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[Apocalipstic]

So sorry you are going through this! So sorry!

You are very brave for talking about it!

Does your family have to be a part of your therapy? It sounds like you could use some one on one time with the therapist till you get your head together.

I wish you all the best and know that we are thinking about you!

[Just_G]

Rb,
I totally know all about the trich! I also have it and have dealth with it since I was 12 and dealing with my parents divorce, adolescence, and starting a new school. For YEARS, my family would tell me just to "stop doing it". People that do not have it or do not know about it, do not get it. Several years ago, I went to a seminar here in KC, put on by the trich learning center. I took my dad, and to this day, he says that was the most educational thing he had ever attended. He had no idea how much people suffered because of this disorder.

About a year ago, I started cutting my own hair because I got tired of explaining why I had a patch of baldness on the back of my head. Now, I can cut my hair to disguise it, but it doesn't keep me from talking about it to people. A lot of my friends on this site know about it. I know that I consider myself very lucky in that I have a very mild case of the disorder. I keep my hands busy doing things around the house, and wear a LOT of hats. I recently started back to school after 20 years and I always sit in the back row so nobody will notice the back of my head.

Hairpulling messes with people's confidence and self respect. I found some great resources at www.trich.org. I have found that talking about it and educating people about it has really helped me deal with it.

You have a lot of things going on in your life right now, and I hope you get the help you need to overcome in your life. You have the strength to do it...have faith.

Good luck to you-
G

[Apocalipstic]

When I am wayy stressed, I pull out my eyelashes and my hair fall out all on its own.

[owen4u1904]

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

So sorry you are going through this! So sorry!

You are very brave for talking about it!

Does your family have to be a part of your therapy? It sounds like you could use some one on one time with the therapist till you get your head together.

I wish you all the best and know that we are thinking about you!

I think so, I have already been going by myself. This is my 3rd try and each time I quit before the family starts to come. My family does not discuss things that have made a huge impact in my life. My therapist did say I need to stand up for myself which is a weakness of mine cause I dont.

[Apocalipstic]

Originally Posted by rbentley1904

I think so, I have already been going by myself. This is my 3rd try and each time I quit before the family starts to come. My family does not discuss things that have made a huge impact in my life. My therapist did say I need to stand up for myself which is a weakness of mine cause I dont.

Do you live with your family?

[owen4u1904]

Originally Posted by apocalipstic

Do you live with your family?

Yes I do. I had my daughter without any money and its not that easy trying to save up money when you have to pay bills.

[Medusa]

Rb,
I just wanted to come in here and wish you some love and peace. It sounds like you are going through a lot and need some extra support.
Remember that you are perfect just the way you are, that your history and your trials are all part of that perfection.

I hope you are feeling some love these days. Keep your head up.

huggle,
me

[Rockinonahigh]

Rb
I know how hard it is to deal with family that gives u to no end of probs.Hear we have a place called harmony house its a place for women and kids to stay till they can get on theire feet.They also help with education,Dr,s and gov.assistance of all kinds if u need it,they have job training and job placement.Look around and see if u can find a place like that then see what they can help u with..hear they will pick u up if u need a ride to the place.
I wish they had a place like it when I was 19 cause I shure would have taken advantage of it.Much luck my friend.
Rockin

[owen4u1904]

Originally Posted by Rockinonahigh

Rb
I know how hard it is to deal with family that gives u to no end of probs.Hear we have a place called harmony house its a place for women and kids to stay till they can get on theire feet.They also help with education,Dr,s and gov.assistance of all kinds if u need it,they have job training and job placement.Look around and see if u can find a place like that then see what they can help u with..hear they will pick u up if u need a ride to the place.
I wish they had a place like it when I was 19 cause I shure would have taken advantage of it.Much luck my friend.
Rockin

I actually helped volunteer at an abuse shelter. I asked my trainer if I would quialify (sp?) for it but under the law we have for the house it is only for women who have been physically abused. It has been a good two or three months since we have had a client in our home and I was not thinking about 3 weeks ago when I redid my bathroom and I put the same decor in it. You can find it at K mart and it talks about love, hope, passion, faith, etc.

and Medusa, thank you. I do try to think God would not have given me more then I can handle. I guess the hardest part is not openly discussing everything that has happened. Which is what I want to do so much.