Single FTM's & Femme's

[Jesse]

My ex took belly dancing classes and she loved it. I hope that you do as well!

Originally Posted by EmpressM

I am sooooo excited! I've wanted to try belly dancing since 2001 when I was in India. When the opportunity arose, I jumped on it!

[Trev]

ssshhh it's still early... TGIFryday << would've been me after another day lol

[Bèsame*]

Hmmm...watching the View this morning and the subject of transgender comes up. This weekend on 20/20 it will be discussed. Interesting, it will be a young boy, now becoming a girl. She is 11, but on hormones. She is interested in dating ( at 11 is too young) but it will probably give insight on how to approach it.
Set your DVR' s now

[curlyredhead]

Originally Posted by Uniqueswtfemm

Hmmm...watching the View this morning and the subject of transgender comes up. This weekend on 20/20 it will be discussed. Interesting, it will be a young boy, now becoming a girl. She is 11, but on hormones. She is interested in dating ( at 11 is too young) but it will probably give insight on how to approach it.
Set your DVR' s now

I am openly trans and almost Post OP. I sort of have an issue with kids that young transitioning. Your brain isn't fully developed yet. Its a very sensitive topic in the trans community. If my kid was trans, I would tell them we support you and we love you, but please wait till you are older before you make your decision to start transitioning. As for dating I was 14 before I had my first date, I kissed a boy and I had nightmares for 3 days and dumped him after that.

[GraffitiBoi]

Originally Posted by curlyredhead

I am openly trans and almost Post OP. I sort of have an issue with kids that young transitioning. Your brain isn't fully developed yet. Its a very sensitive topic in the trans community. If my kid was trans, I would tell them we support you and we love you, but please wait till you are older before you make your decision to start transitioning. As for dating I was 14 before I had my first date, I kissed a boy and I had nightmares for 3 days and dumped him after that.

I also have an issue with transitioning that young. I know they want to make the transition easier by starting it before the hormones of the original gender kick in, but I know too many people who have changed their minds after all surgeries were complete. Most of transitioning is not reversible.

I didn't date until I was 14 or 15. Had the same reaction!

[GraffitiBoi]

Popping in to say hi and maybe get some advice. There is a femme I have had a crush on for 2 years now. I never pursued it because she is straight. I found out recently that she actually is interested in me but is unsure of the whole trans thing. She knows I am trans and had told a mutual friend of ours several months ago that she would be interested after I have the final surgery.

Somehow she got the mistaken idea talking to me that I was going to have lower surgery. I am not. The technology for it just isn't good enough (in my opinion) and there are things (sexual) that I like about being female from the waist down and won't trade that if the technology for phalloplasty isn't good enough for me.

When I told this to our friend he actually went back and told her. Somehow he worked it into the conversation naturally. Apparently my 'crush' talks about me a lot with a couple of different friends of ours. They have all come to me and told me about their conversations. Usually if she wants to know something personal she just talks to me. BUT... she has talked to more than one person about being with me. Now she has said (verified by more than one source) that she's interested regardless if I have the surgery or not.

So my dilemma... Do I try and ask her out? I don't think asking her will ruin the friendship. That's pretty strong between us. I don't know if I am brave enough or bold enough to ask her and I'm not sure how to ask her out. I've dated a straight woman before. It was the longest lasting and most loving relationship I have ever had. (That ex told me yesterday that she misses me and would date me again. Sorry, but I'm not interested in going back to her.)

I'm rambling. I'm tired. I have a touch of the flu. LOL But... I will be seeing this person tonight when I go in to work. She's supposed to be coming over to my place sometime soon to pick up some furniture I'm giving to her and she will probably come to my birthday party in a few weeks.

[curlyredhead]

Originally Posted by GraffitiBoi

Popping in to say hi and maybe get some advice. There is a femme I have had a crush on for 2 years now. I never pursued it because she is straight. I found out recently that she actually is interested in me but is unsure of the whole trans thing. She knows I am trans and had told a mutual friend of ours several months ago that she would be interested after I have the final surgery.

Somehow she got the mistaken idea talking to me that I was going to have lower surgery. I am not. The technology for it just isn't good enough (in my opinion) and there are things (sexual) that I like about being female from the waist down and won't trade that if the technology for phalloplasty isn't good enough for me.

When I told this to our friend he actually went back and told her. Somehow he worked it into the conversation naturally. Apparently my 'crush' talks about me a lot with a couple of different friends of ours. They have all come to me and told me about their conversations. Usually if she wants to know something personal she just talks to me. BUT... she has talked to more than one person about being with me. Now she has said (verified by more than one source) that she's interested regardless if I have the surgery or not.

So my dilemma... Do I try and ask her out? I don't think asking her will ruin the friendship. That's pretty strong between us. I don't know if I am brave enough or bold enough to ask her and I'm not sure how to ask her out. I've dated a straight woman before. It was the longest lasting and most loving relationship I have ever had. (That ex told me yesterday that she misses me and would date me again. Sorry, but I'm not interested in going back to her.)

I'm rambling. I'm tired. I have a touch of the flu. LOL But... I will be seeing this person tonight when I go in to work. She's supposed to be coming over to my place sometime soon to pick up some furniture I'm giving to her and she will probably come to my birthday party in a few weeks.

I think you should definitely ask her out man. What have you got to lose? I think a good idea would be nice dinner somewhere its quiet you can talk or maybe going out for some coffee. It's really a win / win situation.

Get to feeling better buddy.

[EmpressM]

{{{{Graffiti}}}}

Here's to a quick recovery! Flu is no fun!

Tread carefully here sugar, but definitely ask her out for something casual where you two can talk. Communication is a key foundation in any relationship, and I would definitely suggest cutting out the middlemen to ensure you are on the same page and nothing is lost in translation.

It's obvious you really like this girl, however I feel it is prudent to identify where she is mentally and emotionally, especially knowing that she is unsure about your being trans. The last thing you want to be is a curiosity to her only to realize later she can't deal, after you are emotionally invested.

A red flag for me in your post was her stating that she would be interested after the final surgery, then stating a different attitude in a conversation with a mutual friend. While humans often change their minds, there's a difference in "waffling" and a definitive change in convictions. Only thorough a face to face interaction are you going to be able to assess where she truly stands. Should all go well, it could be the gateway to setting aside your fears and feeling comfortable asking her out! Having an open, honest conversation will help you determine the best thing for you, and ultimately the future of your relationship with this girl, whether it's staying just friends or something more!

Best of luck on this journey!

Originally Posted by GraffitiBoi

Popping in to say hi and maybe get some advice. There is a femme I have had a crush on for 2 years now. I never pursued it because she is straight. I found out recently that she actually is interested in me but is unsure of the whole trans thing. She knows I am trans and had told a mutual friend of ours several months ago that she would be interested after I have the final surgery.

Somehow she got the mistaken idea talking to me that I was going to have lower surgery. I am not. The technology for it just isn't good enough (in my opinion) and there are things (sexual) that I like about being female from the waist down and won't trade that if the technology for phalloplasty isn't good enough for me.

When I told this to our friend he actually went back and told her. Somehow he worked it into the conversation naturally. Apparently my 'crush' talks about me a lot with a couple of different friends of ours. They have all come to me and told me about their conversations. Usually if she wants to know something personal she just talks to me. BUT... she has talked to more than one person about being with me. Now she has said (verified by more than one source) that she's interested regardless if I have the surgery or not.

So my dilemma... Do I try and ask her out? I don't think asking her will ruin the friendship. That's pretty strong between us. I don't know if I am brave enough or bold enough to ask her and I'm not sure how to ask her out. I've dated a straight woman before. It was the longest lasting and most loving relationship I have ever had. (That ex told me yesterday that she misses me and would date me again. Sorry, but I'm not interested in going back to her.)

I'm rambling. I'm tired. I have a touch of the flu. LOL But... I will be seeing this person tonight when I go in to work. She's supposed to be coming over to my place sometime soon to pick up some furniture I'm giving to her and she will probably come to my birthday party in a few weeks.

[Jesse]

I would not be okay with the hormones were this my child. Generally they prescribe hormone-blocking meds at this age to stop the masculinization process from happening, then provide hormones and surgeries at later dates.

Originally Posted by Uniqueswtfemm

Hmmm...watching the View this morning and the subject of transgender comes up. This weekend on 20/20 it will be discussed. Interesting, it will be a young boy, now becoming a girl. She is 11, but on hormones. She is interested in dating ( at 11 is too young) but it will probably give insight on how to approach it.
Set your DVR' s now

[Trev]

Here's to a great weekend ahead of us...make it wonderful Everyone!

[Trev]

Good morning everyone! Oh how I do love me a Sunday. A much needed hair cut on the books today and probably some yard work. Enjoy this great day and definitely grab an opportunity if it comes along.

[Bèsame*]

Good Afternoon..

Sorta bragging....it's 68 outside.

Grabbing the opportunity to say hello to you and everyone who reads this. Also grabbing a peek at some bull riding..so exciting. However, I think a ride should last longer than 8 seconds

Thinking, I'm also going to grab a bucket and a sponge to wash my car:\

Enjoy the Sunday.

Originally Posted by Trev

Good morning everyone! Oh how I do love me a Sunday. A much needed hair cut on the books today and probably some yard work. Enjoy this great day and definitely grab an opportunity if it comes along.