"Stud" versus "Butch"

Martina · 11-04-2012, 03:24 PM

God, we sound white. I guess because, for the most part, we are. I guess my white privilege allows me to forget that sometimes.

Daywalker · 11-04-2012, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Martina

God, we sound white. I guess because, for the most part, we are. I guess my white privilege allows me to forget that sometimes.

I thought the same thing, but wasn't sure if it was just
my own perspective reading it that way, so thanks for out-louding it.

Folks who feel the need to buck any Identity due to their perspective
having already ruled it a minority term...should take a moment to marinate on why.

txdoc · 11-09-2012, 06:17 PM

Another Perspective...

The_Lady_Snow · 11-09-2012, 06:23 PM

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Originally Posted by txdoc

Another Perspective...

You're kidding me right?

What perspective is this?

Chancie · 11-09-2012, 06:42 PM

Because the narrator is so young,

I'm thinking about how I'd respond to one of my students.

With that lens, I want to have patience for her ignorance, but

Her 'Shut the fuck up' stance really bothers me.

It makes it impossible for me to try to disentangle her misconceptions.

txdoc · 11-09-2012, 09:39 PM

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

You're kidding me right?

What perspective is this?

Inanity my dear...

The_Lady_Snow · 11-09-2012, 09:45 PM

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Originally Posted by txdoc

Inanity my dear...

So what was the point in posting a you tube that had zero to do with the convo?

please don't call me "dear" we're not homies

thank you

txdoc · 11-09-2012, 10:08 PM

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Originally Posted by The_Lady_Snow

So what was the point in posting a you tube that had zero to do with the convo?

please don't call me "dear" we're not homies

thank you

First of all, I did not mean to be disrespectful. That is not who I am. Secondly, your response felt like a slap. Just saying that it felt like being bullied. My perspective. And if that is what this site is about, then I would prefer to step away. There is enough of my life where I'm the one standing alone to protect others when they don't have a voice. Let's say that her opinion had been my opinion or understanding. Isn't there a better way to address it? Sometimes things are interjected into a conversation to begin a dialogue. I do not know you, but neither do you know me.

txdoc · 11-09-2012, 09:54 PM

By the by...for those of you who thought I was intersecting an opinion, I was not. Perhaps my tag should have included a disclaimer. But I thought the speaker so inane that her self-important soliloquy would need no further disaffirmation.

MissItalianDiva · 11-09-2012, 06:44 PM

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Originally Posted by txdoc

Another Perspective...

I realize everyone has different perspectives but this whole video bothers me on so many different levels. I don't even know where to start so I think I will just end with WTF

Dude · 11-09-2012, 07:19 PM

but she's like totally been a lesbian for a year now

futch and stem<== strike them

from the record
thank you

girl_dee · 11-09-2012, 07:25 PM

she did manage to get ONE thing right, that femme does not = bottom, butch does not = top.

The rest is just sad. i hope her mom sees it.

*Anya* · 11-09-2012, 07:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Dude

but she's like totally been a lesbian for a year now

Young, young and more young, with white privilege "perspective" thrown in for good measure.

I feel for young, searching and questioning kids looking for answers

on YouTube.

julieisafemme · 11-09-2012, 08:44 PM

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Originally Posted by *Anya*

Young, young and more young, with white privilege "perspective" thrown in for good measure.

I feel for young, searching and questioning kids looking for answers

on YouTube.

It scares me to death. One day my daughter was watching some You Tube that her friend who was over said was hilarious. Our computer is "public" space so I was right there with them. It was a ninja video with these two boys, late teens, doing ninja style tree and then ninja style lion and then...ninja style faggot (!) with the word floating on the screen! I was appalled and immediately told them that was NOT acceptable and not funny and not to be shared or watched. I could not believe it!

Sorry for the derail. You Tube is scary.

11-04-2012, 03:24 PM	#1
Martina Senior Member How Do You Identify?: * Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: * Posts: 4,999 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,409 Thanked 18,280 Times in 4,165 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	God, we sound white. I guess because, for the most part, we are. I guess my white privilege allows me to forget that sometimes.

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txdoc Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her Relationship Status: Wrangled Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: TX Posts: 333 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 703 Thanked 684 Times in 189 Posts Rep Power: 0	Another Perspective...

11-09-2012, 06:42 PM	#5
Chancie Senior Member How Do You Identify?: queer femme-inist Relationship Status: I'm lucky. Join Date: May 2010 Location: Western Mass Posts: 3,774 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 9,518 Thanked 14,540 Times in 2,744 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	Because the narrator is so young, I'm thinking about how I'd respond to one of my students. With that lens, I want to have patience for her ignorance, but Her 'Shut the fuck up' stance really bothers me. It makes it impossible for me to try to disentangle her misconceptions.

11-09-2012, 09:54 PM	#9
txdoc Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her Relationship Status: Wrangled Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: TX Posts: 333 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 703 Thanked 684 Times in 189 Posts Rep Power: 0	By the by...for those of you who thought I was intersecting an opinion, I was not. Perhaps my tag should have included a disclaimer. But I thought the speaker so inane that her self-important soliloquy would need no further disaffirmation.

11-09-2012, 07:19 PM	#11
Dude Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Perusing Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: exit 5 with an exit 21 goal Posts: 1,725 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 15,351 Thanked 10,605 Times in 1,477 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	but she's like totally been a lesbian for a year now futch and stem<== strike them from the record thank you

11-09-2012, 07:25 PM	#12
girl_dee Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: dee Relationship Status: Hitched up Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Livin’ the Dream Posts: 24,079 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 30,560 Thanked 54,828 Times in 13,908 Posts Rep Power: 21474874	she did manage to get ONE thing right, that femme does not = bottom, butch does not = top. The rest is just sad. i hope her mom sees it.