker mentions melissa etheridge. what a trail she has left, and still kickin' it. we are fortunate to have her.

i don't know what it is with me, but so many times i've not liked people in my life when first meeting or seeing. and wouldn't like them for a long time after lol. but then somewhere down the line i fall for them. they become a major influence. i've done this with quite a few folks, ... etheridge is one. a butch friend had a huge admiration for her and i followed.

i remember as a teenager searching for songs with she and her, pronouns. or no pronouns. etheridge gave that to me. the lesbian community owes a lot to her. she will influence for years to come. think of all those that will search for someone like me and find etheridge.

[*Anya*]

Originally Posted by Parker

Man, the memories that just produced ..... the DJ knew me and whenever I went to the bar, as soon as I walked in, she would play Melissa Etheridge's Like The Way I Do because it was my favorite; and my friends and I would sing that song at the top of our baby dyke lungs while the older dykes watched us with those knowing smiles on their faces ...

Now I *am* one of those older dykes who smiles at the younger generation when I see them out and about .... lol, a complete circle.

This post made me teary!

I too, remember those days- not the baby dyke days, well, other than making my heart beat faster, looking at the baby and older dykes; but the days when it was all so new and exciting.

Those were really the best days of first coming out. Finding that missing piece of me, that I could finally feel like there was a place for me and that I was not strange or weird.

Being held in another woman's arms and feeling not only the heat that I had never felt with bio men but the true joy that bubbled up inside myself.

The clubs were where I really felt, for the first time, that I was home.

My people. My tribe. My women.

[lusciouskiwi]

Reminds me of when I first started going to the monthly dances in Wellington - DOODs dykes out of debt. There was a committee and they would decide who to allocate funds to. I don't think it's going anymore

I remember, maybe the first one I attended, standing there looking around me and thinking, "wow, this is like being in a lolly shop, only it's lesbians, not lollies".

[Martina]

This is part of my lesbian history. Mostly guys, but we went there too.

[dykeumentary]

I am glad I was a baby dyke long before the internet.
It felt like I'd joined a secret adventure club! Decoding the bar names, learning which softball leagues to play in, rugby tournaments, the earring placement and language games and nicknames....It seemed more exciting than "googling in isolation" will ever be. I'm glad it's less difficult now.

Odd how being an "out" lesbian-identified-lesbian has become subversive again. I loved Off (and On) Our Backs.

[Martina]

Yeah, and Sinister Wisdom. Remember that? Taught me a lot.

[Parker]

Originally Posted by dykeumentary

It felt like I'd joined a secret adventure club! Decoding the bar names, learning which softball leagues to play in, rugby tournaments, the earring placement and language games and nicknames....It seemed more exciting than "googling in isolation" will ever be. I'm glad it's less difficult now.

Yeah - having those conversations when you thought you just might be talking to family but you werent sure so you would say things that only family would understand or catch and then watch their reactions .... lol, good times.

I remember my first gf was in the Navy too and we met while a bunch of us were washing a helicopter - we were both trying to be all nonchalant by saying certain things, mentioning certain bars, etc, both trying to figure out if we were right and the other one was gay while also trying not to tip off anyone who might be listening.

lol, I forgot all about that.