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Old 08-10-2013, 09:24 AM   #1
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I answered a singles ad once, we chatted for a while and decided to meet. She asked if I was a white woman. I said yes, and she replied "we'll see". I laughed and we met later that day for lunch. The first thing she said was "you really are white! " " yes, and I glow in the dark. " I replied. Seems she preferred white women for various reasons, but was partnered with women of various cultures in the past. It may not be PC or even polite, but not everyone needs to be. I have preferences also. It is important to me to be able to understand not only how someone likes their coffee in the morning , but whether we are compatible culturally. It relates to our race, our socioeconomic status, our religious education and beliefs, our education levels, whether we were bottle or breast fed.


There are probably on average 1,000 different variables on what attracts us to a potential lover, for lack of a crystal ball, we start with what we are most familiar. The face we see in the morning while we brush our teeth.

We may fall in love with an exotic face down the road, but until we are in a more comfortable space with the unknown, we will continue to go with the familiar.

PC or not. Like it or not. Very few of us grow up in a cosmopolitan, egalitarian home. Very few of us grow up eating cuisine from around the world. It's a miracle we can find a lover who sticks it out after the honeymoon. Let alone after the "you didn't replace the toilet paper" incident.
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I answered a singles ad once, we chatted for a while and decided to meet. She asked if I was a white woman. I said yes, and she replied "we'll see". I laughed and we met later that day for lunch. The first thing she said was "you really are white! " " yes, and I glow in the dark. " I replied. Seems she preferred white women for various reasons, but was partnered with women of various cultures in the past. It may not be PC or even polite, but not everyone needs to be. I have preferences also. It is important to me to be able to understand not only how someone likes their coffee in the morning , but whether we are compatible culturally. It relates to our race, our socioeconomic status, our religious education and beliefs, our education levels, whether we were bottle or breast fed.


There are probably on average 1,000 different variables on what attracts us to a potential lover, for lack of a crystal ball, we start with what we are most familiar. The face we see in the morning while we brush our teeth.

We may fall in love with an exotic face down the road, but until we are in a more comfortable space with the unknown, we will continue to go with the familiar.

PC or not. Like it or not. Very few of us grow up in a cosmopolitan, egalitarian home. Very few of us grow up eating cuisine from around the world. It's a miracle we can find a lover who sticks it out after the honeymoon. Let alone after the "you didn't replace the toilet paper" incident.
Sweet Bliss, I agree. IMHO I don't think Snowinghawk meant anything racial about it. Its just their personal preference.
I am not racial at all! I have many ethnicities in my family and love everyone equally. But when it comes to partnering or dating, I do have a certain "type" I am attracted to. I am not attracted to other femmes. Nor am I fond of multiple facial piercings or facial tattoos. That's not saying I would wouldn't befriend the person, but I wouldn't be attracted to them in general as partner potential.
That's the great thing about this site. We can all like or dislike anything and everything or nothing at all. As long as we aren't degrading or calling out a certain race or characteristic in someone and are respectful, our personal tastes/preferences are just that....OUR preferences. We don't all have to agree-just be respectful.
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Old 08-10-2013, 10:41 AM   #3
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If you don't fit the description of what I am looking for it's probably better to just pass.

Well, the good news for you and me is that I think I do fit the description - in that I'm white with dark hair (I did have copper highlights in my early twenties - hope that is okay?) and I'm possibly in the femme camp as you've kindly referred to me as one of "ladies" in post # 457.

Alas, I'm not within a short distance of Columbus, OH ..... otherwise, we'd likely be making love with each other in the kitchen just now.



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It may not be PC or even polite, but not everyone needs to be. I have preferences also. It is important to me to be able to understand not only how someone likes their coffee in the morning , but whether we are compatible culturally. It relates to our race, our socioeconomic status, our religious education and beliefs, our education levels, whether we were bottle or breast fed.

There are probably on average 1,000 different variables on what attracts us to a potential lover, for lack of a crystal ball, we start with what we are most familiar. The face we see in the morning while we brush our teeth.

We may fall in love with an exotic face down the road, but until we are in a more comfortable space with the unknown, we will continue to go with the familiar.

PC or not. Like it or not. Very few of us grow up in a cosmopolitan, egalitarian home. Very few of us grow up eating cuisine from around the world. It's a miracle we can find a lover who sticks it out after the honeymoon. Let alone after the "you didn't replace the toilet paper" incident.

I'm not sure that's true - well, I cannot speak generally but certainly from my perspective. I am culturally insular and far from PC - I will continue to be so. I grew up in an almost 100% monocultural, white British-Irish environment and, whilst I now live in a large cosmopolitan city, it's that monocultural environment that I yearn for and will always be home.


However, for me in terms of relationships, differences often attract. Doesn't necessarily mean a polar opposite but, certainly, I would run a mile (actually, more like a marathon) if I ever stumbled upon some sort of femme equivalent of me who had similar background, status, religion etc.
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Being one of those artsy types, and being very visual, what attracts me initially is visual. Words on a screen, a pleasant face, or photo. Here at bfp it's usually the words on the screen. Not everyone posts a photo. Me included. That's due to my lack of techie skills.

Only once has someone posted a photo that sent me reeling with unrequited love. So anyhoo, its the tall dark handsome types that attract me usually. The opposite of me. The intellectual types with dry sense of humour, strong hands that play musical instruments. Someone with a strong lap to sit upon. There are loads of other things, at least a 1,000.

But that doesn't mean that's the one I fall for. It is usually undefinable, mysterious, and on the quirky side.

Would love to meet "the one " . Hasn't happened. Que sera.
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Being one of those artsy types, and being very visual, what attracts me initially is visual. Words on a screen, a pleasant face, or photo. Here at bfp it's usually the words on the screen. Not everyone posts a photo. Me included. That's due to my lack of techie skills.

Only once has someone posted a photo that sent me reeling with unrequited love. So anyhoo, its the tall dark handsome types that attract me usually. The opposite of me. The intellectual types with dry sense of humour, strong hands that play musical instruments. Someone with a strong lap to sit upon. There are loads of other things, at least a 1,000.

But that doesn't mean that's the one I fall for. It is usually undefinable, mysterious, and on the quirky side.

Would love to meet "the one " . Hasn't happened. Que sera.
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I like snowinghawk, have ideas about what, trips my trigger. I also use the phrase, I want settle for less. Not that the things that don't trip my trigger, make a femme "less than". It's the idea that I won't settle for less than what I want or am looking for. It doesn't have anything to do with anyone being or being made to feel less than. There are features I am not typically attracted to. Then again there are some femmes that have those features, but something else stands out about them.

I'm picky, all my friends tell me I'm to picky. Guess what, I'm the same way about cars, dogs, guns and clothes. If it's not what I want then I don't want it.

snowinghawk, welcome to your first crash course in learning to pick your words. God knows it has taken me years to learn how to pick the right words on the forum. I still mess up sometime. I just think "everybody" knows what I'm talking about and in real time they would.
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Aye Blade, I get ya.

I try be careful to pick my words here too. On a forum, our intent as we type, is not always apparent.

I just open my mouth and change feet in real life
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