Relationships - What things do you want & need?

evolveme · 11-18-2009, 08:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by blush

I need someone who can make some kickin' French toast.

Oooo, that is a plus.

Cook. You must be able to cook.

EZ would have thought this -->

looked like toilet paper. (He wears thick glasses for a reason.)

e

MrSunshine · 11-18-2009, 08:07 PM

<-------thought that was an ass

Hudson · 11-18-2009, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Deadyboy

<-------thought that was an ass

thought it was a blue dolphin

hippieflowergirl · 01-28-2010, 12:04 AM

i dont want to be string beans. i want to be dessert.*

i dont want to be a guilty pleasure. i want to be an every day phenomenon.

i dont want to be someone You turn to. i want to be the one You turn to.

i dont want to be treated as though i'm precious or fragile. i want you to sink your teeth into my very real vulnerability and own it savagely, in the same way You own Your own soul.

i am not a princess. that doesnt mean You cant treat me like one on occasion.

i dont want a Love who has no weakness and no tender places. i want a Love who knows that my own little ways and means are strong enough to bolster His momentary hesitation, soothe His deepest hurts, and support His wildest dreams...all without breaking a sweat....or a nail. i also want Him to know...at the cellular level...that i would willingly claw my way through cement to keep Him from harm.

i do not want, need or even desire perfection. i want humanity in abundance, unraveled feelings and confusing discussions and uninhibited tears and laughter and honesty of the brutal variety. i want to hold hands when discussing disappointment and frustration. i want to curl into His shoulder when crying over disappointments and anger. i want to be invited to be flawed and not discounted for it.

i want to feed His body, His desires, His mind and His soul with the poetry of food, fantasy, philosophy and infinity. i do not want to be "all" that He needs. i want to stand, complete in myself, hand in hand with all that He is.

*(long story)

Gemme · 01-28-2010, 07:05 PM

I need plenty of breathing space and my honey to have the patience of a saint while I struggle with the inevitable issues that I have been and will continue to struggle with all of my life. Though we are both very human and fallible, I think I'm pretty lucky in this department.

Mister Bent · 11-18-2009, 08:41 PM

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Originally Posted by evolveme

<snip>

Cook. You must be able to cook.

e

Phew.

Just made it under the wire.

*smack smack*

blush · 11-18-2009, 09:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by evolveme

Cook. You must be able to cook.

e

Right? I'll put up with all kinds of tomfoolery if they can do more than boil water.

blush · 11-18-2009, 09:05 PM

I thought it was a boomerang.

MizzSabra · 11-18-2009, 09:11 PM

I wrote this letter to the Universe on Aug 10th.....Sept 9th I met mi amore. I wasn't going to settle again.

I want someone emotionally available, semi-sane, communicative (without over processing), some form of income (don't have to be rich, but able to pay own bills), plays hard, works hard and still can chill in the house or yard for the day. Not a heavy drinker or addicted. If you are in recovery, awesome, but please be in recovery for a minimum of 5 years. I'm not a heavy drinker (less than once a month), I do smoke pot (mostly for body pain and insomnia) and cigarettes (I am a polite smoker).

I don't necessarily want to live together, space is good. I want someone who I can talk to when I've had a great day or a shitty day and won't be "bothered" with all that. I want someone to share my life with and visa-versa. I want to love and be loved. I don't need another child, I already raised mine, so if you are looking for a Mommy, it's not me. Someone who can appreciate all my Virgo quirks. Someone who can appreciate all (or at least some) my different sides. Someone who loves the outdoors as much as I do (or somewhere close to how much I love the outdoors). Someone who loves animals, but not too much. I'm at my dyke limit of animals right now.

Someone who isn't going to be intimidated by my large collection of power tools. Someone who isn't intimidated by my strength or my weaknesses. Someone who can show emotion. Someone who is kinky or semi-kinky. Someone who can take me in their arms and tell me that they love me. Someone who isn't intimidated by my height and the fact that I love to wear 3 inch heels when I got out. Someone who isn't intimidated by my butch/ftm friends/Unkles. Someone who isn't intimidated by my gayboy friends. Someone who wants to get their hands dirty in the garden with me (or at least pretend you like to get your hands dirty) and appreciate the fruits of our labor. Someone not already in a relationship!

This person is butch or FTM and a top. Switchy is ok too, but not all the time.

Are you this person or do you know someone like this and can handle a 6' tall blonde amazon?

evolveme · 11-18-2009, 09:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by blush

I thought it was a boomerang.

Whatever it is, it is SO freakin' cute!

Gemme · 11-18-2009, 09:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by evolveme

Whatever it is, it is SO freakin' cute!

It's. A. Sock.

<----sock

Dragonfly · 12-31-2009, 02:04 AM

In order of priority I NEED relationship-wise:

Time to really think about this list and come back to edit when I am actually ready to be looking for someone

Honesty~ not kidding I need like 98% or more sincerity even if negative

COMPASSIONATE~ I dont like meanies to anyone anywhere

Love Animals and Kids~ but not too much or in a gross way

Sense of Humor~ cause I am a nerdy dork

Emotionally balanced~ and in tune/ harmony w them

Romantic~ showing how well you know me occasionally not often

Sexually open mouthed~ as in wanting to talk about it not just willing

Conversational~ Starts up a convo with me about something, anything, they are interested in talking about

**Read to me and genuinely like music and art... they are a bonus that gets me to give out bonuses!

*** Everything else would fall into place cause I like to compromise, it makes me feel successful.

T4Texas · 12-31-2009, 04:30 AM

I would want someone who is honest and who can appreciate my brand of honesty which includes telling you things you may not want to hear. I feel if you are both on the same page, you should be able to do that without one or the other feeling offended. Loyalty is also high on the list. When I partner with someone, they are it, there is no other person or reasons for me to stray. If you feel the need to do those things, then finish up your business first and then you can feel free to play. *note this applies to monagamous relationships and I do realize there are many folks who prefer other types of relationships so thats up to them to decide what rules apply to them. Trust is paramount, because if you have no trust you basically have nothing.
Now with all the big important things said, I also would like someone who can cook at least a little bit. (having lived with someone before who couldn't and finding it was a royal pain, this altered my ideas about domesticity.) I also need someone who can have an intelligent conversation. You don't have to be Einstein, but I can converse on a wide range of subjects and like someone similar. My partner of choice is femme. There are no exceptions to that and she also has to be someone who can accept and appreciate my perversions. Last but not least, I have always had two rules of thumb for dating. You must have a job and a place to live. I know that might seem a bit much as not all people can meet that criteria, but to me it shows some attempt at being responsible if you can achieve those things. Its a short list and I believe you can work around most things that come up and find a happy medium most of the time if you care enough for the person. We all have to remember that relationships are a lot of work and both parties have to do the work, not just one.

evolveme · 11-18-2009, 09:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by blush

Right? I'll put up with all kinds of tomfoolery if they can do more than boil water.

No joke, sister.

I may even reconsider how much chit-chatting I will allow.

Maybe.

s do it best,

e

MizzSabra · 11-18-2009, 09:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by evolveme

s do it best,

e

Yes we do.

Whoot! Rubber duckie for me!

evolveme · 11-18-2009, 09:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MizzSabra

Yes we do.

Whoot! Rubber duckie for me!

I know I said it privately, but I wanted to say here to:

I love your love story.

JustLovelyJenn · 11-18-2009, 09:52 PM

You know, this list has changed a lot lately... I finally figured out how much I like being myself. How much I can do all on my own without anyone beside me. When I gained that self confidence... a lot of my desires about the people I involve in my life changed.

NOW...

I want someone who loves me unconditionally for exactly who I am.

Someone who is willing to support me in my endeavors and is willing to be supported in theirs.

Of course the love of my children is a must.

But also the love of children in general. In particular, a willingness to be involved in the lives of teenagers, since I intend to be a High School Choir teacher by the time I get where I'm going.

I want to be able to share moments of difference. Coming together to learn the things the other can teach. Its become more important to me that we are different then the same. There is always common ground if there is love in your heart. But I need someone who loves themselves and is passionate about their life, and lets me be the same way about mine.

I guess, most importantly... I need that tingling feeling, to quote one of my favorite movies (brownie points if you get this) I want the "foot poppin' kiss".

SouthernStud · 12-25-2010, 10:17 AM

i would make a negotiation on the cooking part...ill be ya cookin daddy if u do the cleanin!!! Now it wouldnt be exactly fair for me to do all the work....and that includes ALL aspects...not just cookin and cleanin!!! Use ur brains for just a moment...ahhh it just dawned on u what i was saying. Thats right,i said it...if i can cook for my woman and occasionally clean,then u can save a horse and ride a cowboy...cuz thats just SEXY AS FUK!!!!!

little_ms_sunshyne · 12-25-2010, 12:39 PM

Hmmmm...Hadnt seen this thread...

Wants & Needs

~ A great sense of humor (although I am pretty easy to make laugh)

~ Optimisitc

~ A warm smile

~ Kind to others

~ Telling Eyes

~ A nice bottom lip that I can tug on when we kiss

~ Ambitious

~ Someone who is not afraid to take control...

~but can sit back and watch me when I decide to...

~ Gentleman

~Passionate, Lustful, and Loving (yes rolled up into one)

~ Someone I can drive nuts on a regular basis

Is this too much to ask for?? lol Oh and if they are my height or taller a plus

Ok done...just saying..We can dream right?

nicetgurl_30 · 12-25-2010, 01:31 PM

Let's see I'm older now so:

Honest
Family-centered
Sense of humor
Likes God
Playful "trying new things"
Has a job
Likes artsy things
And my obsessive need to practice tantric things
*stayin in bed on rainin days ( I have no tv in bedroom) u get the hint...
Communicate To Me

01-28-2010, 07:05 PM	#5
Gemme Practically Lives Here How Do You Identify?: Queer Stone Femme Girl of the Unicorn Variety Preferred Pronoun?: She, as in 'She's a GEM' Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: The roads are narrow here Posts: 36,631 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 182,498 Thanked 107,971 Times in 25,664 Posts Rep Power: 21474888	I need plenty of breathing space and my honey to have the patience of a saint while I struggle with the inevitable issues that I have been and will continue to struggle with all of my life. Though we are both very human and fallible, I think I'm pretty lucky in this department. __________________ Gemme's Journal I'm misunderestimated.

11-18-2009, 09:05 PM	#8
blush Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: she Relationship Status: I'm with goofy. Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 911 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 962 Thanked 2,375 Times in 616 Posts Rep Power: 15632317	I thought it was a boomerang. __________________ "We never forget those who make us blush." Jean-Francois de la Harpe

12-31-2009, 02:04 AM	#12
Dragonfly Member How Do You Identify?: Queersexual Female Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: smiling real big Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: My Own House Illinois Posts: 330 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 871 Thanked 346 Times in 151 Posts Rep Power: 645438	I want In order of priority I NEED relationship-wise: Time to really think about this list and come back to edit when I am actually ready to be looking for someone Honesty~ not kidding I need like 98% or more sincerity even if negative COMPASSIONATE~ I dont like meanies to anyone anywhere Love Animals and Kids~ but not too much or in a gross way Sense of Humor~ cause I am a nerdy dork Emotionally balanced~ and in tune/ harmony w them Romantic~ showing how well you know me occasionally not often Sexually open mouthed~ as in wanting to talk about it not just willing Conversational~ Starts up a convo with me about something, anything, they are interested in talking about Read to me and genuinely like music and art... they are a bonus that gets me to give out bonuses! * Everything else would fall into place cause I like to compromise, it makes me feel successful. __________________ Stay Gold.

12-31-2009, 04:30 AM	#13
T4Texas Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Relationship Status: Ready to play again! Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Texas Posts: 233 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 436 Thanked 647 Times in 167 Posts Rep Power: 6739721	I would want someone who is honest and who can appreciate my brand of honesty which includes telling you things you may not want to hear. I feel if you are both on the same page, you should be able to do that without one or the other feeling offended. Loyalty is also high on the list. When I partner with someone, they are it, there is no other person or reasons for me to stray. If you feel the need to do those things, then finish up your business first and then you can feel free to play. *note this applies to monagamous relationships and I do realize there are many folks who prefer other types of relationships so thats up to them to decide what rules apply to them. Trust is paramount, because if you have no trust you basically have nothing. Now with all the big important things said, I also would like someone who can cook at least a little bit. (having lived with someone before who couldn't and finding it was a royal pain, this altered my ideas about domesticity.) I also need someone who can have an intelligent conversation. You don't have to be Einstein, but I can converse on a wide range of subjects and like someone similar. My partner of choice is femme. There are no exceptions to that and she also has to be someone who can accept and appreciate my perversions. Last but not least, I have always had two rules of thumb for dating. You must have a job and a place to live. I know that might seem a bit much as not all people can meet that criteria, but to me it shows some attempt at being responsible if you can achieve those things. Its a short list and I believe you can work around most things that come up and find a happy medium most of the time if you care enough for the person. We all have to remember that relationships are a lot of work and both parties have to do the work, not just one. __________________ Chivalry is when you meet a woman you would rather die for, than live with.

11-18-2009, 09:52 PM	#17
JustLovelyJenn Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Femme Preferred Pronoun?: She/her Relationship Status: That's Need to Know Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Aberdeen, WA Posts: 4,478 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 12,464 Thanked 13,992 Times in 3,684 Posts Rep Power: 21474856	You know, this list has changed a lot lately... I finally figured out how much I like being myself. How much I can do all on my own without anyone beside me. When I gained that self confidence... a lot of my desires about the people I involve in my life changed. NOW... I want someone who loves me unconditionally for exactly who I am. Someone who is willing to support me in my endeavors and is willing to be supported in theirs. Of course the love of my children is a must. But also the love of children in general. In particular, a willingness to be involved in the lives of teenagers, since I intend to be a High School Choir teacher by the time I get where I'm going. I want to be able to share moments of difference. Coming together to learn the things the other can teach. Its become more important to me that we are different then the same. There is always common ground if there is love in your heart. But I need someone who loves themselves and is passionate about their life, and lets me be the same way about mine. I guess, most importantly... I need that tingling feeling, to quote one of my favorite movies (brownie points if you get this) I want the "foot poppin' kiss". __________________ --Jenn

11-18-2009, 08:07 PM	#2
MrSunshine Senior Member How Do You Identify?: The Gardner Preferred Pronoun?: Ummmm Relationship Status: Nah Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Sunshine State, State of Sunshine Posts: 2,616 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,577 Thanked 3,891 Times in 1,155 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	<-------thought that was an ass

01-28-2010, 12:04 AM	#4
hippieflowergirl Member How Do You Identify?: ~ Preferred Pronoun?: ~ Relationship Status: ~ Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: ~ Posts: 424 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 461 Thanked 467 Times in 176 Posts Rep Power: 274206	i dont want to be string beans. i want to be dessert.* i dont want to be a guilty pleasure. i want to be an every day phenomenon. i dont want to be someone You turn to. i want to be the one You turn to. i dont want to be treated as though i'm precious or fragile. i want you to sink your teeth into my very real vulnerability and own it savagely, in the same way You own Your own soul. i am not a princess. that doesnt mean You cant treat me like one on occasion. i dont want a Love who has no weakness and no tender places. i want a Love who knows that my own little ways and means are strong enough to bolster His momentary hesitation, soothe His deepest hurts, and support His wildest dreams...all without breaking a sweat....or a nail. i also want Him to know...at the cellular level...that i would willingly claw my way through cement to keep Him from harm. i do not want, need or even desire perfection. i want humanity in abundance, unraveled feelings and confusing discussions and uninhibited tears and laughter and honesty of the brutal variety. i want to hold hands when discussing disappointment and frustration. i want to curl into His shoulder when crying over disappointments and anger. i want to be invited to be flawed and not discounted for it. i want to feed His body, His desires, His mind and His soul with the poetry of food, fantasy, philosophy and infinity. i do not want to be "all" that He needs. i want to stand, complete in myself, hand in hand with all that He is. *(long story)

11-18-2009, 09:11 PM	#9
MizzSabra Member How Do You Identify?: N/a Relationship Status: N/A Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: N/A Posts: 107 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 16 Thanked 111 Times in 41 Posts Rep Power: 60798	I wrote this letter to the Universe on Aug 10th.....Sept 9th I met mi amore. I wasn't going to settle again. I want someone emotionally available, semi-sane, communicative (without over processing), some form of income (don't have to be rich, but able to pay own bills), plays hard, works hard and still can chill in the house or yard for the day. Not a heavy drinker or addicted. If you are in recovery, awesome, but please be in recovery for a minimum of 5 years. I'm not a heavy drinker (less than once a month), I do smoke pot (mostly for body pain and insomnia) and cigarettes (I am a polite smoker). I don't necessarily want to live together, space is good. I want someone who I can talk to when I've had a great day or a shitty day and won't be "bothered" with all that. I want someone to share my life with and visa-versa. I want to love and be loved. I don't need another child, I already raised mine, so if you are looking for a Mommy, it's not me. Someone who can appreciate all my Virgo quirks. Someone who can appreciate all (or at least some) my different sides. Someone who loves the outdoors as much as I do (or somewhere close to how much I love the outdoors). Someone who loves animals, but not too much. I'm at my dyke limit of animals right now. Someone who isn't going to be intimidated by my large collection of power tools. Someone who isn't intimidated by my strength or my weaknesses. Someone who can show emotion. Someone who is kinky or semi-kinky. Someone who can take me in their arms and tell me that they love me. Someone who isn't intimidated by my height and the fact that I love to wear 3 inch heels when I got out. Someone who isn't intimidated by my butch/ftm friends/Unkles. Someone who isn't intimidated by my gayboy friends. Someone who wants to get their hands dirty in the garden with me (or at least pretend you like to get your hands dirty) and appreciate the fruits of our labor. Someone not already in a relationship! This person is butch or FTM and a top. Switchy is ok too, but not all the time. Are you this person or do you know someone like this and can handle a 6' tall blonde amazon?

12-25-2010, 10:17 AM	#18
SouthernStud Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Badass Stud Preferred Pronoun?: Master Relationship Status: Want one but no real female willin to step up and treat me like the king to their queen..... Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Here Posts: 95 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 8 Thanked 73 Times in 30 Posts Rep Power: 0	i would make a negotiation on the cooking part...ill be ya cookin daddy if u do the cleanin!!! Now it wouldnt be exactly fair for me to do all the work....and that includes ALL aspects...not just cookin and cleanin!!! Use ur brains for just a moment...ahhh it just dawned on u what i was saying. Thats right,i said it...if i can cook for my woman and occasionally clean,then u can save a horse and ride a cowboy...cuz thats just SEXY AS FUK!!!!!

12-25-2010, 12:39 PM	#19
little_ms_sunshyne Senior Member How Do You Identify?: . Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: . Posts: 3,312 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 13,339 Thanked 12,241 Times in 2,541 Posts Rep Power: 21474854	Hmmmm...Hadnt seen this thread... Wants & Needs ~ A great sense of humor (although I am pretty easy to make laugh) ~ Optimisitc ~ A warm smile ~ Kind to others ~ Telling Eyes ~ A nice bottom lip that I can tug on when we kiss ~ Ambitious ~ Someone who is not afraid to take control... ~but can sit back and watch me when I decide to... ~ Gentleman ~Passionate, Lustful, and Loving (yes rolled up into one) ~ Someone I can drive nuts on a regular basis Is this too much to ask for?? lol Oh and if they are my height or taller a plus Ok done...just saying..We can dream right?

12-25-2010, 01:31 PM	#20
nicetgurl_30 Member How Do You Identify?: Woman Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: Single Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: AR Posts: 133 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 122 Thanked 214 Times in 89 Posts Rep Power: 295940	List D Let's see I'm older now so: Honest Family-centered Sense of humor Likes God Playful "trying new things" Has a job Likes artsy things And my obsessive need to practice tantric things *stayin in bed on rainin days ( I have no tv in bedroom) u get the hint... Communicate To Me