SMOKERS... LETS KICK the HABIT!!

Ms. Meander · 12-18-2012, 05:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lady Pamela

I guess I tried probably 50 times before I found what worked for me..you will do this.

Cut down before you go cold turkey..re read idea through this thread.
I know you can and will do this.

This is my 50th time! I was quit for a the year 2009, and for 6 weeks last winter (taught myself to crochet!), and numerous less successful times before, in between, and since. I've cut down from a pack a day, to half a pack, to 1/3. I've got so many tools and coping skills in my arsenal, it's ridiculous. And I'm a little embarrassed - but that's why I'm talking about it. Shame has no place here, and it will just make me want to smoke more. This is totally a psychological issue for me. I've done so much growth and healing, but cigarettes have been my only constant since I was a teenager. Even though I hate smoking, it's like the death of a beloved friend. There. I said it. It's really feels that dramatic. Maybe I need to allow myself to grieve the loss of this companion that saw me through so much, while recognizing I don't need it anymore, and letting go...

DapperButch · 12-18-2012, 06:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Ms. Meander

This is totally a psychological issue for me. I've done so much growth and healing, but cigarettes have been my only constant since I was a teenager. Even though I hate smoking, it's like the death of a beloved friend. There. I said it. It's really feels that dramatic. Maybe I need to allow myself to grieve the loss of this companion that saw me through so much, while recognizing I don't need it anymore, and letting go...

Absolutely. There is a huge and real loss of a companion when you quit smoking. Smoking is your buddy, he is with you all the time.

I know for me there was a loss of identity too. Part of my identity was being a smoker. This was not somthing I was ashamed of, either.

It has been a bit over 3 years since I have quit. I still miss it. I LOVE the smell of smoke (in the air, not on people). A friend of mine was helping me change my brakes this past weekend and he had a cig. in his mouth when he reached over to help me with something on the rotor. The smell was delightful!

Hell yeah, I miss it!

Lady Pamela · 12-19-2012, 10:02 AM

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Originally Posted by Ms. Meander

This is my 50th time! I was quit for a the year 2009, and for 6 weeks last winter (taught myself to crochet!), and numerous less successful times before, in between, and since. I've cut down from a pack a day, to half a pack, to 1/3. I've got so many tools and coping skills in my arsenal, it's ridiculous. And I'm a little embarrassed - but that's why I'm talking about it. Shame has no place here, and it will just make me want to smoke more. This is totally a psychological issue for me. I've done so much growth and healing, but cigarettes have been my only constant since I was a teenager. Even though I hate smoking, it's like the death of a beloved friend. There. I said it. It's really feels that dramatic. Maybe I need to allow myself to grieve the loss of this companion that saw me through so much, while recognizing I don't need it anymore, and letting go...

My every move used to be centered around such companion...I would not go places or do things if that meant no smoking. Seriously.

Lady Pamela · 01-05-2013, 01:48 AM

Celebrated my 11th month smoke free today...smiles

I know to some it may be silly to do so but today I officially have not smoked aprox. 13,200 ciggarretts.

And have started to regenerate some damage I have done.

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Jesse · 01-05-2013, 11:02 AM

Today, January 5th I celebrate two full years of being a non-smoker!

I smoked for many years and thought that I would never be able to quit. I think what helped me the most was, before I tried to quit I thought a lot about when I started smoking and what the real reason(s) were that I began in the first place...trying to fit in with "the crowd", wanting to be grown, it was cool back then to smoke, feeling a lack of control in one's life, whatever. Everyone has different reasons. Once I realized what mine was, and told myself the truth, the actual quitting became much easier for me. I also had to get to the point where I truly wanted to stop smoking. Like I said, it's different for each of us. Sometimes I still can't believe I did it.

Congrats to everyone who is still working on, or even thinking about quitting! If this is something that you really want, then it will be yours.

Lady Pamela · 01-05-2013, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Jesse

Today, January 5th I celebrate two full years of being a non-smoker!

I smoked for many years and thought that I would never be able to quit. I think what helped me the most was, before I tried to quit I thought a lot about when I started smoking and what the real reason(s) were that I began in the first place...trying to fit in with "the crowd", wanting to be grown, it was cool back then to smoke, feeling a lack of control in one's life, whatever. Everyone has different reasons. Once I realized what mine was, and told myself the truth, the actual quitting became much easier for me. I also had to get to the point where I truly wanted to stop smoking. Like I said, it's different for each of us. Sometimes I still can't believe I did it.

Congrats to everyone who is still working on, or even thinking about quitting! If this is something that you really want, then it will be yours.

My hat..(If I had one..lol)..is off to you!..smiles
Keep it up and never pick up again.
Soooo happy for you .

Today is a grand marker for you.
You need to treat yourself with something in honor of your continued choice to say no.

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Tommi · 01-19-2013, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Lady Pamela

Celebrated my 11th month smoke free today...smiles

I know to some it may be silly to do so but today I officially have not smoked aprox. 13,200 ciggarretts.

And have started to regenerate some damage I have done.

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CONGRATULATIONS TO THOSE WHO HAVE QUIT, AND THOSE THAT ARE STRUGGLING TOO...cuz it is on your agenda.

Congrats, and on your anniversary, it is on my birthday...We should have celebrated. I still am, I have decided it needs to be a birthday month.

WOW, I can see that image , of all those cigarettes.
Way to go. I have much respect for those that can do this, as I have been told it is harder than drugs and alcohol. My Mom and my ex were heavy smokers, then one day, it was time to put them away. My Mom kept a pack in the freezer.? Peggie kept one in the medicine cabinet.

Lady Pamela · 01-20-2013, 06:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Tommi

CONGRATULATIONS TO THOSE WHO HAVE QUIT, AND THOSE THAT ARE STRUGGLING TOO...cuz it is on your agenda.

Congrats, and on your anniversary, it is on my birthday...We should have celebrated. I still am, I have decided it needs to be a birthday month.

WOW, I can see that image , of all those cigarettes.
Way to go. I have much respect for those that can do this, as I have been told it is harder than drugs and alcohol. My Mom and my ex were heavy smokers, then one day, it was time to put them away. My Mom kept a pack in the freezer.? Peggie kept one in the medicine cabinet.

Personally saying thank you for the kind words.
And yes celebrating with you would be an honor..smiles

I also kept some around as a crutch incase to show I had some to myself..I was recently able to dismiss those..ha

After recieving news of the emphysima/copd after I quit.
And enduring lack of air even when I did not smoke...I have deeper appreciation of living and air in my lungs.

Also an added true fear of the outcome...which I know from working in medical field for so long.

I am thankful for every second I am aware and breathe.

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dixie · 01-27-2013, 04:08 PM

594 hours: 04 minutes: 51 seconds
since my last cigarette

Still craving them pretty bad most of the time, but am determined not to smoke. I was on Chantix but I just could not handle the side effects, primarily the extreme nausea that would last about two hours after each pill. I decided to take myself off of it and just go it alone. (Am allergic to patches and not a fan of gum...had one of the e-cigs but it just makes me want a real one.) Now I carry around a lil box of tic tacs, and every time have a craving I pop one in my mouth. So far, so good!

Lady Pamela · 01-27-2013, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by dixie

594 hours: 04 minutes: 51 seconds
since my last cigarette

Still craving them pretty bad most of the time, but am determined not to smoke. I was on Chantix but I just could not handle the side effects, primarily the extreme nausea that would last about two hours after each pill. I decided to take myself off of it and just go it alone. (Am allergic to patches and not a fan of gum...had one of the e-cigs but it just makes me want a real one.) Now I carry around a lil box of tic tacs, and every time have a craving I pop one in my mouth. So far, so good!

Way to go..so happy for you!
Keep it up..step through the hard moments..each nicci last 5 minutes ..remember that..it makes it easier..and don't forget to breath and take your moments still to re group.

Smiles...Again..CONGRAT!

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GreeneyedMe · 01-05-2013, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Ms. Meander

This is my 50th time! I was quit for a the year 2009, and for 6 weeks last winter (taught myself to crochet!), and numerous less successful times before, in between, and since. I've cut down from a pack a day, to half a pack, to 1/3. I've got so many tools and coping skills in my arsenal, it's ridiculous. And I'm a little embarrassed - but that's why I'm talking about it. Shame has no place here, and it will just make me want to smoke more. This is totally a psychological issue for me. I've done so much growth and healing, but cigarettes have been my only constant since I was a teenager. Even though I hate smoking, it's like the death of a beloved friend. There. I said it. It's really feels that dramatic. Maybe I need to allow myself to grieve the loss of this companion that saw me through so much, while recognizing I don't need it anymore, and letting go...

Honey....you are not alone...I could write the same words as you have here....I fight with myself every time I light up....I want and need to do it...my longest time recently was 71 hours...I call them my evil deadly friends and argue why I keep allowing them to keep their grip on me....sigh....we will get there....we will get there...we will!!

Lady Pamela · 01-05-2013, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by GreeneyedMe

Honey....you are not alone...I could write the same words as you have here....I fight with myself every time I light up....I want and need to do it...my longest time recently was 71 hours...I call them my evil deadly friends and argue why I keep allowing them to keep their grip on me....sigh....we will get there....we will get there...we will!!

Of course you will. You both have what it takes. DESIRE to have somthing diffrent other than smoking .

Keep it up!

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Lofl · 01-05-2013, 10:01 PM

I had my last cigarette three months ago, then cut my chew down the beginning of December to 2 cans a week. After a few weeks I cut down to one can a week. Yesterday I finished my last can. Today to keep my mind off of not having what I want, I walked, I shoveled dirt, I cleaned the frig out (so unheard of..hehe) , and stacked enough fire wood for two winters. I so want to jump in the truck and fly down the dirt road to town. Yet here I set, just talking about it and not doing it. Maybe I have won half the battle. Tomorrow at this time I shall know if I won or not….here is to hope. 

Scuba · 01-05-2013, 11:26 PM

Popping in to lend my support!!! Two and a half years smoke free and counting

If I can do it so can you all!!

Keep at it even if today doesn't seem to be the day. Lady Pamela is right...desire counts for everything!!

Scoobs

Lucian · 01-05-2013, 11:47 PM

I've been trying to quit for years. I always fail at it. But i have really got to try and succeed. Because i notice the difference now days with physical activity. I don't want that to get even worse. I still have time to turn it around.

DapperButch · 01-06-2013, 09:20 AM

Good luck to those who are quit...keep it up...it CAN be done!

It was hellish hard for me to quit. I was a 2 pack smoker a day. Chantix was the answer. Yes, I had the shitty dreams and actually felt very nauseous for about 20 minutes every morning after taking the pill, but it was worth it.

The other key for me was using the Chatix for 6 months, rather than the recommended 3 months. I was glad my prescirber was willing to do this.

A bit over 3 years, here!

Keep it up, folks!

ahk · 01-06-2013, 12:21 PM

Today, marks my 5 years of smoke free. I would have to agree with Jesse on just knowing when its time to quit. I was just ready to quit, I was tired of the increase of prices, I was also tired of having to walk that extra mile to smoke at work, I was tired of smelling like smoke, and I was just tired of smoking.

Good luck to everyone who is trying to kick the habit-- you can do it!!

puddin' · 01-06-2013, 03:34 PM

i'd been quit about 15 years when mah daddy died. i started back. but have been quit again now fo' 2 years.

love bein' smoke free...

Lady Pamela · 01-14-2013, 07:04 PM

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Originally Posted by puddin'

i'd been quit about 15 years when mah daddy died. i started back. but have been quit again now fo' 2 years.

love bein' smoke free...

I quit for 2 years once also...but the fact that you quit again and have done that kick in the ass before..will save you from the next slide..atleast for me it has.

Way to go btw!

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funkyfemme · 01-15-2013, 12:48 PM

Today makes 155 days without a smoke!!!!! Goooooooooo ME!!

Since August I've had a few rough patches but they seem to pass as quickly as they come. I feel pretty lucky that it's been this easy. Still not gonna get too cocky as I have a great failure rate lol!

Anyhoo, just wanted to say congrats to all the new quitters and to those with a few years under their belts, way to go!!!!!!!!!!

01-05-2013, 01:48 AM	#4
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Jesse Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: Transguy Preferred Pronoun?: He Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Central West Coast of Florida Posts: 5,204 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 34,866 Thanked 17,780 Times in 3,940 Posts Rep Power: 21474857	Today, January 5th I celebrate two full years of being a non-smoker! I smoked for many years and thought that I would never be able to quit. I think what helped me the most was, before I tried to quit I thought a lot about when I started smoking and what the real reason(s) were that I began in the first place...trying to fit in with "the crowd", wanting to be grown, it was cool back then to smoke, feeling a lack of control in one's life, whatever. Everyone has different reasons. Once I realized what mine was, and told myself the truth, the actual quitting became much easier for me. I also had to get to the point where I truly wanted to stop smoking. Like I said, it's different for each of us. Sometimes I still can't believe I did it. Congrats to everyone who is still working on, or even thinking about quitting! If this is something that you really want, then it will be yours. __________________ “You’re so hard on yourself. Take a moment. Sit back. Marvel at your life: at the grief that softened you, at the heartache that widened you, at the suffering that strengthened you. Despite everything, you still grow. Be proud of this.”

01-05-2013, 11:26 PM	#14
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DapperButch Roadster Guy How Do You Identify?: FTM, Stone Butch Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Northeast Posts: 7,745 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 26,545 Thanked 26,808 Times in 5,771 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	Good luck to those who are quit...keep it up...it CAN be done! It was hellish hard for me to quit. I was a 2 pack smoker a day. Chantix was the answer. Yes, I had the shitty dreams and actually felt very nauseous for about 20 minutes every morning after taking the pill, but it was worth it. The other key for me was using the Chatix for 6 months, rather than the recommended 3 months. I was glad my prescirber was willing to do this. A bit over 3 years, here! Keep it up, folks! __________________ -Dapper Are you educated or indoctrinated?

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01-27-2013, 04:08 PM	#9
dixie Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: I usually just poke it with a stick. Preferred Pronoun?: Bitch Relationship Status: Intertwined deeply Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: We're all a little mad here. Posts: 6,627 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 10,972 Thanked 21,383 Times in 4,808 Posts Rep Power: 21474859	594 hours: 04 minutes: 51 seconds since my last cigarette Still craving them pretty bad most of the time, but am determined not to smoke. I was on Chantix but I just could not handle the side effects, primarily the extreme nausea that would last about two hours after each pill. I decided to take myself off of it and just go it alone. (Am allergic to patches and not a fan of gum...had one of the e-cigs but it just makes me want a real one.) Now I carry around a lil box of tic tacs, and every time have a craving I pop one in my mouth. So far, so good!

01-05-2013, 10:01 PM	#13
Lofl Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: single Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: N. Calif. Posts: 7 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 4 Thanked 38 Times in 6 Posts Rep Power: 0	I had my last cigarette three months ago, then cut my chew down the beginning of December to 2 cans a week. After a few weeks I cut down to one can a week. Yesterday I finished my last can. Today to keep my mind off of not having what I want, I walked, I shoveled dirt, I cleaned the frig out (so unheard of..hehe) , and stacked enough fire wood for two winters. I so want to jump in the truck and fly down the dirt road to town. Yet here I set, just talking about it and not doing it. Maybe I have won half the battle. Tomorrow at this time I shall know if I won or not….here is to hope. 

01-05-2013, 11:47 PM	#15
Lucian Junior Member How Do You Identify?: Butch/Trans mindset without body modification. Preferred Pronoun?: He/Him Relationship Status: Not looking Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: S.W. Pennsylvania Posts: 58 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 61 Thanked 132 Times in 34 Posts Rep Power: 1622874	I've been trying to quit for years. I always fail at it. But i have really got to try and succeed. Because i notice the difference now days with physical activity. I don't want that to get even worse. I still have time to turn it around.

01-06-2013, 12:21 PM	#17
ahk Infamous Member How Do You Identify?: . Preferred Pronoun?: Male Relationship Status: Married Join Date: Sep 2012 Location: NM Posts: 5,317 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,688 Thanked 8,538 Times in 2,630 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Today, marks my 5 years of smoke free. I would have to agree with Jesse on just knowing when its time to quit. I was just ready to quit, I was tired of the increase of prices, I was also tired of having to walk that extra mile to smoke at work, I was tired of smelling like smoke, and I was just tired of smoking. Good luck to everyone who is trying to kick the habit-- you can do it!!

01-15-2013, 12:48 PM	#20
funkyfemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Gamey as Fuck Relationship Status: I move from person to person real quick. Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: A sad little town Posts: 800 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 5,059 Thanked 2,824 Times in 662 Posts Rep Power: 0	Today makes 155 days without a smoke!!!!! Goooooooooo ME!! Since August I've had a few rough patches but they seem to pass as quickly as they come. I feel pretty lucky that it's been this easy. Still not gonna get too cocky as I have a great failure rate lol! Anyhoo, just wanted to say congrats to all the new quitters and to those with a few years under their belts, way to go!!!!!!!!!!