Neurodiversity

[Apocalipstic]

I find it worth noting how differently we all process things even though we are all on the spectrum.

Like for me, I process historical details like Buddha lived around 2600 years ago, was allegedly the son of royalty and left his family for monastic life after seeing how things were outside his sheltered existence. People back then knew nothing of germs, viruses (or virii...I ponder this too. lol) then I am on to DNA. From DNA I jump to how easy it is to make pronouncements like say the Dalai Llama does...about giving up all expectations to be happy, when you are hanging out at the Ritz Carlton with Richard Gere and all of your needs are taken care of...so you have no day to day stress other than wanting to get back to Tibet, where you have really never lived....and on and on I spin...

When really, all that is meant is do your best with what you have.

I am sooo too literal. with myself.

[violaine]

jen,

for me it's usually 'patterns and connections' processing. i can do what you are describing as well, and tend to learn [from previous experiences] by patterns and connections. maybe lots of people process like that- but it might not be as rigid as it could possibly be for some aspies?

i met with some friends last evening, and we were watching film. there was someone crying in a scene, and i asked why he [the character] was so upset? one of my friends said it was because the character had to do something very unpleasant, and he did not wish to carry out the act.

well, i watched and waited for a few moments for the 'unpleasant act' to appear, and when it did not happen, i really felt convinced that i'd missed something kind of big. my friend looked over and said to me, 'oh, it hasn't happened yet!

working for a tree committee years ago, i was driving the little truck and the founder was passenger. he said to me, 'you will need to turn ... ' and i guess he had a spot picked out in his line of sight [some sort of invisible unspoken indicator?] but i didn't know what he meant, so i turned the wheel immediately.

afterwards, he commented to me- 'i know now how this [aspergers] works.

ha.

i think for me sometimes, the time frame is different than NT's- i feel like i am in the moment right then of the crying scene or the turn, et c.

hope this is helpful and makes sense!

ox

[Apocalipstic]

Belle, that totally makes sense, I have almost driven into someones yard that way.

And yes, I base my behaviours on previous similar situations. Sometimes it works, sometimes it does not. Or, I wayyyyyy over think.

On another note, Saturday I met your 9 year old Aspie friend. GRIN. We talked about books and reading. What a beautiful girl. She reminded me of me at that age in thought.

[violaine]

well, then she is ever so lucky to have made your acquiantance, sweet jen

i adore her, and cannot wait to see her again [her mom too!]

what does your week look like? things are fairly quiet here with the animal control, humane society, and the committee work. sometimes, i check the phone to see if it's still working. other times, it rings like mad.

love to you!

liam, where are you? do you want to fly a kite later this afternoon? just come over!

belle
ox

[Liam]

Originally Posted by violaine

liam, where are you? do you want to fly a kite later this afternoon? just come over!

belle
ox

Hey Belle!

I'm in Park County! After spending two days kicking rocks, I'm taking it easy today. Kite flying would be better here, I think, come on over!!

[Apocalipstic]

Flying kites sounds wonderful, the sky is blue and there is a nice breeze.

No too busy of a week, work and stuff.

In 2 weeks I get to go see my sister and her 2 kids in LA. I am so excited!

I hope I will get to see our friend and her Mom again soon too.

[Spirit Dancer]

Originally Posted by violaine

well, then she is ever so lucky to have made your acquiantance, sweet jen

i adore her, and cannot wait to see her again [her mom too!]

what does your week look like? things are fairly quiet here with the animal control, humane society, and the committee work. sometimes, i check the phone to see if it's still working. other times, it rings like mad.

love to you!

liam, where are you? do you want to fly a kite later this afternoon? just come over!

belle
ox

[Andrew, Jr.]

Peace and all good, just for today.

[christie]

I hope you are all having a fabulous week. We will be hitting Nashville on Thursday afternoon.

My Aspie son is in what I am refer to as a meltdown. Its just not a good situation and I am finding that the older/more mature he becomes, the more rigid and resolute he is in his way of thinking/viewing a situation than ever before.

I don't know how much of this is just his growing up and how much of his inability to listen to other points of view is attributed to his wiring. (Or that it even matters which it is)

Please keep us in your thoughts as we try to navigate the situation and hope we make the best decision for him. Its already been a long week and its just Tuesday.

[Spirit Dancer]

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

Belle, that totally makes sense, I have almost driven into someones yard that way.

And yes, I base my behaviours on previous similar situations. Sometimes it works, sometimes it does not. Or, I wayyyyyy over think.

On another note, Saturday I met your 9 year old Aspie friend. GRIN. We talked about books and reading. What a beautiful girl. She reminded me of me at that age in thought.

she adored you too