The Booty Call.

[LexiLove]

I used to be really good at booty calls. Haha. Meaning, I would have no feelings hurt, have fun, and just go home. I am older now, have kids, (if I am ever single again) I am not sure I could actually deal with booty calls anymore. I have two extra hearts to think about now.

[imperfect_cupcake]

I didn't think I could when I was married. but now, being in the position of never getting any sex/sexual physical contact, when I did have the opportunity for someone I sexually clicked with but didn't really have enough in common with to want to be romantic with - she was *really* into footie [soccar] and her whole life was about it. she was funny and an enjoyable chat for 90 mintues, before the footie chat started up lol and she had a good dominant vibe in bed. She did what *she* liked to do and enjoyed that I completely got off without much effort (because she was doing what she wanted... so... I could reach my bonna 40 times over no matter what she was doing)
And to me that's what makes a good bootycall. good sex, not really enough in common to provide much interest beyond that. but enough to have a good, fun natter and a laugh.

I can't be romantically interested in someone who doesn't talk much or we run out of things to talk about or I'm not very interested in their favourite subjects. Some people like the strong silent type that stares into your eyes. I can do that for a few seconds here and there and enjoy it, but not really much after that. I kind of start wondering if there's something in my eye.

I need to spend quality time hanging out, talking, being emotionally intimate, not just phsyically for me to fall for someone. so if the friendship, time, talk and hanging out isn't there along with sex... I can't fall in love. I need all of it. it's easier for me now. because I'm no longer mistaking verbal proclamations for reality. or great physical chemistry for more than that. I know how to emotionally hang back pieces of myself while enjoying and connecting and being appreciative and friendly.

I don't open myself up to fall in love unless I can have sex, friendship, quality time together, laughter and open emotional sharing and talking about our lives. It just won't happen. Insterting tab A into slot B with a nice chat won't make me fall madly in love.

I do recall people thinking it would though... after all, touching me with your magic phallus/butch cock will make me want to follow you around the globe, pining for your babies. ... *eyeball roll*
and weirdly, those are the ones that call me a slut for not feeling that way....

[GeeGina]

I don't need to have love to have sex. Yes - it's way better when I care about the person I'm enjoying it with, but not always required.

In fact, sex can be pretty damn good when there isn't a strong emotional component. That moment in time when two people are in the same space of mind at the same time and just want to get laid. No one's trying to reconnect, or respond to the other's larger emotional needs...it's just plain lust.

When I was in college and "out" in every sense of the word - out of the house, out of the closet, out in a new city, out on my own - I thrived on booty calls and hook ups. There wasn't much left after school and two jobs, so the casual hook up was a great way to blow off a little steam. I waited tables a girl bar here in Philly, so meeting people wasn't a problem. Another benefit was learning to expand my taste in partners.

I'm still a believer in the idea that whatever happens between consenting adults is their business. I also think it's fun to give in to those base urges we all have...every once in a while. Two people have to be on the same page, though. My mistake in the past with my recent booty call was being too emotionally involved. That blows up the simple beauty of the booty call/hook up.