The Booty Call.

Ginger · 10-19-2013, 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by GeeGina

I was weak. I caved, gave in, surrendered to temptation, and otherwise did that thing I swore I would not ever do again.

Answer the Booty Call.

It was late, I had some wine, and when my phone buzzed I knew that was her on the other end. Who else calls at 11:30 - then follows up with a text saying "Pick up, baby"?

Maybe it was the wine, maybe it was Friday, maybe I was just feeling frisky...but I took the call and against my better judgement, was no less than 10 minutes later in a cab headed to her place.

Funny thing is that I don't feel guilty. I got what I needed, gave her what she needed and left next morning without a lot of fuss or muss. I vowed not to do this again...but am actually glad I did. My belief is that avoiding this person - a total player, by the way - gave her all the power. Today, I feel like I took some of it back for myself.

That said, I don't think I'm going back there again. The spell is broken.

Next time maybe she can do the cab part.

imperfect_cupcake · 10-19-2013, 01:20 PM

I think booty calls are great. both people get what they need.

people.seem to think there is no "feeling" or connection involved but that's not true. I don't have sex with people I don't feel attracted to or momentarily connected to. its a shared connection for an evening and it can be friendly and mutually beneficial. no one is "using" you or you "using" them. that's like saying someone isn't enjoying themselves and one is "making" the other person be there by force, lies or coersion. last time I checked, the last person I had a booty call with had a good time and got what she needed sexually. so how were either one of us used and what on earth should either of us feel guilty about?

I'm actually pretty shocked things have gotten so conservative over the years. it used to be when I was younger, that friendly no strings sex was actually encouraged. I was encouraged to have sexual experiences with people and my friends to find out what I liked and wanted sexually.
that getting to know someone sexually was just as important as getting to know someone emotionally and intellectually before making a commitment. and if it didn't work out you parted without calling each other of being a player.

a player is a confidence trickster who uses promises of love for sex and lies about other involvements. not someone who is above board and doesn't make declarations of love or promises of Fidelity before you know each other well enough.

I like booty calls and have a great respect for them. I did have one here briefly for a few weeks. shed call late on sat and ask to come over. wed have a couple of beer in the kitchen and then head to bed, have a shag, sleep, I'd get up and putter around doing what I needed to do and make her breakfast when she got up and shed go home. ideal if you ask me.

I'd love another one. or even a weekender booty holiday for someone out of town who comes through now and again. I'd love that while I'm single.

I do find it odd that single people can't get their needs met in a friendly and above board way. wtf happened? it used to be perfectly acceptable. I find them rarer than hens teeth now. hello, I'd like to have friendly connected sex and include breakfast. if it goes well we can do the same thing again next week or every other week or every third week. you are a nice person who is horny, I'm a nice person who is horny. let's have nice person horny sex together.

why is this difficult now?

imperfect_cupcake · 10-19-2013, 01:25 PM

and yes, etiquette dictates for booty call, that if she call you and asked you to come over in a cab, she should have paid the fair home.

PoeticSilence · 10-19-2013, 03:38 PM

When I was younger, I had my fair share of booty calls, and yeah, it was very acceptable and maybe even expected that single people participated in them. It wasn't any big secret, and sometimes we'd find out a few of us were all "seeing" the same person, and I don't remember there being any jealousy or bad feelings about it. I remember getting into a relationship that lasted seven years and when it ended, I looked up one of my old "friends with benefits" and spent the night with her. It was like those seven years didn't happen.

I don't know the situation, maybe it's an ex, and those can be awkward, but I still see them as doable. Just make sure you communicate.

imperfect_cupcake · 10-19-2013, 03:49 PM

oof, recent exes... yeah. I wouldn't advise booty calls with them. I've wound up in very bad positions because of that.

Old exes? sure, why not. it's propper over and if there's still some physical attraction, you know it won't get complicated.

And some of my longest and closest long term relationships started with casual sex.

free-to-be · 10-24-2013, 12:33 PM

And a booty call should STAY a booty call. Honestly is definitely the best policy!

Wrang1er · 10-24-2013, 02:23 PM

Is there a booty call list?

DapperButch · 10-24-2013, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Wrang1er

Is there a booty call list?

Yes. See cara for the list. For some reason she put herself on there 3 times. I am not sure what that is about.

cara · 10-24-2013, 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by DapperButch

Yes. See cara for the list. For some reason she put herself on there 3 times. I am not sure what that is about.

LOL!

10-19-2013, 01:20 PM	#2
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,711 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	I think booty calls are great. both people get what they need. people.seem to think there is no "feeling" or connection involved but that's not true. I don't have sex with people I don't feel attracted to or momentarily connected to. its a shared connection for an evening and it can be friendly and mutually beneficial. no one is "using" you or you "using" them. that's like saying someone isn't enjoying themselves and one is "making" the other person be there by force, lies or coersion. last time I checked, the last person I had a booty call with had a good time and got what she needed sexually. so how were either one of us used and what on earth should either of us feel guilty about? I'm actually pretty shocked things have gotten so conservative over the years. it used to be when I was younger, that friendly no strings sex was actually encouraged. I was encouraged to have sexual experiences with people and my friends to find out what I liked and wanted sexually. that getting to know someone sexually was just as important as getting to know someone emotionally and intellectually before making a commitment. and if it didn't work out you parted without calling each other of being a player. a player is a confidence trickster who uses promises of love for sex and lies about other involvements. not someone who is above board and doesn't make declarations of love or promises of Fidelity before you know each other well enough. I like booty calls and have a great respect for them. I did have one here briefly for a few weeks. shed call late on sat and ask to come over. wed have a couple of beer in the kitchen and then head to bed, have a shag, sleep, I'd get up and putter around doing what I needed to do and make her breakfast when she got up and shed go home. ideal if you ask me. I'd love another one. or even a weekender booty holiday for someone out of town who comes through now and again. I'd love that while I'm single. I do find it odd that single people can't get their needs met in a friendly and above board way. wtf happened? it used to be perfectly acceptable. I find them rarer than hens teeth now. hello, I'd like to have friendly connected sex and include breakfast. if it goes well we can do the same thing again next week or every other week or every third week. you are a nice person who is horny, I'm a nice person who is horny. let's have nice person horny sex together. why is this difficult now? Last edited by imperfect_cupcake; 10-19-2013 at 01:22 PM.

10-19-2013, 03:38 PM	#4
PoeticSilence Member How Do You Identify?: dodges labels Relationship Status: Estranged Join Date: Jul 2013 Location: Midwest Posts: 454 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 3 Thanked 918 Times in 277 Posts Rep Power: 10661584	When I was younger, I had my fair share of booty calls, and yeah, it was very acceptable and maybe even expected that single people participated in them. It wasn't any big secret, and sometimes we'd find out a few of us were all "seeing" the same person, and I don't remember there being any jealousy or bad feelings about it. I remember getting into a relationship that lasted seven years and when it ended, I looked up one of my old "friends with benefits" and spent the night with her. It was like those seven years didn't happen. I don't know the situation, maybe it's an ex, and those can be awkward, but I still see them as doable. Just make sure you communicate. __________________ Love is all you need.

10-19-2013, 01:25 PM	#3
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,711 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	and yes, etiquette dictates for booty call, that if she call you and asked you to come over in a cab, she should have paid the fair home.

10-19-2013, 03:49 PM	#5
imperfect_cupcake Senior Member How Do You Identify?: feminine dolly dyke Preferred Pronoun?: Your Grace Relationship Status: I put my own care first Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: In a gauze of mystery Posts: 1,776 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,426 Thanked 9,711 Times in 1,611 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	oof, recent exes... yeah. I wouldn't advise booty calls with them. I've wound up in very bad positions because of that. Old exes? sure, why not. it's propper over and if there's still some physical attraction, you know it won't get complicated. And some of my longest and closest long term relationships started with casual sex.

10-24-2013, 12:33 PM	#6
free-to-be Junior Member How Do You Identify?: as myself Preferred Pronoun?: She, her Relationship Status: depends on the day..... Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: suburbia Posts: 19 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 28 Thanked 31 Times in 14 Posts Rep Power: 22374	And a booty call should STAY a booty call. Honestly is definitely the best policy!

10-24-2013, 02:23 PM	#7
Wrang1er Senior Member How Do You Identify?: Me, myself and I Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Here Posts: 1,526 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 6,112 Thanked 7,043 Times in 1,354 Posts Rep Power: 21474850	Is there a booty call list?