Dykes And Lesbians To Watch Out For

Parker · 11-02-2012, 09:14 AM

Man, the memories that just produced ..... the DJ knew me and whenever I went to the bar, as soon as I walked in, she would play Melissa Etheridge's Like The Way I Do because it was my favorite; and my friends and I would sing that song at the top of our baby dyke lungs while the older dykes watched us with those knowing smiles on their faces ...

Now I *am* one of those older dykes who smiles at the younger generation when I see them out and about .... lol, a complete circle.

macele · 11-02-2012, 09:43 AM

parker mentions melissa etheridge. what a trail she has left, and still kickin' it. we are fortunate to have her.

i don't know what it is with me, but so many times i've not liked people in my life when first meeting or seeing. and wouldn't like them for a long time after lol. but then somewhere down the line i fall for them. they become a major influence. i've done this with quite a few folks, ... etheridge is one. a butch friend had a huge admiration for her and i followed.

i remember as a teenager searching for songs with she and her, pronouns. or no pronouns. etheridge gave that to me. the lesbian community owes a lot to her. she will influence for years to come. think of all those that will search for someone like me and find etheridge.

*Anya* · 11-02-2012, 09:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Parker

Man, the memories that just produced ..... the DJ knew me and whenever I went to the bar, as soon as I walked in, she would play Melissa Etheridge's Like The Way I Do because it was my favorite; and my friends and I would sing that song at the top of our baby dyke lungs while the older dykes watched us with those knowing smiles on their faces ...

Now I *am* one of those older dykes who smiles at the younger generation when I see them out and about .... lol, a complete circle.

This post made me teary!

I too, remember those days- not the baby dyke days, well, other than making my heart beat faster, looking at the baby and older dykes; but the days when it was all so new and exciting.

Those were really the best days of first coming out. Finding that missing piece of me, that I could finally feel like there was a place for me and that I was not strange or weird.

Being held in another woman's arms and feeling not only the heat that I had never felt with bio men but the true joy that bubbled up inside myself.

The clubs were where I really felt, for the first time, that I was home.

My people. My tribe. My women.

lusciouskiwi · 11-02-2012, 10:12 AM

Reminds me of when I first started going to the monthly dances in Wellington - DOODs dykes out of debt. There was a committee and they would decide who to allocate funds to. I don't think it's going anymore

I remember, maybe the first one I attended, standing there looking around me and thinking, "wow, this is like being in a lolly shop, only it's lesbians, not lollies".

Martina · 11-02-2012, 10:38 AM

This is part of my lesbian history. Mostly guys, but we went there too.

dykeumentary · 11-02-2012, 10:43 AM

I am glad I was a baby dyke long before the internet.
It felt like I'd joined a secret adventure club! Decoding the bar names, learning which softball leagues to play in, rugby tournaments, the earring placement and language games and nicknames....It seemed more exciting than "googling in isolation" will ever be. I'm glad it's less difficult now.

Odd how being an "out" lesbian-identified-lesbian has become subversive again. I loved Off (and On) Our Backs.

Martina · 11-02-2012, 10:52 AM

Yeah, and Sinister Wisdom. Remember that? Taught me a lot.

Parker · 11-02-2012, 10:58 AM

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Originally Posted by dykeumentary

It felt like I'd joined a secret adventure club! Decoding the bar names, learning which softball leagues to play in, rugby tournaments, the earring placement and language games and nicknames....It seemed more exciting than "googling in isolation" will ever be. I'm glad it's less difficult now.

Yeah - having those conversations when you thought you just might be talking to family but you werent sure so you would say things that only family would understand or catch and then watch their reactions .... lol, good times.

I remember my first gf was in the Navy too and we met while a bunch of us were washing a helicopter - we were both trying to be all nonchalant by saying certain things, mentioning certain bars, etc, both trying to figure out if we were right and the other one was gay while also trying not to tip off anyone who might be listening.

lol, I forgot all about that.

starryeyes · 11-02-2012, 02:46 PM

<----- Dyke and proud. Yeah, I am not the typical "Dyke" in the mainstream perspective, but it makes it that much more empowering. I am dyke, hear me roar! :-D

Martina · 11-02-2012, 03:34 PM

I loved those conversations.

I had one with a trans guy not too long ago. A gay male trans guy, even. lol. He had had a long history as a lesbian, and we talked about the awful women's music we had been subjected to over the years. It was fun.

I miss lesbian culture, but I sure don't miss the music.

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11-02-2012, 09:14 AM	#1
Parker Timed Out - Permanent How Do You Identify?: Butch. Lesbian. Dyke. Woman. Female. Preferred Pronoun?: She, of course! Relationship Status: Content Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Small Town Life Posts: 2,880 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 7,858 Thanked 11,727 Times in 2,429 Posts Rep Power: 0	Man, the memories that just produced ..... the DJ knew me and whenever I went to the bar, as soon as I walked in, she would play Melissa Etheridge's Like The Way I Do because it was my favorite; and my friends and I would sing that song at the top of our baby dyke lungs while the older dykes watched us with those knowing smiles on their faces ... Now I am one of those older dykes who smiles at the younger generation when I see them out and about .... lol, a complete circle.

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macele Member How Do You Identify?: a bold-assed maximus Preferred Pronoun?: she Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: mississippi Posts: 1,066 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3,178 Thanked 3,231 Times in 847 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	parker mentions melissa etheridge. what a trail she has left, and still kickin' it. we are fortunate to have her. i don't know what it is with me, but so many times i've not liked people in my life when first meeting or seeing. and wouldn't like them for a long time after lol. but then somewhere down the line i fall for them. they become a major influence. i've done this with quite a few folks, ... etheridge is one. a butch friend had a huge admiration for her and i followed. i remember as a teenager searching for songs with she and her, pronouns. or no pronouns. etheridge gave that to me. the lesbian community owes a lot to her. she will influence for years to come. think of all those that will search for someone like me and find etheridge.

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Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,286 Times in 4,167 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	I loved those conversations. I had one with a trans guy not too long ago. A gay male trans guy, even. lol. He had had a long history as a lesbian, and we talked about the awful women's music we had been subjected to over the years. It was fun. I miss lesbian culture, but I sure don't miss the music.